I have been dating this man for a couple months. We knew each other before we started dating. I told him that I like him alot. He is younger than me. But that is ok. He seems very affectionate. I don't want to scare him away. i met his whole family. I have been out the dating game for years before we started dating. So I am fearful of getting my heart broken.
2007-06-20 06:26:38 · 32 answers · asked by lookn4romance 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Nevre, let him make the first move
2007-06-20 06:28:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 4⤋
Honesty is always the best policy. Be open with him. Men do tend to get scared when we are the "aggressors" and use the L word too soon.
I don't know when the right time is. It's different for everyone. Don't miss out on something out of fear.
You said he was younger. I don't know how much younger. I don't have a problem with different ages in dating as long as the couple has things in common. The greater the age difference, the fewer things you have in common. Sex is NOT something to use as one of those common things. No matter how the sex is, at some point in time you have to talk.
2007-06-20 06:33:17 · answer #2 · answered by Sandy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let him tell you he loves you first. He may or may not know exactly how he feels about you right now especially since you've only been dating a couple of months. If you say it to him too soon then you may frighten him away before he has a chance to really understand his true feelings for you. Some men get freaked when a woman tells them they love them because they automatically start thinking the woman wants marriage and kids. Wait and let him say it first.
2007-06-20 06:35:09 · answer #3 · answered by saylavie2u2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no best time. He will either feel the same or he won't. If you do it now, it might turn out that he is not ready and it can blow it all up, BUT... if you wait the same thing could happen. Perhaps if you wait you'll drift apart or he may even feel the same way you do now, but might not later. That said, when it comes out in the open, you'll know where you stand. If he feels the same, then great! If not, then you'll know you are wasting your time. It is best, then, to move on. So I suggest just telling him how you feel right now. If he's the right guy, you won't have to worry about him being scared away.
2007-06-20 06:30:30 · answer #4 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him as soon as you feel that his happiness is a critical part of your own (that's the definition of love I've found wears the best).
Let him know that you don't insist that he return the affectioin immediately. Just be honest, tell him that's how you feel, for whatever it's worth. Tell him that being with him makes you a better, more productive person. Tell him the big things you want to spend the rest of your life learning about him. Tell him the little things that endear him to you.
Yes, your heart is likely to get broken -- for most of us, it takes a lot of dating, a lot of relationships, to find the right person. I got me heart broken a lot -- but I learned how to heal. Each time I let myself love someone, I grew stronger. Finally, I was strong enough that, when a wonderful woman came along, I had the courage to tell her when I could feel I was falling in love.
It took more growing after that, but I never regretted saying "I love you." It eventually let me find the woman I married, and it's helped me counsel our children through their own heartbreaks.
2007-06-20 06:34:41 · answer #5 · answered by norcekri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd been out of the loop for awhile too, and wouldn't admit to myself I was falling in love with the man. I used words like caring deeply, then come to find out 6 months into the relationship, he had fallen in love with me too 3 months ago. Younger than me he was afraid to tell me, thinking I'd reject him. You'll know when the time is right... tell him then.
2007-06-20 06:33:33 · answer #6 · answered by And My Soul Flies 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Reading everything you just typed, I'm thinking NOW is the answer.
As long as you're okay with him maybe not being there yet, you should be fine. Not a lot of guys play games, with their whole family included in the scheme. So I'm doubting you'll get a "What? No." - just maybe a "I'm fallING in love with you".
2007-06-20 06:30:10 · answer #7 · answered by sakicfriend 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that after 2 months of dating if you tell him you love him you will probably scare him away. It's kinda soon. Enjoy what you have now and keep having fun and learning about each other. You are still in the begining stages of your relationship just let it take it course. Enjoy the ride.
2007-06-20 06:31:36 · answer #8 · answered by Steffy 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Sweetie, ya just gotta tell him. Make sure its the right time, dont just call him up and say "we gotta talk" and say it then.
But, when the mood is right grab his hand and say "I am really starting to fall in love with you" and if he feels the same (which it sounds like he does) then it will be perfect. Dont worry about it. If you really feel that you love him, then you gotta tell him.
2007-06-20 06:30:18 · answer #9 · answered by Jana M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him as soon as you have really fallen in love for him. Chances are he is feeling the same way and is afraid to tell you. I know I felt that way with my girl.
2007-06-20 06:29:33 · answer #10 · answered by J 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it's ok for you to tell him that you like him more than that . You could do it when you guys have a romantic dinner. There are no guaranties in life that we do not get our hearts broken .
2007-06-20 06:29:48 · answer #11 · answered by silverearth1 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋