OK well me and my boyfriend (ex)....went out for about a lil over a year and we broke up about a week ago...and I found out yesterday that he cheated on me with more than one girl...and even on my b-day! Why did he tell me he loved me and I meant everything to him, and everything nice you could say? We hung out all the time but some weeks we would just not hear from each other...I always thought he was cheating but I never thought he would do that to me, and I think way to much sometimes...So I didn't think anything of it! But why did he cheat on me? We were so close, I thought, I loved his family and hung out with them all the time and he made me get attached to them and himself...and after a year and after we break up he finally admits to cheating on me the whole time! WHY DID HE DO THIS TO ME?
2007-06-20 07:42:01 · 19 answers · asked by Jessica B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's not only insensitive... he's an A** H*le. Why even bother to tell you after the fact? Most likely because he knew he wasn't loosing much after the break up anyways. If he had been man enough, he would have told you while still with you, so at least the pain of being dumped would of affected him in some way. It's a shame, but there are men like that... players, if you will. The best thing for you to do now is to try to let it go... it happened and there's nothing else you can do about it, but don't ever trust him again. I wouldn't even want anything to do with him if I was you. Hope your heart heals quickly.
2007-06-20 07:48:49 · answer #1 · answered by Faith . 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He cheated because he could; you let him get away with it.
You said that you thought he was cheating, but then you ignored your thoughts. You didn't totally trust him and had reason to believe he wasn't faithful but instead of following up on your feelings, you again, ignored your senses.
And there is another thing. As a young man, he probably feels that he will do whatever is needed to have sex. So he tells you what you want to hear so he can be with you.
Moving forward, you want to judge a mans intentions? Wait until he marries you to be intimate with him. Any man that will wait for you or vice versa and that you have no reservations about or concerns, is most likely a man that will be faithful.
One other thing, don't ignore your feelings. If you feel something isn't right - most likely you are correct. You are a wise woman and you should not treat yourself otherwise.
2007-06-20 07:51:43 · answer #2 · answered by Cynthia B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK first he didn't make you do anything like get attached to his family or it would be illegal it's called slavery. Second I'm sorry...were the 2 girls at once like a 3-some? Well anyhoot ya gotta move on and if you really wanna get under his skin continue to visit his family, Kinda wierd I know but an ex I had did just that and it drove me nuts. She would come over help my mom bake or just go shopping with her she'd take my little sister to the park or to swim go to the beach it was making me NUTS I tell ya.
So if you truely love his family call 'em up and ask them to watch a movie with ya.
Men do not until an older age (and even sometimes not then) think with the head on their shoulders but rather another we'd been given at birth and it is evil sometimes..LOL But he wasn't thinking of the after the hottie's with the naughty bodies he was thinking of the lump in his pants. Sorry this happened to you but better now than down the road when attachment was perm thing.
I know it didn't help but it made you smile.
2007-06-20 07:51:46 · answer #3 · answered by trucknmedic 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He did all that to get in your pants. He probably did like you a little or he wouldn't have stayed with you as long as he did. I don't know your ages, but you both are probably young and he is on the prowl(looking for the girl that will keep his attention). He knows the only way to get in a nice girls pants is to do exactly what he did. Young men don't want nice, they want to play and have fun until they get to old to play the game, by then they know exactly what they are looking for in a mate . Its not your fault, its just your nature, he probably had you anytime he wanted. Men like a challenge, not just somene that will roll over. Sorry you got your heart broken, but know that better things are ahead for you. Reflect on this relationship and use what you have learned for you next love. If your looking for a commited relationship, perhaps look to an older man as boys will be boys.
2007-06-20 07:47:15 · answer #4 · answered by danzahn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont consern yourself with why sometimes you will never get a straight answer in life.he did and so he is not worth your time or consern.consern yourself with you and your happiness now the more you dwell on why the harder it will be to achieve this.why did you get chicken pox when little,coz you did,it was nothing about you as a person hes just like that dose of chicken pox something you should have avoided but couldnt.dont let him take up any more of you time babe xxx
2007-06-20 07:51:29 · answer #5 · answered by nendlin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummm - you did it to yourself. How? You let him treat you like this. People only treat you how you let them treat you. So stick around him and you'll be in for more fun just like this. I'd rather be alone than with someone who treats me like crap and does this sort of nonsense. Nothing lonlier than being with the wrong man. Truth is - he never really cared * emphasis on the word REALLY* all that much enough to respect you and he misled you and let you live in a lie. He wasn't the person you fell in love with. You fell in love with who you thought he was. SO no real loss on your part. He's scum - leave him in the dirty dust he calls his life --- for good.
2007-06-20 07:50:13 · answer #6 · answered by Challah back Girl... 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
thats gotta hurt.....probly cause he has a mental problem or something and needs constant attention and was using u....face it,he never really loved u if he could do something like that and he just thought that it was fun having some1 care about him so much and him not have to do anything but talk to have u so close to him.i kno i could never do that to my gf,cause she means a lot to me and i'd never hurt her,so i think he's just an @sshole who doesnt care about u....i feel bad for u and i hope u find somebody that cares,just dont get back together w/ him even if he begs and seems sorry and says that he still loves u.
2007-06-20 07:52:53 · answer #7 · answered by AltrockD# 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's irrelevant. Just be glad that you're out of the relationship. He's a jerk and selfish. People do these things because it gives them power. Don't give him the time of day.
2007-06-20 07:47:14 · answer #8 · answered by Peter N 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He didn't do it to you, he did it to himself. He doesn't deserve anyone like you. Love yourself enough to pick up the pieces & move on with your life. Never accept less than what you deserve & no one deserves to be deceived and treated like that. Believe me, there are many good guys out there so don't put up with that type of treatment. Good luck.
2007-06-20 07:47:19 · answer #9 · answered by 2D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he thought the relationship was boring.. he wasnt satisfied? You should ask him yourself I think that would be the right thing to do. Don't be a ***** about it either
2007-06-20 07:45:48 · answer #10 · answered by Cass 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋