I met a really good looking girl - we hung out a couple times. The other day we went back to my place and she spent the night with me.. we didn't want to move too fast so nothing serious really happened. She was sick with a pretty bad cold also..
The next morning I drive her home and head off to work. Since I hardly got any sleep (maybe 2 hours) and the night before I was up all night also - I was out of it and I didn't even ask her how she was feeling..
So the day goes by and around 3pm I talk to her - I ask her how she was feeling - and find out she's no longer interested because I had not asked her how she was feeling SOONER..
So now I look like the guy who wanted to hook up with her for her looks and dont care about her... any advice on getting out of this hole? .. she wants to remain friends but told me she's disappointed with me for not calling sooner or asking how she felt earlier..
2007-06-20 03:52:56 · 10 answers · asked by some guy needing help... 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
also ... I wanted to see her today and she gave me a "no" .. basically she wants to be back to no more than friends - do i call her anyway or ... see i dont want to be the stalker either, and i dont want to call and see how she's feeling today cause that would be kinda obvious that i'm calling cause of what she said ...so how to tell if she's playing hard to get or given up on me as a 'guy'..
2007-06-20 04:09:25 · update #1
im a woman and would not act lik that she needs to take her head out of her *** u wer tired and had things on u hav a life and she shouldnt be so touchy..... move on u deserve better
2007-06-20 03:59:55 · answer #1 · answered by alc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So TELL her:
"When I drove you home and headed off to work, you know I'd had hardly any sleep--maybe 2 hours--but I don't think I mentioned that the night before I was up all that night, too! So right then, I was out of it. And, frankly, I could *tell* how you were feeling: Lousy! So I didn't even think about asking then. And when I get myself together and finally call to ask, you hit me with this, 'Why didn't you ask sooner?'
"Well, I've thought about it, and I've got an answer. Maybe it's not a good answer, but it's the truth.
"It's because I'm only human. And I've got a job I want to keep. And, heck, I'm a GUY! If the only way we can be more than friends is for me to act like your best woman friend *all the time,* even when I'm not at my best, either--well, I'm never gonna qualify! I really care about you, but I'm not Superman, and I'm sure not Wonder Woman.
"So will you forgive me? I honestly think I deserve it, but it's up to you!"
If she accepts that, she's NOT high-maintenance, selfish, and insecure. If she doesn't . . .
2007-06-20 04:11:21 · answer #2 · answered by georgetslc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
But you did call her and on the day in question just not at the time she thought you should call - can we say extreme unrealistic expectations? You do not appear anything like a player. She has got some serious issues and you know, if she wants to remain friends, that might not be such a bad thing, if she is already getting angry because you called at 3 instead of say 10, that is controlling, obsessive demanding, childish behavior and it only gets worse. Good luck with all of that.
2007-06-20 04:00:50 · answer #3 · answered by carpathian mage 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow. I'm a girl, but I don't think that you should feel that badly...if you called her at 3 pm the next day and asked her how she was feeling, I think that was pretty nice of you! (Some guys wouldn't think to call and ask at all!)
If that's all it takes to make her "no longer interested" in you, she sounds pretty high-maintenance to me.
Just my two cents :)...good luck!
2007-06-20 04:16:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I mean the only thing you can do is explain to her why you didn't call her early. She can take it or leave it. To me it sounds like she is using that as an excuse because its not like you two had sexual relations and then you didnt call her. She is making it too big of a deal. If she really liked you she wouldn't be blowing this out of proportion...
2007-06-20 04:02:42 · answer #5 · answered by MonaLisa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Females are very sensitive about stuff like that. Lesson learned. I'll tell you though, if she REALLY likes you, she'll come around. She's just teaching you a lesson.
good luck.
2007-06-20 03:57:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
is she really sensitive?
if so, you should just be able to explain to her that you care about her enough to be asking about her on YAHOO ANSWERS, well not the yahoo answers part, but you could just tell her that you cared about her and made a mistake on ur part.
if she's not ok w/ that, she's probably not worth it.
-birdie
2007-06-20 04:11:14 · answer #7 · answered by birdie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you were just tired and any appearance of thoughtlessness came out of your fatigue.
Personally, I think you're better off not pursuing her romantically. She sounds too needy.
2007-06-20 03:58:30 · answer #8 · answered by amazingly intelligent 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is impossible! i mean you phone the same day so what is the problem i think there is something that she did not like about you that is a lame excuse she is giving you.
2007-06-20 04:00:19 · answer #9 · answered by Maphondo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This woman is high-maintenance, selfish and insecure. Run away as fast as you can.
2007-06-20 03:57:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋