I lost my retainer. I feel awful and I'm really scared to tell my parents right now. I didn't sleep at all last night and I can't eat. I'm just really worried. I know I need to tell them, but I'm afriad of them. I get in trouble over stuff I couldn't control, they always say I'm not responsible enough. I'm never good enough, but that sisn't bug me cause they had no reason to say it. Now they do. They're use this agianst me forever. I just don't know what to do. It's gonna cost me so money to get new ones, and I can't get a job. I'm just so scared right now. I've already went through everything in my room, and cleaned every draw so when my dad tears through it, he won't get mad about the mess, but what else can I do? Please help me.
2007-06-20 05:04:19 · 9 answers · asked by Lizzy M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Offer to work off the cost of it doing extra chores around the house til its paid off. If you do this they will at least see your starting to grow up.
2007-06-20 05:45:42 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aw, Lizzy, I'm so sorry! I always lost my retainer. I think I lost if like 3 times!! And telling your parents can be SUCH a hard thing. Especially for you. I know you're having a hard time with your parents and "responsibility" and being blamed for things. I'm sorry.
Honestly, you just have to look EVERYWHERE you think you might have lost it. One time I accidentally wrapped it in a napkin while at lunch at school. It got thrown away and I actually got the janitor to help me go through the dumpster! Didn't find it. (And I smelled yucky!)
You just have to tell them. Pick one parent, probably your mom, and tell her how you're so sorry and you're so sad and you really looked everywhere and you don't know what to do. Tell her how you've been trying so hard, you really have been, to be responsible. And you can't believe you would have done something like this. You honestly just can't remember where it is.
Tell her how you feel so bad at how expensive it's going to be to get another one. And tell her that you want to do extra things around the house to help "earn the money" to help pay for it.
You did a good job cleaning out the drawers so he won't get mad about the mess. Good job thinking ahead.
Have you asked your friends if they've seen it? Have you checked trash cans? Did you eat out at any restaurant or fast food place recently, you may have left it there. If you did, it's worth a call. Just call the place and ask if they found a retainer. It's not embarrassing or anything because they won't know who's calling and if they have it, GREAT, if not, they'll never know it was you who called. Would you have taken it out in the car? When you were on the phone? Check behind furniture. Really just try to remember when the last time you wore it, and try to track it down.
Don't spend too long looking and waiting to tell your parents though. If you wait too long, your teeth could move and you might have to get braces AGAIN and that will be even MORE expensive and they'll be even more mad. So, even though it sucks, if you can't find it, you should really tell them in a day, two at the most. Otherwise, you could be costing them even more.
Good luck with everything. Do let us know if you find it!
2007-06-20 13:54:25 · answer #2 · answered by Laurie F 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids lose things. This is an inevitable fact. Do your parents have a right to be upset that you lost it? Yes. Are they really going to hold it against you for the rest of your life? No. Apologize for losing it and let them know that you looked very hard to try to find it and that you feel really bad for losing it. You may even offer to have part of the expense come out of your allowance (if you have one), or offer to do extra chores around the house as punishment. As long as you are apologetic, it probably won't be as bad as you think. These things happen. You're not the first kid in the world who has ever lost their retainer.
Good luck, and try not to worry so much.
2007-06-20 12:26:40 · answer #3 · answered by GroovyGirl623 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie - you ARE good enough. Wish you were my kid.
Well, I'm sorry you feel you're not good enough - and a lot of parents are like that. My parents were and still are like that - so I feel for you.
I even lost my retainers. Here's what I did. I got a part-time job to earn money to buy new ones - and called my orthodontist and explained what happened and asked him if he would take payments. Fortunately he said yes. So I got the new retainers and paid them off every week. Yeah. I was broke but when I finally told my folks what happened and how I handled it, they didn't have much to say. I took all their fun away from them by handling it myself in a mature way.
I learned from that experience, that if you have to bring a problem to the table, it's best to have a workable answer to it ahead of time.
2007-06-20 12:24:08 · answer #4 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to tell them soon, your retainer is VERY important so that you will not grind your teeth at night.
Your parents know it is important and will take you to the orthodontist to get a new one.
yes , they may at first be a little bit annoyed or upset, but please do not worry this much it is NOT the end of the world and things get lost all the time, it was an accident
MAKE SURE they know that you have searched high and low and looked everywhere =(
They will still love you, even though you have lost it, who hasn't lost something of value ?
Please tell them and apologize, its not your fault that it is lost, retainers are small and they will understand..even if they are not pleased that it is gone, they will not yell or be angry because things like this happen in life, they will still love you and would not want you to be crying about this
good luck and please tell them now !
2007-06-20 12:11:51 · answer #5 · answered by Foolintherain 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we all make mistakes. that doesn't make us not good enough. we are. i'm sure your parents have lost things. call your dentist. explain you problem to him. ask him how much he can make up a new retainer for you. let him know that you want to pay for it, and that you'll have to give him monthly payments. use your allowance and any money you have saved from receiving gifts. then tell your parents, explain what you are doing, they should feel so proud of you to take responsibility on your own to correct a situation you feel so badly about. i bet they will pay the bill, but, you should still try to do it on your own, if you can, to prove to them that you are responsible. don't be scared, remember we all make mistakes and we all have lost something in our lives.
2007-06-20 21:42:30 · answer #6 · answered by try 2 help 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I felt that same way when I thought I lost mine in HS!!
I take it out and and put it in a napkin while i am eating, then it dawns on me, take the retainers off the tray before i throw it away.
Just tell him and they might say "oh well, ur teeth is going to go back cricket again" or they might go buy some more...
2007-06-20 12:12:22 · answer #7 · answered by twdy412 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is always the best policy. Tell them asap. Sit them down and talk to them in a calm manner explain how you have searched for it and were afraid to tell them sooner because you were afraid to be called irresponsible and immature. Let them know that you are very sorry and they need to cut you some slack. Don't delay any longer for it will only make things worse and will definitely make you look irresponsible. Best of Luck!
2007-06-20 12:33:56 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could you possibly try asking for a new one and that you want a change without mentioning you lost the old one?
2007-06-20 12:08:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋