Me and my boyfriend have been together for 6 months now and we love each other very much. The only problem we have is the sex issue. It is great .... when we get time! We are both 20 and we both still live at home with our parents. This is very frustrating as we never get time to be alone and to have sex. We dont have loads of money at the moment either so neither of us can afford to keep going to hotels etc. The one time my parents are going to be out this week - i am on my period! We havent had sex for about a month now and we are both finding it very frustrating. I dont want it to end up that either of us ends up going elsewhere for it. We do love each other very much but i cant see a way around this problem. He refuses to have sex if anyone else is in the house even if we are in my bedroom or his bedroom with the doors locked?!
Any advice?
2007-06-20 03:25:44 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh i've been there, there's just no where to go! It is uncomfortable when the rents are home-so I see where he's coming from. I never found a solution either. We tried it in the car once at night...we went to a very secluded location too...and the cops came and knocked on the window! It was so embarrassing!! Just hold out honey....you'll find the time and a place eventually.
2007-06-20 03:31:47 · answer #1 · answered by Rockstar ☆ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's see, your both 20, both still living with your parents, not much money. What are you thinking? Instead of worrying about having sex, you should be working full time or going to school and working part time. Stop living with your parents, get a real life. Just your luck, you'll end up preggers, living off mommy and daddy and welfare.
Ok, lecture over, now for real, you should be more concerned with starting your own life, rather than being in the situation you are in. At 20, you are an adult and should be out on your own. Seriously, life is short, get going.
Good luck
2007-06-20 03:33:23 · answer #2 · answered by randy 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's summer, go find a field somewhere in the middle of nowhere.
Edit: For everyone who says wait... screw that. That's about as good as the advice Yoda gave to Anakin when he said he loved someone and was afraid she was going to die. And we all know how well _that_ worked out.
You're not happy with the status quo so apply your mind and come up with a solution.
2007-06-20 03:30:20 · answer #3 · answered by 006 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, I disapprove of sex before marriage, but just assuming I don't feel this way my advice to you would be:
Try and make a very good friend who is living away from their parents house and ask them if you can "borrow" their place when they are out of town or not at home. You don't have to sleep over there, but make sure that you clean up after yourselves.
2007-06-20 03:35:08 · answer #4 · answered by Ashleigh L 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well reason why he doesn't want to have sex in his and your parents house while there are people there is out of respect.
Sex isn't everything you know. I was in a similar situation and if you guys really love each other you will find a way to deal with it untill one of you moves out and gets their own place.
2007-06-20 03:42:18 · answer #5 · answered by MORENA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he might feel rushed or frustrated when having sex at home with someone there... if u wait thats not so bad cause then it will be just as good the next time cause you too havnt done it in so long... as for the money problem, if you all have jobs just save for a room or wait till the parents are gone again.... i have the same problem and im only 17. i wish u luck and just dont worry about rushing, if u wait longer, it will feel just as great.... good luck
2007-06-20 03:31:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs excitement in his life, which having sex in the house with the parents is. Um this was my alternative for years: 1. Buy a tent. 2.Pitch it somewhere on the yard. 3. Make sure your parents lock their windows 4. Make sure you take it slow but make it passionate. :) 5. Make sure your parents or his parents wont mind. and 6. If you ... um moan loudly take a pillow :). It worked for me and i hope you will consider this. :)
2007-06-20 03:52:04 · answer #7 · answered by Dj Volt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Not a whole lot you can do if you both are living at home and he refuses to be intimate when anyone is home. I wouldn't worry about him going elsewhere.
2007-06-20 03:29:31 · answer #8 · answered by Stefka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is always the car, back roads, in the woods, down by a lake, anyplace where there are no people. You have to think creatively on this one.
2007-06-20 03:29:53 · answer #9 · answered by Just Life, Trying To Live It. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you 2 should take it slow....eventually u both will be on ur own and u will have ur own will at everything.
have a serious talk with him and let him know that he have to be patient....think!!
2007-06-20 03:30:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋