My loving girlfriend of almost 4months
is very much in love with me however
before me she dated this guy naturally they broke up because she got "raped" but her mom
told me she was a big flirt.
And her mom said to me that she got raped because shes always running around flirting with
random guys. And she said that my girlfriend
slept with the guy then she went back and tease
him and then he raped her but my gf told me
something different should i trust her mom?
better yet should i tell her what her mom said?
But she told me a different story was she went
to a friends house this guy was feeling on her
and she didnt like it
but she didnt tell anyone then she went back
over there in some bootie shorts and
he raped her.
But i dont believe that one bit
so knowhing she cheated on her ex
will she cheat on me too? or am i just being
insecure
2007-06-20 03:52:13 · 24 answers · asked by Mr1NCR3D1BL3 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This leads to a trust issue. You can't have a relationship without trust. That is a waste of both of your time. From experience, don't be the boyfriend that accuses someone that got raped of not getting raped. Rape is very hard to deal with and to come to terms of understanding with. As far as her past, that is her past. Its not like she was born the day she met you. What happened in the past is what just what happened. You can not change and anything about it! Its completely up to her if she wants to share the events of the past with you. Ok? Seriously, don't ruin your guys relationship over the past. Live for the future and today! You sound like a good guy, so just move on with things! Oh-and TOTALLY AVOID conversations like what you have had with her mom-that is just completely not a good idea!!!!!!!!!!!! YOu have no idea what kind of person her mom is or what kind of relationship they have!
2007-06-20 04:03:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you still have feelings for her after not talking to her for almost four months. Maybe there could still be something there. You know her as a person. Cheating sucks, we all know that. We also ALL make mistakes, some are just bigger than others. It depends on you. If you want her back, then go get your girl back. No point in you both being unhappy because she screwed up once. Her immediate honesty, says something. Habitual cheaters wouldn't care enough to tell you in the first place, definitely not right after it happened. The ball is in your court what do YOU want? There is your answer.
2016-05-20 08:56:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rape is NEVER the woman's fault. There is NO excuse to rape somebody. That doesn't mean your girlfriend was raped, but none of this "she flirts and teases" crap means she didn't get raped, and it certainly does not mean she was at fault if she was.
So think about it. It sounds like you are not very certain about what happened, and her mother is not necessarily the best source. Are you SURE she wasn't raped? If you don't believe her, then there are trust issues here. If you don't trust her about something this important, then how can you trust her about anything else? But if it is TRUE and she WAS raped, then she doesn't deserve you. She deserves someone better.
2007-06-20 03:58:10 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What? This is way too much drama! Why is her mom so nonchalant about her daughter being raped? And it doesn't even sound like she was raped. It sounds like she screwed around on her boyfriend and is just so immature that she'd rather claim that she was "raped." Did she ever tell the police she was raped? Did the guy ever get arrested?
I think you are dealing with an immature conniving liar. I'd get rid of her before she starts telling lies about you too.
2007-06-20 03:57:45 · answer #4 · answered by smellyfoot ™ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheater, always a cheater.
On the issue of rape, however, you need to ask her to tell you the truth, b/c "someone (her mother, but don't reveal names)" is under the impression that it was her fault, and it wasn't really rape. See how she reacts.
2007-06-20 04:02:34 · answer #5 · answered by Sara 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just have some fun with her and drop her as soon as you find something worth keeping. You can always keep geting bootie calls from her in between candidates. Her mom even says she's a skank.
2007-06-20 04:03:44 · answer #6 · answered by locumbeta 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is my oppinion only..but i would have to say..YES!!!! she will definately cheat on you..sorry if that hurts ..but yes she will..it sounds like you have a gf who likes to flirt..and thats harmless unless something happens..like shes drinking or whatever..but i would say if her mom is telling you this kind of thing i would have to believe her mother..it sounds like shes done this b4 so i would be careful..to me ..once a cheater...always a cheater..i know this for fact..because my boyfriend cheated on me..several times..but he has now become aware that im not putting up with his behavior anymore. only reason im still around and we are not together anymore is because we have a daughter. so please be careful or you might end up getting hurt..( heart hurt ) and thats up to you if you want to tell her what her mother said..maybe you should and do it in front of her mother..she will be defensive if shes guilty....good luck either way..
2007-06-20 04:13:42 · answer #7 · answered by nunya 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheater, is always a cheater!!! Looks like you got your hands full with this one. Suggest you move on and find someone with less drama.
2007-06-20 04:00:28 · answer #8 · answered by djgottaknow 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nice hat in the Av. Hey are you one of the Village People???
Your GF is a skank. Time to replace her; is her mom available??
2007-06-20 03:55:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheater always a cheater. It's like smoking once you get the hang of it, you keep doing it and doing it.
2007-06-20 03:55:25 · answer #10 · answered by yahhhhhhhh 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋