my cousins live away, but when they come down here on vaca to see all my family, who, by the way, all live up here, they are treated like their best friends, and my close family, who come to all the parties, give the gifts, and are here all the time, are invisible. and my aunt is getting married, and i dont think she'll put me in her wedding, and my mom gets really mad about that stuff and takes NO excuses, so i was wondering if you think i will be in the wedding. P.S. i am older by 2 years to the oldest cousin thats far away. P.S.S. im 12 P.S.S.S. i do like my cousins, and we are all girls
2007-06-20 05:49:14 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It's fairly tricky to find a place in the wedding for a 12-year old...In all truth, it's tricky to find a place in the wedding for a 10-year old, too. Usually, a flower girl is younger than this, and a bridesmaid is older.
It might work for you to be a junior bridesmaid, but your aunt may want to have her adult friends & family stand up for her.
If I were in your shoes, I'd let this one go. At your age, it's very uncommon for you to be participating in a wedding...In a few more years, you'll be of a more appropriate age. In fact, 10 years from now, you'll probably be saying, "Dang it, there are too many weddings, and I can't be in all of them!", because your friends will all be getting married.
Don't for a minute believe that just because you're not in the wedding that your aunt doesn't love you. I have nieces, and I know how precious they are to me...I'm sure she feels the same.
2007-06-20 08:54:16 · answer #1 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your aunt might not put you in her wedding but if her excuse is that there is no place for you you can be a junior bridesmaid or a hostess at the door, you can greet people and seat them, you can pass out programs and favors. Do you want to be in the wedding so you can be seen and look pretty? If so then just get a very beautiful dress and make your aunt jealous that she didn't put her beautiful niece in her wedding. Maybe when the plans come up you can make a suggestion. Good Luck. Have fun even if she doesn't put you in it.
2007-06-24 20:46:29 · answer #2 · answered by misstee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This will be your aunts decision, but usually it is someone of older age that is in the wedding party other than the flower girl and ring bearer. Would you like to be the flower girl, or a junior bridesmaid. This may be a possibility.
2007-06-28 04:05:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not asked to be in the wedding, at least offer to help out in any way that you can. Even if it's getting things ready for the ceremony or reception, every single bit of help really eases the stress on the bride and groom!
2007-06-27 05:42:10 · answer #4 · answered by Rock Goddess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I want to be honest. It is her wedding. She can select who she wants. I would say stop being jealous and be happy she is getting married and will be happy. IS that not the important part of the wedding she is getting married not about you and your mom. Please understand me I am sorry for you but look at the important thing. It is her day not yours and your moms.
Soon you will have your day and you can have it anyway you can.
2007-06-24 11:46:08 · answer #5 · answered by videoman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's your aunt's wedding. she can do whatever she wants. she can put anybody she wants in her wedding. it's not your choice.It's not your mothers choice, she has right to get mad if you are not in the wedding. I'm getting married and my own brother will not be part of the wedding, he has no reason to get mad it's my wedding. so don't get mad if you are not in your aunts wedding. wait untill your wedding so you can not invite her.
2007-06-20 06:00:29 · answer #6 · answered by Ethan's Mama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i doubt u will be in her wedding, if i were your aunt, i would limit my bridesmaids to close friends or sisters. usually 12 is abit young, i wouldn't be offended, u have many years ahead of weddings to attend and im sure u will one day get to be a bridesmaid.
2007-06-20 05:57:25 · answer #7 · answered by spadezgurl22 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The Magic 8 Ball tells me that "all signs point to no" - sorry.
2007-06-26 08:20:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People don't tend to put neices and nephews into their wedding parties. It will likely be their friends or siblings. Sorry.
2007-06-20 05:54:55 · answer #9 · answered by tink 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It's HER wedding.
She has her reasons for selecting people in her wedding.
If you assume or invite yourself - it's VERY rude.
2007-06-25 12:34:37 · answer #10 · answered by rainydaysmile 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋