should i....or shouldn't i? this is such a dilemma!!!!?

Question

Well, I really like one of my good friends.
Ive known him now for 10 months, we get on so well, its always been like this even since the first time we met!!!!
We’ve already been on a few dates…but I asked him out on them…that was earlier on in the year since then we have made out loads…practically every time we see each other!
We text/instant message at least 3 times a week and even though all this has happened its been 10 months and NOTHING has happened. People who know him have said that im going to have to make the first move if I want anything more because when it comes to things like this he gets all shy and doesn’t really like to show his ‘true’ feelings but I don’t know how he will react to it
I want to tell him how I feel, because I really like him, but I am
afraid of
1) Rejection; which leads to extreme embarrassment
2) Awkwardness; Whether he likes me or not, I'm afraid that this might ruin our friendship.

I don't know if I should just continue flirting with him (as I
currently do when I see him)

Also, how can I tell him and slip it into to conversation without scaring him…what would be the best thing to say if I do go ahead with it all? Grace x x x

Answer 1

Go for it! Don't be afraid to tell him how you feel. I never once regreted telling a guy how I felt about him. Maybe he feels the same way about you and if he is shy maybe he doesnt know who to tell you. Be upfront about it--just come out and say it--I like you and would like to develop our relationship further. There are far worse things that could be happening then being rejected and feeling akward and besides that is a part of life. Accept what happens and go about life. Never be afraid of what could happen...if you never say something to him you may wonder what if.....? I would rather say my feeling then wonder what if......

Answer 2

Plan a night out with just the two of you (no other friends may join). Make it more romantic than he would expect. Tell him how you feel. Make it really clear for the male species can be quite oblivious. He might feel the same way and also not know what to do. He might even be asking the same questions here in YA. Guys can be shy and afraid or rejection just as girls can be. It is better to know where you stand, even if you don't get the results you want, then to always wonder.

Answer 3

Hi Grace,
The question in and of itself from your words is clear. To define your relationship...you need sex. Your lust for this guy is obvious and your desires to be carried out...understood. Why does sex have to occur now for the relationship to be what you desire?
From some of your fears, ie; rejection, awkwardness, or ruining the relationship, you still don't know him well enough to dive into romance.
When the time is right it will just happen on both parts. There will be no questions asked...
Then again, if this guy and yourself are to "take it to the next level", why don't you find a quiet out of the way place to sit down and discuss this private matter.
If he's good enough to take to bed...he's good enough to let you know what he is thinking and wanting.
If it ain't happened...the timing is not right.
One more question: why do your friends know more about this guy and your dates than he does?
Intimacy isn't an embarrassment if shared between two. How do you think he will feel when he finds out the world knows about your rondevu's?
If he was shy then...he just might shy away from you for someone else that will let him decide when he is ready.
As grandma used to say...the pot never boils when watched.

Answer 4

Go with your original plans to visit Oz, you'll only regret it after setting your heart on it for so long. If he is 'The One' he will wait, and the bond between you both will grow stronger while apart. If he is not 'The One' then it will fail before you come back. There is your answer. My current relationship was a long distance one at the start, and we are still together after 2 and half years. With e-mails you can keep in touch so easily. And don't forget that writing and receiving romantic letters worked for our ancestors all those years ago...and love is the same today as it was then...Have a good trip

Answer 5

Yeah, I don't think you could really call this a friendship at this point. You are in a relationship, weather you realize it or not. Maybe he doesn't realize it. I've been in some of these things too and I would deny that it was more than a friendship. But it is. And, yeah, if you're dissatisfied because it's just this thing we're doing and what is it, you should try to validate it. I mean, who wants to play around forever, right?
If it seems to be moving somewhere I would just let it progress. If it feels stagnant then try to move it along.

Answer 6

If you're making out with him, don't you think its gone past the question of whether he's interested? Tell him how you feel, it'll make you feel better

Answer 7

this shows me n i dont know y but makes me feel like he likes u too but afraid to show u his feelings for u...
im sure that he will accept u..
ask him out on a fine day n tell him everything...i m sure that he will be very happy to hear that.
good luck.

Answer 8

sounds like he has never done it. So make the move because he is probably to scared too.after the first time he will start to make the move first. i guarantee it

Answer 9

sooo....if u guys have "made out loads" as u say......y r u afraid of rejection?
HELLO?!?!?!???
hes made out w/u!!!!!!!
on point 2-the awkwardness would have come a WHILE ago....when u guys started MAKING OUT!!!!!!!!!
so i say.....go 4 it!

Answer 10

Just tell him how much you want to pleasure him orally and everything will fall into place....