i am pregnant with my bf's baby and i care for him and all but i find myself comparing him to ex bf. he was my first love and the only reason we broke up was because he was having a hard time within his family and couldn't confide in me for fear of embarassment (huge problem) but he confided in my best friend and ended up kissing her. we still both love eachother and have talked recently via myspace and he wants to get back together...but i have a bf that i like but don't love but he claims to love me. he never lied to me he straight up told me exactly what happened immidietly...but i still can't trust him for some reason. what should i do?
2007-06-20 06:04:52 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Obviously his lies didn't matter because you still slept with him. You need to put your foot down on your current bf and get him to straighten up. I think your ex is going to be out of the question now since you went off and are having another man's baby.
2007-06-20 06:09:18 · answer #1 · answered by civil_av8r 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't really still love your ex. You two broke up for a VERY good reason, and you know it. You are nervous. You are stressed. You are fearful for how your future is going to work out. What you have done as a result, and it happens a lot, is to create an idealized version of your ex that meets all your expectations for what you want your boyfriend to be. The truth, however, is that if you went back to your ex the same thing would happen again, and then you'd have no one at all AND a kid.
The best thing you can do is to work on your current relationship as best you can and try to make it work. Get some personal counseling for yourself, and some couples' counseling for you and your boyfriend. Discuss this with your doctor, and they can help you set this up. Do your best to make this work. If it doesn't, then dump the guy and try things out on your own. If you can't make a relationship with your child's father work, then maybe you are not ready for a relationship with anybody yet. Who knows? But I can almost guarantee you that the ex is not the answer. Good luck!
2007-06-20 06:11:05 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can honestly say I don't love him that is for sure. I wish him the best in life, just because we were not made to be does not mean he should not be happy. I know he's married, has kids and I am getting married next year so we met our true loves which is nice. We reconsiled our differences after our breakup and I don't hold any ill will against him but I was not myself with him, I was submissive and scared he would leave all the time if I spoke up. I think we needed to grow up which we did. My fiance loves my fiery side and I am very much myself with him, don't ever change for someone.
2016-05-20 22:29:03 · answer #3 · answered by margery 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, I need to start teaching a class so people can know themselves better, to get inside their own head and know what makes them tick. If you are in love within someone, you don't hook up and get pregnant with someone else, that's what birth control is about.
Ok, moot now, you are here, where you find yourself. If you can't trust him, even if you got back together, the doubts would bother you. The two of you never dealt with the betrayal you felt when he kissed someone else.
My best advice. Stop talking to him. The choices we make (hooking up with a new guy, getting preg) dictate the life we lead - and yours is going in a way different direction.
He kissed a girl, you got preg with another man's child. Would he be willing to raise it? Would you be willing to hurt the guy you are with, go through a custody mess?
Consider counseling to help you make a decision.
2007-06-20 06:18:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For one, he is your ex for a reason. He didn't communicate with you, but did with someone else and kissed her? If you go backwards, you will have a hard time trusting him. You are in a serious situation right now. You are having a baby with someone you don't love. If I were you, I would stop my dealings with my ex and give my current man a chance at my heart. I would open my heart to someone who doesn't seem to lie to me. Think about it...pros and cons? Ex relationships are in our past for a reason. We have the power to end it or allow them to mess up our new relationships. Don't give that power to no one. This is your life and your happiness. Disconnect yourself from your ex before your current bf realizes that he doesn't have a place within your heart. That is the worst feeling in the world.
2007-06-20 06:14:55 · answer #5 · answered by wonder why 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He didn't trust you from the beginning, he didn't love you as much. Just try to think if it's worth leaving a man that loves you and who's baby your having, or a man that didn't love you enough and the worst part, kissed your best friend. If he kissed her was because he liked her, meaning he didn't care she was your best friend and knowing for sure you would find out.
Move on, be happy with the man who loves you!
2007-06-20 06:22:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get it together. You have to respect the person you are with. And if you still have feelings for your ex; then, let the person you are with know. Don't leave him hanging. Think about your baby. You are bringing a new life into the picture; so, why don't you concentrate on your pregnancy for now. Forget about your ex.
2007-06-20 06:10:42 · answer #7 · answered by yopude 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Measure! one side you have a guy who kissed your best friend inspite of loving you.On the other side you have anothr guy who seems to love you, trust you,never hides anything from you and you even have deeper relationship with him.If you go back to youe ex then probably you will start comparing him with ur current bf.Imagine someone leave you like that just because he suddenly start feeling about his ex.why do you choose to go for relationship with this guy when you dont love him.... actually you loved him but after your ex talked to you,your love starts fading fot your current bf."It better to live with the one who loves you rather than to live with the onw whom you loves"
2007-06-20 06:36:07 · answer #8 · answered by kashyff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I'm sorry. It is going to be OK. You need to let go of your EX- bf. You have to spend more time with your Bf and try to know him a little better. Try to make him love you and before you know it you will love him, too. Did you tell him about the baby? Hope so. Everything is going to be OK. Your new Friend Magi. hope I answered your qeustion.
2007-06-20 06:32:05 · answer #9 · answered by мαɢɢιє 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its crazy how us women want the one that isn't good for us. But if you weigh your options being with the one that is straight up with prob. would be best. You can't keep comparing ur bf w/ the ex, because you might end up losing a good thing.
2007-06-20 06:15:21 · answer #10 · answered by cj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋