Is my brother's life better than mine?

Question

I wonder if my brother's life is better than mine. I know that I should be concentrating on my own life and trying to improve it.

My brother is 6 years younger than mine. He is happily married and has two children (daughter is 6 and son is 4). He has a good paying, professional job and is doing well in his career.

He and his family have hobbies together since they go camping every weekend and then go hiking, biking, fishing, etc.

He does have health issues since he has juvenile diabetes, high blood pressure and high cholesterol. He is now going through the complications of diabetes (effect on kidneys, eyes and feet). He lives paycheck to paycheck.

I look at my own life. I am divorced. My daughter does not live with me and probably does not want to have anything to do with me. My ex-husband constantly pressures me to come back to him.

I am lonely at times. I do work full-time and am better off financially. I am trying to keep busy, but.....

Answer 1

Everyone has problems. Health is something that money cannot buy. Be grateful you're not suffering from incurable health problems.

Answer 2

I can't tell you what to do, but I can suggest taking the time to re-evaluate your life. Find out what is most important to you in this life. I always tell myself if I only had a year to live, would I do anything different than I am doing now. Find out what you want out of life. Some people, like your brother, are happy in-spite of obstacles they face. As for your daughter, I am sure she wants you in her life. I don't know how old she is, but I am sure she is confused at to why you are not around. You can be a part of her life, but you have to remember you are the adult and therefore will always have to make the effort to get together on a regular basis. If you are continuing to make the effort, you daughter will see this and overtime she will start making an effort on her own. You don't have to go back to your ex in order to be a part of your daughters life. You need to make it clear to him how you feel about the situation. Keeping busy is only a temporary fix and it only masks the problem and doesn't solve it. You can to be happy, like your brother, you just have to find the things in life that make you truly happy.

Answer 3

well my friend for what its worth here is my answer,I am the eldest of three,divorced twice,two kids grown up one of them doesn't want to know me and not made contact for 12 years now,I am also on my own and only have one person that i can call a friend,My middle sister has been near to death more than once because of her lupus and other failings,My younger sister has been happily married for 25 years now has two lovely kids and doing well in life and i feel are my parents are both 84 years old,when i do loose them there will be a huge void in my life,what I'm trying to say is everyone is different and don't look to your brothers faults or failings just concentrate on your life,If you haven't health issues then praise God for that,Go out and find a hobby that you can do,join a club or a Church group,Don't let the pressure of your ex hubby come on you ,my final word really is to find a local church and turn your life round by making new friends,Please feel free to mail me,God bless,

Answer 4

look for one thing you are not your brother. i am the biggest believer that God has things happen for a reason. Even the bad things. I just don't think you have yet to have found you life yet. Don't envey what you don't have because that is most of all not what God wants us to do. Your happiness will find you when you stop wishing your life was like your brothers or someone elses. who's to say maybe someday he will not have the perfect life because one day we may be at the top and tomarrow we may be at the bottom right with the rest of them keep your chin up and everthing will come in time

Answer 5

I'm no Dear Abby, but I don't think that your brother's life is necessarily better than yours. He is going through problems with diabetes and "lives paycheck to paycheck"--that doesn't sound fun at all. You do better financially--at least you have that. (Sorry, that sounds very not-Abby and shallow.) If you like your job, that's good.

Have you tried to contact your daughter? You seem to have very low self-esteem. It could be that she really wants to spend time with you, but you avoid her because you think she doesn't.

If you weren't happy with your ex, ignore him.

If you feel up to it, try to meet new people and find someone new to date. Don't give up, and good luck.

Answer 6

haha i in my opinion have a twin additionally no longer comparable. i think of i might fairly be you b/c even even with the undeniable fact that he's greater appropriate finding, your in all likelihood nonetheless tremendously eye-catching. plus your smarter and have a greater appropriate character this is a strategies greater appropriate than seems. for my and my twin: my bro is likewise greater appropriate finding plus hes smarter yet hes an entire jerk and an entire egomaniac. im lots greater humble and nicer. identity fairly be me cuz hes an entire jackass!!!

Answer 7

well keep working on improving yourself & don't be jealous cause he's your bro you should be happy about his life, don't & not comparing yourself to him