Recently this guy from school text me, n confess he really likes me. I do not know him personally, just seen him around the campus, i rejected him nicely.
But he kept asking for a chance take me out. Eventually, i agreed, but only as friends. Over the past few weeks we went out 4x, on our last "date" he again tell me how much he likes me, i told him i need a little more time, n he seems fine with that. He text me the same night n say, its not n issue, he is willing to wait.
He still continue to text me the next day, till now i've always replied whenever he contacts me. We were getting on fine. But he stop texting me the past 3 days, only 2 text in total n its no longer sweet n caring its kind of .. indifferent. Didnt hear from him at all yesterday n today.
I'm confused, everything seems fine, we had no arguements or anything like that. What cause the sudden change in attitude? Should i text him first, if so what should i say to him? Should i completely ignore this.
??? :'(
2007-06-20 05:25:14 · 24 answers · asked by Jordaan 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You told him you weren't interested and then you went out with him (only as friends) but he probably had some hope that you would change your mind, but as you didn't he maybe be hurt!
Try to speak to him, text him! Ask him why he got away!
If he asks you to give him a time, just do it!
Have thought that maybe is doing this to see your reaction?!
*Do want you think it's correct! If I was you I would text him!!!
2007-06-28 00:47:15 · answer #1 · answered by Ticha 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's kind of confusing to me so it must be confusing to him too. You went out with this guy 'as friends' four times and you called it dating. You both tell each other what you're feeling. He likes you - you say you need more time. For what? You haven't said whether you like him at all. He gives you plenty of opportunity to express feelings and you don't, not even in your question here.
He's been paying a lot of attention to you without getting much feedback at all. There hasn't been a sudden change in attitude, just a realization that he has to keep being 'sweet and caring' without any reciprocal feelings from you. That's not going to last forever. It's not going to last much longer, the way it looks now.
You keep him at arm's length and then you're surprised he's indifferent. That he even texts you at all at this point shows he's still interested but that interest has a shelf life.
Keep him as a friend and tell him that - it'd be much more honest.
2007-06-28 03:00:36 · answer #2 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You wanted time and space…you got it. Relax on the text messages it seems like the table is turning if you’re not careful. In the first part of your question you have the guy sounding desperate. By the end, you sound like the needy one. Be easy…if you don’t here from him in 3 or 4 days then send a “hello” text. See what happens from there, don’t get all chatty either. Just be cool and confident.
2007-06-28 00:56:26 · answer #3 · answered by tropical 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guy Trick # 11
1. A guy has interest in a female
2. she is either indifferent, plays hard to get, or puts him off
3. the guy pursues her, is diligent, affectionate, consistent
4. the female agrees to go out with him, or return his calls
5. the female still doesn't give him a sign she appreciates the attention, is interested or wants to continue seeing him
6. the guy cools off. Stops calling or texting with the same degree of affection or interest.
** She will start thinking of him and all her attention will be focused on how to draw this same level of attention from him.
GT11 works for the on millionth consecutive time.....
2007-06-28 01:57:55 · answer #4 · answered by yoak 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are starting to fall for him. Well, this is usually happens when a guy is madly in love with the girl and the girl is quite confused. Then, after a little while the guy felt unwanted, he stopped. Then, it's the girl's turn to wonder why he stopped. Then, you text him again. Then, suddenly you are an item already! Enjoy....!
2007-06-28 05:01:01 · answer #5 · answered by Sporty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very obcious what this guy is after. you are not giving it to him so he found someone more willing. I've heard this same story so many times before. A guy will pursue a girl until he gets what he wants then dumps her. say yes to this jerk and after he gets tired of you he will go on to someone else, but don't expect him to be faithful while you are dating? There are a lot of DECENT guys out waiting for a girl like you. Don't settle for third rate.
2007-06-27 23:55:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all when someone you are not interested continues to persue you, you don't incourage his behavior by giving in and going out with him. That won't bring it to an end, it only intensifies it.
Second you went out with him 4 times showing him that you do like him. You've toyed with him. now your upset because he isn't calling.
He is probably waiting for you to call him first because then you have initiated the moves and that pretty much says come and get me.
I would be very much afraid of someone like him because what would have happened if you had never went out with him in the first place. would he have stalked you.
2007-06-28 00:47:12 · answer #7 · answered by Funeeegurl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him this isn't going to work. I had experience with people like this and this is just a sign of a wishy - washy person. Your emotionally unpredictable one day you like me the next day your indifferent. This is just a sign of a crazy person be careful.
2007-06-28 02:52:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hunny!this may sound bad to you...but then again we are talking about men... he wanted you but got tired of waiting. dont be sad. everythin happens for a reason and if hes not talking to you now its for the best maybe somethign worse would of happened in the futur.dont text him be strong. Your a special girl and and he will sooner or later realize he messed up . you are worth the wait so dont feel bad. You needed your time in order not to hurt him and yourself he got impatient ..that his tough luck
2007-06-28 03:14:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem to like his attention more than you like him. You're not really into this guy and your actions have told him that you're not really interested, so it shouldn't bother or surprise you too much if he starts to lose interest in you.
I'd let this relationship fizzle out, unless you suddenly realize that you really do like him and want to date him (as a boyfriend, not just a friend).
2007-06-20 05:31:15 · answer #10 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋