my bf and i have been going out for 6 months. i love him but neither of us have said it yet. We are taking a trip together and usually spend at least 3-4 days/nights a week together (neither of us are interested in having sex until marriage though so its not just about that - we really have a lot in common). He always asks if i like him and when i say yes, he says "how much?" so far i just answer "a lot" because i really want him to say it first. The most he's said is "wow, I like you a whole lot" . why doesn't he just say it? should i just say it already or will that scare him away if he doesn't quite feel ready?
2007-06-20 07:03:36 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's natural that you both feel a little nervous to be the FIRST one to say it - you're both afraid the other won't reciprocate. It sounds like he really loves you though so don't worry! Life is too short to let your fears hold you back. What's the worst that could happen? He says "oh...I'm not ready to say that yet." You'll be embarrassed but you'll still be dating a wonderful man that you love and he will come around in his own time. I doubt that will happen though. Or you can do what I did with my husband.....I said "I know this sounds crazy....but I want to say something and I'm afraid to...." - he knew what I wanted to say so he went ahead and said "I know what you mean....and I love you too." :)
2007-06-20 07:08:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, you don't say I love you to hear it back. You say I love you because you do love him. No more no less. If he feels the same way now he will let you know. I don't think it will scare him away. From what I get is that ya'll are both scared to say it. What if neither one of you said it then it is too late to say? Trust me, your relationship will go so much better after wards. I mean ya'll are going on a trip together!!! He will be with you and only you. No better time to say the three words " I LOVE YOU". I wish you the best.
2007-06-20 07:08:45 · answer #2 · answered by Mom of 3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I said to my bf "I love you" first, and when I did, he told me he really wanted to say that to me for a really long time but he was afraid it would scare me away. So if you don't try you'll never now, maybe he is ready but haven't told you because of how you may react, the same doubts you are having right now.
I think you should go for it, 6 months and all the time you spend together prove that it is a strong relationship.
Good luck!
2007-06-20 07:10:01 · answer #3 · answered by mkting72 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Six months is not a long time. If you are abstaining from sex until marriage, doesn't it make sense not to rush the love thing too? Maybe he hasn't said it because he does not feel it. That is not to say that he won't in the future, but I wouldn't push the issue at this juncture in the relationship.
2007-06-20 07:08:07 · answer #4 · answered by sleepingliv 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think him asking you that is giving him a clue that he wants you to say "i love you". You should go for it. If you spend all the time together and really think you are in love, just say it. dont hide your true feelings.
2007-06-20 07:07:12 · answer #5 · answered by Ash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Today you love him but will you love him the next day or the next six months is a long time to love some one it tack time.But if you do love him just say it if he say it good but if he don't F him OK have a nice day
2007-06-20 07:13:09 · answer #6 · answered by bay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you two know how you feel about it each other, then why wait? Make sure that he feels the same way. Many times, we men aren't as aggressive as women would like us to be. I suggest you make this spark happen, but not all the time. Make sure it is romantic though. lol
2007-06-20 07:11:05 · answer #7 · answered by usmpikapp128 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
true feelings wont scare someone who shares them away. it shouldn't be a contest about who can hold out the longest or say it 1st. if u truly fell this way it will just come out and you wont even realize u said it until after the fact.
2007-06-20 07:08:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for it :) if you just say "a lot" he`ll be hoping for a bit more i think hes nervous to which i find funny ( in a good way) just go for it and say whats on your mind :) me and my girlfreind say i love you loads and we`re only 13 :) ( and i know we probably don`t know the meaning of love but we do haha) good luck and don`t be afraid :)
2007-06-20 07:08:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you mean it say it. maybe hes thinking the same thing and he just doesnt want to say it first?
maybe even try saying it in a jokeing around funny way first and see how he reacts
2007-06-20 07:06:59 · answer #10 · answered by Carlie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋