my ex and i broke up in january but we got back together in April for about a month...we broke up again but my feelings have never disappeared. he knows i still love him but he has a gf. it kills me seeing them together but i can never get away from it as we have the same friends who we are with most of the time. i cry myself to sleep most nights thinking about him and there's no way i can forget about him as he seems to even be in my dreams...when we initally broke up in january he told me it was because he wasnt ready for a serious relationship but wanted me back in a couple of years when he was ready for one because he loved me but now i dont know what he feels as he ignores me when we see each other. please help me i think im going mad!
i love him so much and all i want is him back but he's way out of my league!
2007-06-20 09:25:58 · 16 answers · asked by Dan :) 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do both of you a favor, and his new girl friend, and step out of the picture. I know that sounds brutal, but it will be the best thing for all of you. You are better than him, especially when he broke up with you, but put you on the line, saying in a couple of years he might want you back. He's not good enough for you. My husband stays in close touch with his ex's and it hurts me and my feelings, because it shows that he can't move on with his life and that I'm not special enough to him that he will walk away from his ex's. Do you really want to hurt his gf? What has she done to you, except start dating your ex when you both mutually had broken up. Move on with your life and make a great future for yourself and the man that you'll love forever will come after all that hurt is gone. it just takes time, be patient and the right guy will come soon!
2007-06-20 09:37:28 · answer #1 · answered by jenniksims 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
although you don't see it because you still care for him, it sounds like this guy is a creep. as far as i'm consurned if you love someone whole heartedly then you will do whatever it takes to be together. the fact that he said he wasn't ready for a serious relationship makes me think he wants to keep you on the side lines pinning away for him. he probably gets off on the attention even though he doesn't pay much attention to you. you really need to move on. spend time with your mutual friends when you know he isn't going to be around. get rid of all the little things you have that remind you of him. start fresh! try and meet new people not just for a relationship but for new friendships as well. it's hard but you shouldn't let him get you down. whenever you start to miss him remind yourself of all the awful things he's done to you and is doing to you now. you can email me if you want to talk more. i've been in this situation more than once. good luck!!!
2007-06-20 09:33:53 · answer #2 · answered by Bonzilla!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If what he told you was true (about waiting til ready for serious relationships) then this girl is probably of no substance. She's probably just a fling and he'll get bored with her soon. What you need to do is continue to improve yourself and your self-esteem. If a guy senses that you believe him to be "outta your league" then he will walk all over you, thinkng you'll put up with anything to keep him (trust me, been there). If you improve yourself (get a better job, go to/back to college, change your look, etc), the self-esteem will come naturally, and he'll wonder why he let go of such a great catch... or you might find someone even better than him! Good luck to you!
2007-06-20 09:33:46 · answer #3 · answered by Just gorgeous dahling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I knos you don't want to hear it but you have to move on! Crying yourself to sleep is not a way to live your life.. I'm sure hes not doing the same thing, agreed? I have been through this and the only way I was able to move on was to cut all ties with mutual friends and completely cut off contact from him in all ways. It took about a month but I'm glad I did it because now I am over him, I have new friends, and was also able to explain to my old friends what happened and regain their friendships as well. Now when I see him I just say hi like nothing ever happened and go on with my life.
2007-06-20 09:30:54 · answer #4 · answered by Chris10 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all don't say he is out of your league. give yourself more props than that. second it's only been 2 months since your last break-up give yourself time to breathe. He told you he wasn't ready for something serious but now he has a new girlfriend? Sounds like a cop-out to me. If his love for you was as strong as yours for him, he would have left this new girl already. I mean come on, he can't be too attached to her in this short of a time. Consider him a chapter in your life that is closed. Learn from it and keep movin on.
2007-06-20 09:30:15 · answer #5 · answered by Cynthia L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
...go see a therapist and get some deep helpful skills to help you combat the feelings that have serendipitied your heart to this ungrateful fellow here darling. He's doing nothing that's considered to be illegal or nothing darling. Find a new circle of friends that he doesn't hang with either. I know this crap sucks darling...cause we've all been where you are at one time or another in our lives really! You're not alone sweety. Go see some real good friends and get busy and get positive about yourself here...and do it often. Are we cool babe?
2007-06-20 09:33:34 · answer #6 · answered by scott s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a deep breath........and let him go. He has moved on and now you need to also. I'm not saying get a new bf just move on with yours. Find a hobby, hang out with the girls etc. Trust me MEN are not worth our tears!! Good Luck
2007-06-20 09:31:35 · answer #7 · answered by to_sassy4_u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen girl that boy ..just acting smart u better move on in life
these r all excuses as im not serious u wait for me
he has too take care of u if he likes u r cares bout u
remembeer u better take care of ur self otherwise no one will take care of urself
2007-06-20 09:37:07 · answer #8 · answered by ladybird 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is with someone, why would you try to still be with him and even if you happen to change his mind and make him take you; why would you want to be with someone who can change there mind that fast? think about it and if you are still not sure let me clear it up .. find someone else and move on other wise dont intervene and wait to see if they break up on there own then make a move as soon as it happens.
2007-06-20 09:31:17 · answer #9 · answered by Sam D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does he have to be out of YOUR league?? Maybe he is out of yours. My theory on relationships is that if it doesn't work out the first time, it probably wont the second. Or in your case third. Maybe its time to move on...
2007-06-20 09:32:56 · answer #10 · answered by Kelly m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋