I have a friend who isnt very well educated and i want to help her go back to school after 2nd baby?she is 17 and dropped out when she got pregnant. there is free daycare available in our area for teen mothers and there is programs to help her such as kvcap. how do i suggest things without being offending. i just want to help her so in the long run she and her children will have a better life
2007-06-20 07:49:49 · 24 answers · asked by bamf 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Just talk to her, and say, hey I don't know if you were planning to get back into school right away but I have heard of this program that can help you with childcare..for mothers that want to get back into school...something like that.
I am ashamed at the people who are judging this 17 year old..the asker didn't ask you for your opinion of the girl..he asked how could he he/she help her...
2007-06-20 07:53:19 · answer #1 · answered by Video_Production 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First you should find a way to gently ask her if that's what she wants to do. Maybe something hypothetical like "Have you ever wondered how it would be to go back to school?" If it isn't what she wants, you should make your case for why it would most likely help her in the long run (and you'd probably be right), but in the end, if she doesn't want to go back to school, then you should support her decision (plus, she could very want to go back to school later). She might even be angry with you or offended for a while, but you have to accept her decision, ask her forgiveness and make sure she understands that your intentions were good.
On the other hand, if she expresses interest in going back to school, definitely mention the programs and free daycare that you know about. The main idea is to be sure that your advice is solicited and that your actions and suggestions are supportive of her actual desires. Best of luck!
2007-06-20 14:57:19 · answer #2 · answered by Nisha 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you're a good friend. Most people just try to to better themselves and not others around them.
Secondly, if you guys are close and can tell one another anything then tell her the way you just explained it to all of us should do just fine. If she's more sensitive about the issue then try talking about school situations and ease it into the converstion. Just don't make it seem like she's a failure or that you look down on her. That's the last things she needs right now. I'm kind of in a similar situatuion (although the ages are different) I need to go back to school. I had my son 11 months ago and trying to get back in school is a lil harder then it seems.
Lastly, good luck with your situation!
2007-06-20 15:06:42 · answer #3 · answered by oreo723 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You might just bring it up casually the next time you talk to her. Instead of saying "you should go back to school...." try saying, "have you ever thought about going back to school? There is free daycare available...." If you approach her with it that way it gives her something to think about. She may not be aware that these programs are there. Just don't tell her she needs to go back to school, that may put her off and make her feel bad. Just let her know that if she wants to there is help available.
2007-06-20 14:54:19 · answer #4 · answered by kat 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you are overwhelmed and excited that she is interested in going back to school, and then ask her if it is okay for you to help her do so. If she does, help out every way she asks you to and suggest anything you think will help but don't push it on her. If she doesn't want your help, stay out of it. That's all you can do, it's not your life, it's hers. She may not feel that the time is right, if she feels that way you need to respect her decision.
Good luck! : )
2007-06-20 14:56:18 · answer #5 · answered by <Sweet-Innocence> 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her your not meaning to offend her, but if she wants to go back to school there is a program to help with child care. She's lucky to have a friend that actually cares about her future.
2007-06-20 14:59:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let her know that one of the strongest resons and best thing in her life to help her go strong is her two kid's, tell her that if she dosent do nothing today she might never do nothing. I know it's hard for a 17yr old mom to raise two kid's but I have known story's of mom's with even 4 kids sucessing in life. Good luck!
2007-06-20 14:55:56 · answer #7 · answered by francisco 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just suggest it tell how much you believe in her and you know she could be great at ......... (whatever she's into) GED is a good suggestion If she afraid to going back into a regular school scene! I really hope you can help her. The best thing is to just give her confidence!
2007-06-20 14:54:50 · answer #8 · answered by Tinker1705 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is really nice. Just ask her what she wants in life and in her future, aske her what she wants for her childrens future, i am pretty sure she wants to better herself and I am sure she will tell you what she wants, then you tell her you can help and let her know that in order for her to get ahead she needs and education. Tell her the benefits of it and how much easier life could be..i am sure she will appreciate this from you.
2007-06-20 14:55:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's admirable, but how do you know she wants to help herself? I'd just ask her if she's ever thought about going back to school and if she says yes, then bring up what you know! Just be prepared for her to not follow through, it will be very hard for her and you don't want to get disappointed.
2007-06-20 14:59:15 · answer #10 · answered by wish I were 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋