cake in the closet with her ex.. she told me they were just having a taste test in private... should i tell her I will try to be a better fiancee?
2007-06-20 05:20:42 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Sharing the cake, was she...?
Just leave the tart and re-open the bakery!
2007-06-20 05:25:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
It really wouldn't matter how much you tried, you are still going to get the same response.
And that is because the problem does not lie with you, so therefore there's nothing you can do to change things. If she does not acknowledge that what she is doing is wrong, then she will not change it because she doesn't WANT to.
Wonder if the idea of settling down with 1 person and getting married is either something she's not sure she wants, or possibly something that might be scaring her? Either way, only she can do something about it.
A relationship takes 100 % of both parts. You have to be willing to give 100% and she has to be willing to give 100%. Otherwise it is not going to work.
So maybe you should have an honest talk with her to see what the problem is and why she's doing this. And if her answer is "I'm not doing anything wrong", then pick yourself up and move on. Or the other choice is decide that you are willing to live with this behavior.
You sound like such a good person, just in the fact that when SHE'S doing something wrong you just want to make it right. So the problem is not with you. Sounds like you deserve somebody better, somebody that will be willing to give you a 100%.
Good luck!
2007-06-20 07:52:06 · answer #2 · answered by MommaBear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would this be your fault? thank your lucky stars that you found this out before you married her. seriously, is there anything that would get you in a closet with your ex? that's why they are ex's, right? she doesn't get to have private time with another guy, particularly one she's been intimate with once she's engaged. that's the point: you are telling each other and the world that you will share each other, publicly and privately with each other only... it shouldn't feel like a sacrifice-- it should be a priviledge. like no one else is worthy of you and the other way around... that you love each other's company in a way no one else could, or will. she wants "privacy" with an ex or any other man, she can have it... but not with you also. i'm sorry, but you know that isn't cool. don't make her behavior about you, like if you were a better fiancee she wouldn't do things like that. her behavior is on HER. that's not something you can fix-- that's for her.
2007-06-20 05:45:14 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Am i missing something here or is this really about cake?...well regardles if she was just sharing cake..or "doing something"..if you 2 are getting married she shouldnt be anywhere with her ex especially not a closet...were they testing cake for your wedding because thats something you need to be helping her with.....
you both need to sit down and have atlk before you go any further what she did is inappropriate...but it sounds kind of like you need to involved more with her...if this is the case...ya'll both need to think things through and see if this is what you really want because marriage is hard work not playing house....its something that needs to be taken seriously if its what you want....
good luck to you!!---- try to explain more next time or add details..
2007-06-20 05:36:48 · answer #4 · answered by leanne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a million) i don't experience that telephone intercourse is cheating. 2) For me the question is greater whether he will forgive you. that looks to have been fairly a scene you given there... 3) the main question, nevertheless, is whether or no longer you and your fiancee will ever have a trusting courting after this incident; particularly thinking you making this public. 4) i'm afraid that if i could be your fiancee, i would not evaluate marriage anymore. 5) thinking approximately your conceivable destiny relation to his kin, I reckon you're able to ignore approximately this relation and pass on. come across a clean companion and behave greater mature whilst confronted with partnership conflicts. they are inner maximum interior the 1st place!
2016-10-08 21:31:00 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darling, it sounds to me like she wants her cake and eat it, too! If she was truly dedicated to you, she should have been out in the open testing the cake with YOU and not her ex. It's just my opinion.... (and everyone has one), but why is her ex around during your wedding preparations? Is he a mutual friend? If so, HE needs to back off and let the two of you go and move on to someone else. If she isn't over him, then let her go back to him and you move on to bigger and better things. Good luck and GOD bless!
2007-06-20 05:32:34 · answer #6 · answered by kystarlyte_kystarlight 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello r u sick in the head. U should totally dump.I meanu do not share cake in a closer with an ex when you have a fiance.Plus you don't really know what esle that they were tasting.
2007-06-20 05:26:25 · answer #7 · answered by hatianshorty300 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she just wants to make absolutely sure that this cake is what you would want for your wedding to her, which will be the most important day of your life. Her ex was just helping out, because it is important to him that the 2 of you start your marriage on a good cake footing. After all, if the cake wasn't good, it would ruin YOUR DAY.
2007-06-20 05:29:56 · answer #8 · answered by danashelchan 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie I am so sorry, but come on cake in the closet!!? The two of you need to talk. I mean you love her and she loves you that's why you're engaged. She needs to apologizes, she did you very wrong. Try not to get angry when your talking to her that way you get the point across. If she blows you off then get one of her hot friends and share ice cream in the closet or who cares share it in your tub, or bed. best wishes. Andy
2007-06-20 05:34:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she needs to be the better fiance and stop sharing cake in the closet. Cookies...maybe...but cake? No way.
Sorry, this is just too weird.
2007-06-20 05:24:02 · answer #10 · answered by Mia1385 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Sure,
tell her you will be a better fiance for someone who can appreciate you more than what she can. Leave her and tell her you will do better next time with the next relationship. Then, she can have her cake and eat it to - only you will have moved on to better things and better PEOPLE.
Best of luck!
2007-06-20 05:30:46 · answer #11 · answered by Gerry 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋