he is ready to do it but im not..we have been dating for four months and im just not ready. i want to wait a year he doesn't how do i keep him satisfied without intercourse?
2007-06-20 07:04:16 · 25 answers · asked by ♥Kristina♥ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is hot enough, better to get out and do things that wears down his energy level and keep your equipment covered so he doesn't keep pressuring you. He is not going to die if you don't give it to him and if he leaves to get it elsewhere, he obviously doesn't care who he is with only that he is getting some (and who needs a guy like that? Not you)
2007-06-20 07:09:29 · answer #1 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he cares about you he'll understand you're not ready and if he doesn't understand you'll know not to. I'm the same as you, a year seems like a gd amount of time for a 1st. This should really depend on you age, i.e. you may still be a bit Young to try these out, but there are still many things you can do to spice things up. Things involved in foreplay, including dry humping, sensual massages, hand jobs and oral sex (bj) however if he can't respect the decision for you to wait because your not ready, maybe he's not the one to share that with. he may also not be worth sharing the other things with. Don't let him make you feel like you need to put out to get affection, many men you will meet wouldn't be like that and maybe if you explain how important it is to you you'll find he IS ready to wait for you. If he doesn't however he's not worth anything you give him. Good Luck x
2007-06-20 15:02:02 · answer #2 · answered by thinkin2myself 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your relationship is mutually satisfying, sexual intercourse should not be a requirement. If he really cares about you, he should be willing to honor your wishes without pressuring you. Do you expect to marry this guy? Maybe you need to break off this relationship if you don't feel it is going in the direction that you need. To have sex only to please him would be a real mistake. If you guys are not on the same level from a moral standpoint, maybe you should sit down and have a really frank talk about what you want from this partnership and where it is you feel the relationship is headed. If you don't have the same goals, it's better to end it before getting more involved. You will just feel cheapened and used if you do this just to keep this guy around.
2007-06-20 14:11:39 · answer #3 · answered by Solutions 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he can't respect your decision, tell him to take a hike. If you're not ready to have sex with him, chances are you're not ready to engage in other sexual activities either. Don't take the risk, you don't want to do something you regret, and you don't want to be even more heartbroken when he leaves you (and you will be even more upset if things get physical, trust me on that), and plus, don't forget about pregnancy and STDs. Go into the Pregnancy & Parenting section, probably in Trying To Conceive, and tell me how many teens you see on there scared out of their minds that they could be pregnant. Don't do anything stupid.
2007-06-20 14:10:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't and don't try. You have to open the door, and let yourself out of this.
He is ready, let him move on. How can you stand the turmoil? Once a man is committed, you are shooting things back up his spine, and can upset and confuse him. Don't do this. There are two people here, consider both feelings. To be virtuous is your choice. His choice is to go with his human instincts, which lead to love in many cases.
Walk away gently.
2007-06-20 14:10:04 · answer #5 · answered by Marissa Di 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok the name of this is quite odd but its called dry humping...its pleasureable to both parties lol Dry humping is when two people rub their bodies against each other--often moving their genitals together and simulating the motions of intercourse without actually having it. People can be partially or fully clothed or not wear clothes at all. It's also called dry sex or frottage. Hope this helps!
2007-06-20 14:10:35 · answer #6 · answered by lilkinkykitty101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. If he really cares he will wait for you until your ready. Your making the right decision. Your inner voice is telling you something. Listen to it. Boys think with their penis. He should be just as satisfied jacking off with you. Try other methods such as titty.
2007-06-20 14:09:11 · answer #7 · answered by Georgia 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kristina, Sweetie speaking as a former young guy I apologize ! Tell him that you are being true to yourself and Jesus Christ by waiting until your wedding night ! This day and age sexual purity is priceless. Anyone can just lay down and have sex but few,do the right thing and wait until their wedding night ! If your love is true you will honer,doing the right thing ! Otherwise it is just an one night fling !
2007-06-20 14:25:51 · answer #8 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off, dont compromise yourself for ANYONE
if youre not ready youre not ready. if you do something you dont want to, youre going to regret it
if he truly cares about you he will respect your decision
try to find other things to do where he couldnt even try anything funny. if youre at a restaurant, in the bowling alley, or in the zoo, he wont be asking you for sex...come on, youre in public!
if you still try to make things "hot" and dont have sex like he wants, then youll just be a tease and that will make things worse
best of luck to you
2007-06-20 14:10:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys are ALWAYS ready to do it....they need to wait, and learn about true relationship values. If they dont get that first, they wont wait around for it later, girl, and youll be sitting there wondering how you got duped!
2007-06-20 14:09:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋