This question is meant for both gender. I just wanna know what are the views of the society regarding virginity. For example, for guys, whether you give a damn about ur gf's/wife's virginity. And girls, do you lose it easily or you are still fighting to keep it for your future husband.
2007-06-20 04:23:28 · 24 answers · asked by kampung_minyak 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I wanna know what are the views of the society about virginity. This question is meant for both genders. Do guys actually care if their gfs/wives are not virgins? Do girls still fight to keep their virginity for their future husbands? Do people think less of non-virgin people?
2007-06-20 04:44:23 · update #1
I personally don't care much about it I guess. I understand the people that say it's a special gift to their spouse and whatnot, but really, when it comes down to it, it's a personal choice.
The only reason I can see for it being so special is that it's your first time doing something and we as a society tend to glorify first times (tooth, step, day of school, etc.). The first time often isn't that great, it can be painful for the woman, and after you do it again, it diminishes the importance of that "first time" because you realize how much better it can be. Why worship something that's physically not that great or pleasant for many women?
That being said, I don't think you should just throw your virginity away at anyone, but I don't think it deserves the special status it has received. I think this whole saving yourself deal is a just a way for parents and society to keep kids out of trouble by guilting them into a popular morality. To each their own I guess.
2007-06-20 04:51:55 · answer #1 · answered by RJ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't care and never have. I prefer my gfs to have a well-rounded relationship experience prior to me. That way I feel they are progressing with me. Sex plays a big part in how your previous relations went. It is a dynamic that can't be understood by those who have refrained from it. I see experience with anything prior to me as positive. Plus, marrying a virgin would make me feel like she missed out on certain thing before me and someday she will most likely have some type of crisis feeling that she should have experienced certain things before the marriage! I want the women I'm with to have done all the crazy thing and adventurous lifestyle before me to get it out of her system. That way it's not an issue later. Life isn't always pretty, and finding that special person who has endured the good and bad is more emotionally fulfilling to me. It allows me to relate more over time.
Love and true intimacy exists in the mind and heart via connections of common experiences; not in genitalia and the choices made with that genitalia.
2007-06-20 04:59:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am almost 20 and am still a virgin. There are some guys that get shocked as if virgins don't exist but I figure I haven't found the right guy yet so why lose it for no reason?
2007-06-20 04:35:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
whether you do it with your long-term boyfriend, your dating ought to end day after today. So aside from marriage, it is totally no longer liable to be waiting to endure in ideas the 1st time as an particularly significant journey. because of the fact marriages are not any further as respected as they could have been, waiting for 'genuine love' or stuff like that makes intercourse look like something you may desire to deserve. yet in certainty it is basically someone-friendly want.. So at present you may no longer blame childrens who do no longer decide to have unrealistic expectancies. yet of direction if nature isn't calling, people could desire to attend a sprint and do it with somebody they experience mushy with. And 12 is a strategies too youthful. perhaps sixteen or 18.
2016-11-07 00:51:38 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I remained a virgin until my junior year in highschool. That is when I met the greatest guy in the world. I fell head over heels in love with him and we did the deed. I never regretted it and I am not ashamed of it. My mom always told me that when you meet the right person, you will "just know". I was just lucky that I met him so early in life b/c people often search their whole lives to find the one. Me and Mr. Wonderful dated through my junior and senior years and are still together today. We have been together 7 years and married for almost 4 years. He is my one and only and I love him for that.
2007-06-20 04:35:58 · answer #5 · answered by crystal g 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
depends on the guy. I for one would appreciate the sacrifice my wife had made if she was a virgin. Believe it or not, there's guys in their 30's out there who are virgins. If nothing else, it's the best way to avoid kids and STD's, both of which can make it really hard to find a meaningful relationship.
2007-06-20 04:31:21 · answer #6 · answered by me 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some girls, yes, will give up their virginity quickly, because they want to fit in with their friends. A lot of girls that I used to know had done that so that they could all be on that same level.
When I lost my virginity, I was in love with the boy that I had done it with. I don't regret it for an instant, because I honestly thought that I could see myself married to him.
It usually takes a lot for me to allow a guy to be that intimate with me. I wound up getting pregnant 9 months ago because of a lack of reserve. Now, it takes a lot more to convince me to get in bed.
Some guys enjoy the idea of their girl having experience under their belt, because they think that will make them more skilled. Of course, most guys enjoy the idea of taking away a girl's virginity.
2007-06-20 05:36:50 · answer #7 · answered by Whooosh! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I care about virginity! I WISH I still had mine. (Although I wouldn't have my daughter, but still...)
I think the hardest part is, once you lose your virginity, it is WAY harder to not sleep with the next person in your next relationship. And sex can create a really intense (but often one-sided) bond with people. It can be a fake bond too, attaching you to someone you aren't meant to be attached to.
It truly is a much bigger deal than a lot of people think.
2007-06-20 04:59:27 · answer #8 · answered by loves2sing 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm still trying to keep mine for my future husband and I'm over 30 but I'm losing patience these days: not with biology but with all these pathetic guys out here. I only do it for God because none of the men in my community seem to deserve/value it. If I ever lose faith in God, I'm going to end up feeling like a fool for waiting so long.
2007-06-20 04:48:35 · answer #9 · answered by artsy_lovely_lady 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I guess I don't think of it as something for my husband, but something for me. I want to be comfortable and really care about the person, and that hasn't happened yet.
When I do find the right guy, I don't think it will matter if he is or is not a virgin, because if hes the right one, hes the right one.
P.S. I am 21.
2007-06-20 04:28:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋