i am recently engaged, i am from New Hampshire i moved down here to be with my fiance, who is from Texas. i have no family or friends here. same with him in New Hampshire. where do we get married without making everyone in the family mad or worse not able to atttend??
2007-06-20 04:37:38 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Make it somewhere fun where everyone has to travel (that way no side is saying it's unfair to them). Go to Las Vegas, Disney World, the beach, or even out of the country. Everyone will enjoy having a mini vacation while there for your wedding. My personal choice (which is what I'm doing) is getting married on a cruise...I'm choosing the dock before it leaves, but you can also do it at any of the ports of call. Good luck!!
2007-06-20 04:43:54 · answer #1 · answered by Yoyo 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It will be far easier planning a wedding in Texas, since that is where you live. You'd have to make so many trips to NH to pick out cakes, and hire all the other staff, or you'd have to let your family in NH do most of the planning for you, which means you miss some of the fun planning and getting pampered by the staff. You can have your wedding in Tx, invite everyone from both states, some may suprise you and come to Tx, then have a reception later in NH. You get to party twice! Can't beat that! Some ideas would be to include information on hotels and local Tx attractions in the invitation to the people from NH, they may like to have a Tx vacation while they are there, and let them know that if they are unable to make the Tx wedding, they can join you for a reception in NH on a different date. At the reception in NH, you can show the original wedding footage. You can even send the Tx people an invite to the NH reception and include vacation info on NH for them as well!
2007-06-20 14:19:55 · answer #2 · answered by LoveWithNoBoundaries 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Technically, when the couple is from two different cities, you get married in the city where the bride lives. However, you now live in his state! So it will probably be easier for you to plan a wedding in a state you live in as opposed to trying to plan one in another state where you can't meet in person with the various people doing flowers, cake, catering, etc etc.
Another idea is to do a destination wedding. Get married somewhere else altogether and invite only family or very close friends.
2007-06-20 12:22:18 · answer #3 · answered by tink 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter had a similar dilemma...She & her fiance live here in CA, but all of his family is from MI. We seriously discussed having the wedding in MI, but eventually, they decided it would be better to have it here, for a lot of reasons. The most significant reason for doing it here was the planning process. It's really hard to plan a wedding...almost impossible to do it remotely. I would recommend that you have the wedding in TX, since that's where you are now. Your family won't get mad...they already know that you live in TX, so it won't come as a surprise. Just let them all know about it with as much advance notice as possible, so that they'll have time to save up their travel funds.
2007-06-20 12:43:45 · answer #4 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you can invite your immediate family to an island or a small church where you want to get married and then have both your receptions party in New Hampshire and one in Tx that way everyone is invited and there is no problems. Congrats
2007-06-20 11:59:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to pick one. Our situation is the same since my whole family/friends are basically in Tx and is are in Ohio.
We just decided to do a simple numbers game. We each made a list and the one with the biggest family is where we are having the wedding. Some of my family is throwing a fit but they will get over it. Somebody's family has to travel so we went with the one who will have to travel the least and will have a casual get-together when we get back to Tx for anybody who didn't make it to the wedding.
2007-06-20 11:55:47 · answer #6 · answered by pspoptart 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Traditionally you get married in the brides hometown.
My husbands family was all from out of town. We live in Texas, he's from Mississippi. We thought we'd have a small wedding because we didn't expect all the out of towner to come, but EVERYONE we invited came!!! I sent out save the date magnets 6 months ahead of the invitations so people could start saving money and making arrangements to come.
2007-06-20 12:42:05 · answer #7 · answered by PhantomRN 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it just depends which of your family's is more understanding. cause i was in the same situation as you my fiance at the time is from new Hampshire and he moved to Texas with me but his family was more understanding than mine so we had our wedding in Texas
2007-06-20 11:51:53 · answer #8 · answered by Kami 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest you have a justice of the peace marry you, with just your parents there. (Somewhere they can all make it too) They are the most important people to be there (I imagine).
Afterwords, you can have two separate ceremonies, one in Texas for his family, one in NH for yours. You can either have a formal church ceremony (I think they just bless the marriage), or just a reception. That way no one is put out too much, and everyone can be a part of the celebration. Just make sure you make them both very simple, or it could get very costly.
2007-06-20 11:48:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How about a small wedding in the Caribbean?
Obviously some people are going to have to travel... no matter where you have your wedding. Some people aren't going to be able to afford it or take off work, etc. So you should have your wedding where you want and only invite the people closest to you.
2007-06-20 11:45:25 · answer #10 · answered by *Just Married* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋