We're both 16 and this friday would have been 6 months. I'm completly in love with him and I know he loves me too. He's my first boyfriend...among other things. He's my absolute best friend and I'm his. He just got a summer job with his mom working 11-6 everyday including weekends so he broke up with me cuz we will never see eachother. I tried to tell him we can get through this cuz it's only 2 months but he doesnt think he can. All I can do is cry and nothing else. What should I do. I want to keep him as my bf but he's stubbon and doesnt think very open minded sometimes. I need to know how I can show him we'll be okay. And I need to know what to do with myself if that doesnt work. I'm a very closed person and I dont open up to anyone but him so it's hard to talk to other friends about this stuff. And most of them dont understand. He also said mabey when school starts back up, but that will hurt more to keep me waiting and hoping. Please help
2007-06-20 07:02:09 · 44 answers · asked by monkeyluv16 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Welcome to painful young love, I wish there was something to say to make it hurt less. I would suggest you have a very frank heart-to-heart talk with him, and then make a tough decision on your own happiness. It sounds like you have a very tough choice to make, and either option has painful consequences.
2007-06-20 07:04:13 · answer #1 · answered by Steve C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
First of all you are only 16,life is way too short to get caught up in this.If this guy truly loves you,then working is no great barrier, you need to relax, if he is true love or soul mate then you will find each other, maybe not today or this year , but perhaps someday.
Maybe he found another girl at work and doesn't have the guts to tell you, I don't know,maybe you should get a job to occupy your summer, believe me when I tell you that there are people out there who can relate to your troubles.
And as you stated he is your first boyfriend, most of my friends, no check that....none of my first are still with their first, It's more important that you don't define yourself through your boyfriend,maybe you are meant to be friends. Just don't push it, I know it sucks and you feel that you will never find anyone as good as him, but I think you need to give yourself a chance.
2007-06-20 07:16:41 · answer #2 · answered by BLTZ-HD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So maybe ya'll wont see eachother as much, but if ya'll love eachother that shouldn't matter. My boyfriends in the army and I hardly EVER get to see him. I've been w/ him as long as he's been in the army. I took that risk and it's been worth it. We learn a lot about eachother and don't focus on physical stuff. But what I'm saying is distance and time shouldn't matter. If he doesn't think he can handle it, it might be hard but move on. Don't just sit there and wait till it's convenient for him. Have fun while your single, if things work out w/ ya'll down the line then great. But don't get your hopes up, boys can really suck sometimes. <33
2007-06-20 07:08:15 · answer #3 · answered by IAmME 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are very young and you might think you love him, but maybe its a just a thing right now, and you will get over it trust me. I have had tons of relationships, and it hurts for a little while, but it always gets better. Enjoy your summer, maybe when school starts up you might be back together. But you don't need a boyfriend to have fun, and enjoy things. Have fun and see what you find, maybe you will meet a new guy this summer, and he'll be better than the last. Good Luck!
2007-06-20 07:08:32 · answer #4 · answered by Tommy's_Sweet_Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not going to tell you that you don't love him. But in a relationship, the infatuation phase lasts about six months. After that you start to notice the little things that were cute at first, but then they get a little annoying.
You can still try to get with him, but don't be too pushy. Maybe in a little time he will realize he misses you, but you don't want to be that stalker, crazy ckick.
If it doesn't work out, you will probably miss him for several more months. Just try to hang out with friends, girls only...no guys, and keep your mind off of him for a while. You should never have to wait for a guy. Either he wants to be with you or he doesn't. I'm a guy I know.
2007-06-20 07:08:21 · answer #5 · answered by Harken 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww poor you. Well honestly that boy is crazy to choose work than you. I'm working fulltime and I have been dating my gf for a year and 1/2 and nothing stopped us. And honestly 11-6 isn't even long. You still have more than half the day to chit chat and see each other. it just shows that that boy might not be right for you. cause it seems like he doesnt want to see u or be with u. but honestly you have every right to convince him to stay together because its not like he is working 24/7. you and him just have to work things out and have a schedule about how you will talk and see each other during summer
2007-06-20 07:06:57 · answer #6 · answered by Dante Jr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel and how he broke your heart. Mabey even provide a date or a little get to gether to prove you wil have time together. And mabey it will work out. And ask him is that the real reason yall broke up. Because he could just want another girlfriend...but used a different excuse. If he loved you he should understand and listen to your situation. But dont get your hope s up because he might nor want to go back out with you. But if that's the case just go ahead and move on.
2007-06-20 07:06:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is concern about the situation and to you too.He has a valid reason and explanation.For him its very hard too so all you have to do is take it easy and believe him but it doesnt mean that you have to expect him too much and wait.
try to make yourself busy in other good things.
After two months,see whats gonna happen.
See if there is some changes to both of your feelings..
guys are like that when they dont feel like doing something you can never change their mind.
At the age of 16,there will be more good things that might happen.
Just enjoy your life girl.
2007-06-20 07:15:24 · answer #8 · answered by mystical_queen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, he did you a favor. He's letting you grow and evolve into the woman you need to me. If he's the only person you can open up to and you admit to being a closed person, you need to expand your horizons. Come on now, you got to understand he's making money and he didn't say you two couldn't be friends. Best way to let him know he misses you is give him space. Absence makes the heart grow fonder. If he see you are acceptable to the change in the relationship, he will notice you in a different light. You will become more interesting to him and he will want to learn more about you. Place you mind onto other things besides being his girlfriend. Maybe you need to be your own girlfriend too! You need yourself too! Wipe the dust off and dry your eyes, girlfriend. Enjoy life because it is definitely too short to be upset of a boy. Give yourself a chance to grow.
2007-06-20 07:11:29 · answer #9 · answered by Heaven 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sweetie, i'm sorry but i think you should move on because ok you're not going to be able to see each other for 2 months, 2 months is nothing if you really love the person!and he said 11-6, you can see each other before 11 or after 6! i think he just wanted a way out hun and i am so sorry...hag out with your friends more.
2007-06-20 07:25:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him you guys can hang out at night, get a job with him, or ask him to get a different job with you so you can see eachother.
no offense, but chances are you just feel like you're in love with him because you have nothing to compare it to.
you'll find someone else if it doesn't work out.
but, hey he's still alive, there's still a chance. i've only seen true love once, and they were both teenagers, and the boy got into a car crash and died, it's been almost a year and she still loves him.
tell him that life hits bumps, like his job, but take the chances while you can because they could be gone in a minute.
2007-06-20 07:07:31 · answer #11 · answered by NONAME 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋