Just Curious And Wanted Opinions.
2007-06-20 06:02:08 · 50 answers · asked by MrsD4life<3 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
WAY too young!!
I am not trying to underestimate your LOVE for whomever it is that you want to be engaged to. I am SURE that the love is very real and very strong to you and him both... BUT there is still A LOT that the two of you have yet to learn. There is SO much growing and CHANGING that BOTH of you will do (especially in the next 4-5 yrs!). There are SO MANY experiences that you havent had yet!
So... my advice is to WAIT! If the two of you ARE truly "meant to be" then you will both STILL be together when the time IS right and when you are both old enough to really grasp the concept of "FOREVER" which is what you PROMISE one another on your wedding day!
At LEAST wait until you graduate to get engaged ... perhaps he could even ask you on graduation night (or prom night... wouldnt THAT be romantic!?) Then wait another 4 yrs (until you have graduated college) to actually get married!
This way you are both SURE that "forever" is what you want w/ one another... both of you will have completed your education and will have jobs that will grant you financial stability (b/c the stress of everyday life, aka bills, housekeep, kids, and all that jazz is what BREAKS up a marriage if you havent planned for it properly!)!
Plus... it will give you BOTH a GOAL to strive for, something to look forward to and will PROVE to BOTH of you and more importantly your PARENTS that you are both responsible enough, mature enough and COMPLETELY POSITIVE that the union of husband and wife is what you WANT!
Good luck and again, remember that if its meant to be.. he will STILL be around 2-3 yrs from now, STILL wanting your hand in marriage, and STILL very much in LOVE w/ you!
2007-06-20 06:14:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Technically, there is no age that is too young to be engaged. So long as you are of legal age when you are married, what difference does it make when you committed?
Practically, however, 16 is WAY too young. A 16 year old has not had time to live their life, learn about love, get to know themselves, prepare for the future, or anything. They will change a LOT in the next 10 years, and they do not know in what ways they will change. It can work out, but the odds are strongly against it. Likely a 16 year old who is engaged will never get married to the person they are engaged to, and if they do, odds are they are divorced before she is 20. If she has kids or debts as a result, the rest of her life is changed forever. I won't go so far as to say it is WRONG for a 16 year old to be engaged, but I will go so far as to say it is not smart.
2007-06-20 06:06:41 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh yeah.... I know a girl that was practically engaged at 16 and got married the day after she turned 18, now 1-1/2 years later she's miserable and her personality made a turn for the worse.
2007-06-20 06:06:21 · answer #3 · answered by dimplez 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, everyone is going to spin out of control and scream no but how about if we look at this like adults. I would say not if you're going to have a very long engagement.
If you truly think you're in love with someone what does it matter if you wait 2 years or 5 years or even 10 years to get married? The piece of paper won't make the love stronger or either party more committed. The longer you wait the better prepared you'll both be to actually make the marriage work right?
How about setting out to prove you're more mature than all of these naysayers think you are? Set the date not based on a period of time but on life goals. Wait until after you're both finished with college and when you get married in 6 or 8 years you can look back and tell them they were all wrong about you.
2007-06-20 06:04:33 · answer #4 · answered by elurle 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Way way too young. Half the people that are 16 don't even have a boyfriend or girlfriend.
Wait till your like 22-25.
2007-06-20 06:05:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends how mature you are and how mature your partner is. Although in today's times people tend to get married at a later age which is why people have responded that it is too young. However, in my grandma's time she was married by age 16. And she attended my uncle's(her son) 60th bday which I thought was amazing because today people are having kids at 60(extreme case). If you know in your heart it is the right person for you and you agree on most fundamental issues and share similar values then get engaged. Only you know who is right for you. But don't do it because you are being pressured but only because you feel you are ready.
2007-06-20 06:11:50 · answer #6 · answered by SweetV 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am sorry but if your thinking of getting married don't!also if you have any friends! You will be to young who knows if you even like him next minute after that when your 17 you will have a child when your 20 you'll find he was cheating on you and you are alone with this little 3 yr old wondering what went wrong, your child is now 7 yrs old and she /he is asking what happened to dad!And worst of all you could be poor the hole time this happens!
2007-06-20 06:09:48 · answer #7 · answered by dani:] 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, you're not even legal yet!! You are still young, enjoy it. You dont need to rush into an engagement at this age, chances are that you two will end up breaking it off anyway because its too soon.
2007-06-20 06:08:14 · answer #8 · answered by gremlin1422 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes because you are going to change so much from 16to 25 and past that you will most likely end up growing out of the person. Then you will be married to a person that you don't even recognize and probably don't even want anymore.
2007-06-20 06:06:00 · answer #9 · answered by nathan r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Way, way, way too young. I was engaged at 17. Bad idea. You don't really know who you are yet, and neither does he. So much is going to happen in the next few years that will shape your personality in so many different ways. I would definatly say to wait.
2007-06-20 06:05:51 · answer #10 · answered by mv_alva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋