How do I go about having a discreet affair? It will help me appreciate my wife a lot more. Please serious and sincere answers only. For a Muslim it is okay for a Muslim man to have an affair but if a muslim woman has an affair then under Islamic law she can get beheaded. I am a Muslim man and the Koran actually encorages me to spread myself. It says go forth and multiply but cage your woman at home. Islam is the most forward looking open minded liberal charming captivating intellectual and stimulating of all religions.
2007-06-20 09:01:08 · 54 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
You are not a Muslim and it isn't taught that Muslim men can cheat on their wives. But I will say that Islam does have a lot of very unfair double standards (as does Christianity).
2007-06-20 09:04:45 · answer #1 · answered by A 6 · 6⤊ 2⤋
you seem to be dealing with immaturity and confusion...if its so ok to "spread yourself" by the Koran then why do you need to have a "discreet affair"...why not openly do this? I mean you have the permission from the Koran itself to do this as a good thing...so where does the need to hide it come from??..Tell your wife , the family, and all your friends how you want to be such a good muslim husband and spread yourself and if they are good muslims they too will support you...right?...I think this is the answer you would like to hear...I also think you need to read more of the Koran to find out how you can appreciate your wife a lot more.
2007-06-28 06:38:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am only a christian, and I know you and I believe very differently. I will not attempt to "convert" you; but I think your discreet affair may have some "unintended consequences". Therefore I have only 12 words for you that I hope you find open minded liberal charming captivating intellectual and stimulating so MUCH more than my religion:
HIV, AIDS, Syphillis, Gonorrhea, Genital Herpes, Genital Warts, Pelvic Inflammatory Disease(PID), Chancroid, etc.
Enjoy Yourself!!
PS What do Muslims believe will happen to you if you walk in front of a big truck going real fast?
Do you expect to hold fire to your breast and not be burned?
2007-06-20 09:53:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i love the way it is so very "forward looking open minded liberal charming captivating intellectual and stimulating of all religions." but you must hide this from your wife!
No where does it say to disrespect your woman in the Koran it says to respect your mother, wife, sister, all women.
does it not seem disrespectful to lie to her?
What about the fact that you ARE lying?
What does the Koran teach about that?
If you must "cage" your woman at home then why bother making it discreet?
I think you must truly re-prioritize. there is no good going to come from this.
Having said all that, If it were my man who wanted to "play" then he would first come home, tell me who she is and kiss me goodbye and make sure he was home before dawn. For us, honesty is more important than fidelity.
You should not lie to your wife. EVER.
2007-06-26 11:24:29 · answer #4 · answered by † Seeker of Truth † 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this a joke? You can't really be asking that question and asking for "serious and sincere" replies. Why are you married if you want to "spread" yourself? Have you ever thought of what that would do to your wife's feelings if she found out (and most women know when their mate is cheating)? Do you even care about the diseases that you could give to her? I sure hope you don't plan on having kids because not only will you mess up your wife, but the kids will be extra messed up!! Why don't you get real comfy with your hand and just pretend that it is another woman. You can even throw some lipstick on it. And yes, this may sound stupid to you but what you are asking is stupid to me. Deepen your relationship, c'mon now! Welcome to the year 2007, not 1597.
2007-06-20 09:19:03 · answer #5 · answered by Kam 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough question to answer..I don't want to bash on your religion.. but i truely believe the times have changed and that having an affair is just not acceptable.. In my opinion if you are going to have an afair just go ahead and tell your wife you want to if it is in your religion like you say then she will understand and maybe you two can talk about it and solve the problem rather than seeking someone else. If you are looking for an affair something in the relationship must be lacking so just talk to her!
2007-06-20 09:08:12 · answer #6 · answered by Chris10 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't you care about your wife? I mean if you commit adultery what type of man are you? You don't have any repsect at all, if i knew you in purpose after hearing your proposal I would not consider you a man. As a matter a fact I won't know what to call you from there. If your wife is a fateful person, you better think about something else: do you deserve her?
I have meet a lot of muslim men who won't dare cheat on their wives. So don't use your religion to justify your idea.
2007-06-20 09:12:28 · answer #7 · answered by Time For Better 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Take it from one who has been there. Don't! Whatever is left of your life will be spent regretting the fact that you hurt someone deeply who trusted you. Regarding your comments pertaining to the Muslim faith being as such, surely you are being sarcastic. If the Koran actually says what you say it says, then Islam is a cult and not of God.
2007-06-28 05:50:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well keep in mind that adultery is illegal in the United States. I am no scholar of Islam, but I doubt very seriously that the Koran promotes such an immoral thing. Cage your woman? It sounds more like you are the one who needs to be caged. If you are no longer satisfied with your wife, maybe you made a bad decision by marrying her. (Actually, she made the bad decision)
2007-06-27 17:33:53 · answer #9 · answered by Lazerus JPA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How would your wife feel if she found out? Would you be ashamed to hurt her in that way. I'm not very educated about the Koran but she has feelings and I assume if she was to find out she would be very hurt. If you love her why would you want to hurt her in that way? Isn't there a way you could spice up your love life within the bounds of marriage? That way no one gets hurt. Neither your wife, nor the woman you would have had the affair with.
2007-06-20 09:06:33 · answer #10 · answered by centuscoelis 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If that is truly how things are in your religion- just have the affair (I can't believe that I just said that!). But if you're basing your morality and the morality of your actions on the Koran, just go for it- who cares whether or not it's descrite? I cannot think of a similar Biblical example to make an analogy with, but if I was given permission and actually encouraged to do something (by my holy text), I would just do it without hesitation.
I may be way off base here, but if it's that acceptable, just do it and use your text to back you up if you were confronted.
*p.s.- I do not agree with what I said and I don't know much about the Islamic religion...but if that was an honest question, based on the "facts" provided, that is my honest answer- even though I think it's warped that a man is ALLOWED by his religion to cheat on his wife.
2007-06-20 09:06:42 · answer #11 · answered by Bekah S 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋