I am so angry at her because she has 4 kids and she didn't take them into consideration when she tried to overdose on pills. How do I get over my anger towards her and talk to her. I have had several conversations with her trying to help her get her life on track. She doesn't take my advice and listens to people who don't care about her. She is 24 and has 4 kids I know that is stressful but she put herself in that situation and now she needs to deal with it.
2007-06-20 02:42:32 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
From someone who works as a therapist and struggles with depression and occasional suicidal ideation I can tell you that she was probably very much aware and thinking of her kids. The problem with depression is that you feel so bad about yourself that you start thinking that people would be better off if you were dead. It's not a character flaw, but rather a symptom of the illness, one that has a biological cause and can be treated with medication and therapy.
I advise you to learn all you can about depression and allow your sister to tell you what she is going through. Trust me, she needs your love and support now more than ever.
Take Care & God Bless,
2007-06-20 02:56:45 · answer #1 · answered by ஜSnazzlefrazzஜ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She has to be unhappy and overwhelmed. You're angry ?
She just tried to deal with it. If you want her to make a different choice, help her think, and be nice about it. Help her at home for a few days so you can have a CLUE as to why she made that decision. Probably her 4 kids, under 7 I'm going to guess, are too much to handle.
She needs to get very organized, and very disciplined about her kids, and tolerate very little trouble from them. But get accustomed to being firm without being abusive. Get all the sugar snacks out of the house. Kids who can put their own toys away, etc. She needs to be the boss and loving mom, not the clean-up lady.
Threaten to lose the TV and any video games and sources of loud music or noise, etc.
2007-06-20 02:55:06 · answer #2 · answered by Laurence W 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She needs to seek professional help ASAP. I don't mean this in a rude way but she already passed the maybe stage to the possible. Remove yourself from the situation. I know you care about your sister and her children and can't imagine why she would opt out in that manner but realize not everyone is the same. Some are stronger than others. Look past your own disappointment and realize your sister needs some serious help. Anger is probably the emotion that overtakes your concern so please try to look past it. Talk to her, all the while letting her know how worried you are about her well being as well as her kids. And send her to a therapist ASAP -- she needs to talk to a professional to get to the bottom of why she did what she did and how she can deal with those emotions in a more beneficial way. Best of luck
2007-06-20 02:53:30 · answer #3 · answered by Jessie 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First you've got to realize, even if she doesn't show it, she is riddled with guilt. Her life must be pretty bad that she wanted to take it.
Who are these people who don't care about her? are they counselors, doctors and nurses, then it is good she listens to them. They know what they are talking about. But if they are friends and acquaintances then you've got to wonder why.
I know you do love her and you want the best for her. However she may not feel it. In your question you have so much negativity, and selfcenterness (spelling,) I would not take your advice, and I would avoid you.
There is nothing to be angry at. She has a chemical imbalance in the brain. Would you be angry if she had diabetes and fainted because her sugar went too high or low. No you wouldn't.
You need to stop being angry at her and yourself. If she is in the hospital you need to take a break from seeing, and talking to her for like 24-48 hours to put yourself together, and do a bit of research on her condition. Webmd.com is one site.
If you are watching the kids send them to bed a half hour earlier and chill out and take a bubble bath.
2007-06-20 04:19:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Don't be angry with her.
She was in a place that she saw no way out. She felt hopeless, helpless and locked in a dark room with no windows or doors, that nothing was going to change/get better. She really didn't want to die -- she just needed the pain to end.
If you have not been in that place, you will never understand why she did it.
Please make sure she sees a psychologist and a psychiatrist for anti-depressants ASAP. Talk therapy is what she needs. She needs help with dealing with her feelings and seeing things in a brighter light.
Been there -- done that several times.
My best.
2007-06-20 18:55:00 · answer #5 · answered by Marcia K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She isn't looking for advice, my guess is she hasn't been for awhile, she's looking for a way out and can't see one.
Honestly I can't do it either, I didn't jump because I knew it was selfish and caused more pain for others then whatever pain I have with myself, so I'm right in the same boat as you. I F***'in hate suicide cases.
She needs to see professional help, she needs a break from the kids, and she needs to see a light threw the clouds. The problem is she needs to see it for herself and not be told the way out, the best you can do is be there for her to lean on when she wants someone to lean on, but you can't force yourself on her, because she'll reject you and that's not gonna help either one of you.
Don't ask her "why did you do it?" It's a question that just brings all the negative thoughts in her head alive and that's what she'll think about but will most likely say "I don't know".
Just gotta be there for her, maybe take care of the kids for her for a while if you can.
2007-06-20 02:54:39 · answer #6 · answered by m d 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If it has not already happened I would get a court committal to the hospitals psychiatric unit because of the suicidal ideation and attempt...she needs medical help and it needs to be forced sounds like and they will easily commit her because of the attempt and maybe her being there she will see the help she needs and she will get access to counselors and doctors up there and have to make follow up appointments....but you need to stop being mad she needs your support and love I work in psychiatry and a lot of those people that have children that want to commit suicide sometimes think that for the children's sake there life would be better with out them around and they would have someone that could take care of them better.
2007-06-20 02:54:37 · answer #7 · answered by nurserenae 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to have understanding with what your sister is going through. When people try to kill themselves they feel like there is no other way out for them. It was a escape from whatever she may be facing.
Have compassion and talk with her and just give her encouragement that things will look up for her. And try to help her in any way possible to relieve the stress of everyday life.
If she doesn't listen to you then just keep on trying to be helpful and maybe eventually she will open up to you. I know it's frustrating believe me I have sister's who are stubborn and won't listen but don't give up.
2007-06-20 03:01:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My cousin committed suicide and a lot of people in the family felt anger with him even though he was dead.
If you told her you're angry, and you expressed how you felt about it, that's okay. Now let it go, and try to be supportive.
If you find it hard to do, try to find an understanding friend to talk to. If that's not working, maybe counselling would be a good idea.
2007-06-20 03:01:15 · answer #9 · answered by majnun99 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Tell her you're angry with her for this because you love her and really can't imagine life without her.
You're right about the kids, and she needs psychological help and maybe medical help.
Tell her you love her and don't want to learn to live without her. Don't be afraid to use the word "suicide". Obviously, she's already thought of it, so you won't give her any ideas she hasn't already had.
2007-06-20 02:54:06 · answer #10 · answered by jack of all trades 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋