Shall i quit or not ?

Question

i hate playin the violin but i dont want to give up bcoz i have been playing it for 6 years and it is the only hobby (apart from playing piano) that i do, i really dont no wether to quit or not ! my family are all really glad that i play violin and do concerts nd stuff...its all a bit nerdy tho !! what should i do?

Answer 1

i think you should quit because WI do something that you don't like to do but if it helps you out in money and other stuff then that changes every thing.

Answer 2

Nothing nerdy about playing the violin. Besides, do you know what the definition of a nerd is? That's the person holding the mortgage to our house after we grow up. I'm sure you have met at least one person who told you all about how they wish they had never quit playing some instrument or other. Well, I meet those people every day, and they are right. The Physiological benefits of playing music alone are enough to encourage most people to play throughout their lives. (Especially the fact that you are much less likely to contract diseases like Alzheimer's)

Explore the possibility that you may not be playing the type of music that you would prefer. It's perfectly alright to insist on some music that speaks to you. You also may be facing some social challenges. A lot of people change directions in life because of the direction a friend of a possible romantic interest is going. The trouble with that is that you are going to be doing that a lot in the next few years and you need one of two things to fall back on, to depend in, and to boost your self esteem when everything else is tearing it down.

Pick up a mandolin and try that in your spare time. Same strings, same fingerings (except for those pesky frets) but a whole different sound and something to go off in another direction in for awhile. You might want to try and electric violin. Throw that puppy into a couple of effects pedals and nobody in school can duplicate the sounds that you can make (especially with a bow!

Obviously, the only vote that matters here is yours, but think of our life with the violin and without it. Imagine your future with nothing to tuck under your cheekbone except a napkin. Visualize what you will lose and what you will gain. Good luck, no matter what decision you make. I am rooting for you to stick with the violin, but I really don't expect to change your mind if it's made up. I just hope that when you notice something missing in your life, you aren't afraid to change it back either!

Answer 3

The ability to play a musical instrument (especially the violin and piano) is a unique, and wonderful talent, in my opinion. However, with that being said, if you do not enjoy doing it, there really isn't much of a reason to continue is there? Quitting altogether may not be the best option though. You sound quite involved with your instrument, performing in concerts and such; this undoubtedly takes up a large portion of your time. Perhaps the best advice would be to take a step back from performing, as this will relieve you of the pressure to practice incessantly. The pressure of performing, not to mention the pressure from your family, is likely robbing you of the enjoyment you may have once had playing.
Take some time off, and seek out new hobbies and interests. You feel 'nerdy' so why not begin going to concerts instead of performing in them ... and I don't mean orchestras. Spend your time more freely and begin molding your life into more well-rounded shape. It is easy to become a slave to an instrument when one feels that is all one has. That is certainly not the reality of your situation. If your family truly loves you, they will support your decision to begin balancing your pleasures and responsibilities.

Answer 4

Six years of playing, no way give it up, I love violin and have since I was about ten years old. I play classical guitar and have aways wanted to play the violin and just never bought one to try and learn it. I love violin concertos especially the Bach and Vivaldis concertos. When I talk to people about classical music that's the first instrument most say that's what they would all like to play, even rockers. I have no clue as to how old you are, but please believe me you'll be sorry when you get older if you give it up. Anyone who thinks it's nerdy won't in a few years, in-fact they'll be taking their kids to lessons only wishing that they could play, nerdy is an age, phase etc, later they will not think that way, and will only wish that their kids were into it, they usually turn out to be the better kids, please don't give it up !!!!!!!!!

Answer 5

I have been playing the violin for 10 years. 6 years ago i had a breakdown and was playing terribly. YOu need to decide what it is you don't like about it. I moved teacher and that made things a lot better. Don't be worried that you or other people think its nerdy, in time they begin to admire it but don't keep doing something you don;t want to because your family like it

Answer 6

I'm a musician, singer, pianist, conductor, teacher.

At five/seven yrs. or so, it is not uncommon for many to "hit a wall," with the same questions and mixed feelings you have.

You're just at the point where you've played long enough that you can become very good or call it quits.

If you push through this, it will pass and you'll either enjoy it again or be fed up and lay it aside (still though, in years to come, there will be times when you wished you had stuck with it--unless you are now at concert level, and there's no place left to go).

When in college, I practiced piano at least 7 hrs/day. As I got better, I could drop that to 3hrs/d, now down to 1hr (I've been playing piano for 51 yrs, professionally singing for 53).

Today, I can play just about anything I want, with the exception of a few pieces that are extremely difficult--Prokofiev's Sonata.

I can sing anything a person would like me to. I can look at a piece of music and hear it. I can hear a piece of music and see it. I can listen to others and enjoy what they do, whether their music is done poorly or well. It's their enjoyment--that counts.

It's kind of nice, when people ask, "will you play this for us" and the answer is "sure." --or just sit there and make music for yourself. Would you like to be able to do those things?

Music is one of the most difficult of all majors in college. --for me, I could have chosen physics/math, but I chose the harder: music. --did you know that A. Einstein was quite good at the violin?

It's sort of funny. People say, "you sing so well" or "play wonderfully." They don't realize it took 20 years of very, very hard work, to get there.

But, the choice is yours. And yes, try other genres.

For many years I sang and struggled as a tenor. Then one day, for a lark, my teacher had me try something else--and we found out, I actually sing countertenor (the highest male voice). Relating that to a violin string, the harmonic is stronger than the fundamental--something that is rare.
That switch made a great difference in my performance ability and love for the art.

An entirely new world of music opened up to me: the wealth of choral music from 1650 to 1100 AD. Now, I am somewhat of a choral scholar, editor, as well as performer. So, don't be afraid to try new things.

Whichever way you go, you have a skill that not many can have.

You've improved you ability to think (music does that) and increased, the depth of your own feelings, and ability to express that, through music, to others.

I hope you will do what will bring you satisfaction, not just now, but later in life, too.

To give up on something you don't want to do is okay; but to stop something you love, because it is difficult to continue or you are a bit burned out, is something you may regret. The latter happens to all of us.

Do you want to keep playing and push through this; or do you want to close it as something you never wanted and don't want to do anymore?

Only you can answer that.

Answer 7

Don't quit!!! Give it a chance. I've played violin for 14 years now, and I hated it when I was younger, too. I kept wanting to quit, but I stuck with it. It's not nerdy--it makes you more special and more talented than most of the population! I have a lot of older friends who quit playing instruments when they were young and really regret it now. In fact, I've never met one person who said he/she was glad he/she quit...if you honestly don't enjoy it, though, I don't see a point in continuing.

Answer 8

IT all depends on how you feel about it. If you really like it and are proud of your talent then stick with it, it can help in your future. But if you feel that it's a waste of your time and too difficult then you can consider quiting. I mean, I played piano for many years and I got frustrated with it and quit, but now I'm regretting it and want to play again, but I just can't get a proper instructor anymore. So you can always quit if it's really putting on stress but it can be pretty hard to start again.

Answer 9

i don't think you should quit how about try playing a different type of music. haven't you noticed that rock stars and rappers they all use violins in some of their songs and to have violin music you gotta have someone to play it. or look in to broadway. if you're really good maybe you could play for a traveling broadway show. that way you'd live the "tour" life. but don't give up.

Answer 10

Don't quit. I assume U play classical ? Try different music. I had a student who came to me fed up with classical. I introduced her to folk fiddle, especially Irish, which is fast and exciting. She is now playing regularly in a pub session and even playing for a wedding. I gave up vilin after Grase 1 and took up guitar. I came back to it about 30 years ago and now play folk fiddle as well as lot of other stringed instruments. Stick with it! hope this helps. Mail me if u like.

Answer 11

If you hate playing it and think its nerdy, than just quit. If you really love the instrument you would never think negatively of it.