Why am I a good person and kind of cute and yet I can't find a good man all I attract is losers?

Question

I have my head on straight, I have a 11 year old son and I'm 26 I get all the dead beats and yet my friends who are bitches get all the good guys why can't I be a good girl with 1 good man?

Answer 1

its a vicious cycle... hang in there missy, you'll meet someone!

Answer 2

First of all, your friends who are bitches might be more attractive in terms of looks. Secondly, what kind of friends do you have if you call them bitches? It makes your value go down and seem like a ***** yourself for judging them that way. Is it a problem with your attitude? And how do you know all you attract is losers. A guy may have inititally be attracted to you but decided to back off because of your bad personality.

Reflect upon yourself, assess your weaknesses and strengths, reask a different question that reveals less of your personality.

A girl with a cute face means and a crappy personality means nothing. Its just an outter shell that people look at. But when guys break down your shell and see your insides, they must be able to find gold or they will NEVER stay with you.

Vol.

Answer 3

Perhaps you're choosing the wrong men. Take a look at what it is about the men you've been with that you've been attracted to, and what it is about the same men that you consider loser behaviour. Perhaps you'll find a trend. When it comes to men in your future, don't look for the same qualities, don't choose the same type of man hoping that this time he'll be a good one. Look at the qualities you want in a relationship instead of the instant-rush-attraction. Or say yes to someone you never would have considered before. You might be pleasantly surprised.

Answer 4

Sometimes the best possible husband could be right under your nose. you would be surprised at how many nice guys are friends with the ones they like. They may not be the usual type of guys that you might go for but give them a shot. Thats all I can think of so good luck and hang in there, it will happen sooner or later.

Answer 5

It is so hard...it will work out though, trust me. It took me years to find my fiance. Maybe youre looking at the wrong type of guy. Sometimes women are surprisingly shocked when they give someone a chance who they normally wouldnt even think about dating. Usually the quiet, geeky ones are the ones who will end up being great husbands. Good luck!!

Answer 6

erin said it best above. You have to find out what it is that attracts you to these guys that do you wrong my dear. You also need to sit down and write on a piece of paper what you want in a man, what you think you want in a man, and what you usually go for in a guy . Compare those list and them your journey will begin

Answer 7

probly b/c losers like 2 try 2 find pretty, good girls. they want 2 make u a bad girl. its probly like a fantasy or somethin! lol honestly this is not a joke.... but i think u should jus go 2 church, find Jesus and find a man. alot of men in church r lookin 4 wives b/c tha Bible says "he who finds a wife finds a good thing"

Answer 8

You had a son at age 15!?

Answer 9

looking for love in all the wrong places, it will find you. try church or some social club, forget bars..all u get is someone's husband and problems. I have the same problem, all the wackos come after me cause I am too nice. don't give up.

Answer 10

it is not that hard to meet some one good, I think that the odds are that you go after the wrong guy, then then when he turns out to be the wrong guy you say see I only get losers

it is your fault, I bet there are some guys out there who asked you out who were good and you said no

Answer 11

the problem isn't you. it's everyone else. some men can't see a good thing even when they are looking right at it. you'll find a good one, it just takes time.