I always seem to get into arguments with my mother in the mornings.
In fact, 24/7.
She is a dentist and is stressing a lot because of so many patients.
She's always telling me to study, like for instance NOW.
What could I do to get along better with her?
2007-06-20 02:41:34 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Stop arguing. Try to see things from her perspective. Try to talk to her when you are both calm. Since she's stressed about work, show her that you care about her by picking up some of her duties at home so that she can relax when she gets off work. You know, do a little cleaning, a little laundry, a little cooking. That will show her that you are being responsible and will earn her respect, and when you have that, you will get more freedom.
She is probably telling you to study because she wants you to get a good job so you don't have to work as hard as she does. She wants you to have a better life than she does. If you got all your studying done right after school, then she wouldn't have to nag you about it, right? And if you got your studying done AND had dinner made, you could sit down together and have a nice, calm, happy meal.
Trust me, you will be AMAZED how much freedom she'll give you if you prove to her you are responsible enough to handle it.
2007-06-20 02:47:12 · answer #1 · answered by sparki777 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you already made the first step. You realize she is stressed. May I suggest ( I know you don't want to hear it) really trying to do what she asks before she does. Like studying. Let her see you studying before she yells. Ex. You have just eaten dinner. You clear your plate, then tell her I am going to do my math. Oh, I was already able to get English done. Leave he a little note in her purse for her to find sometime during the day that just says," I know your are stressed, but I think you are doing a great job." Parents really need to positive discipline also. We forget that we take things out on you when we have a bad day like you guys do us when you have a bad day. You can see right now what she can't. I bet you'll put some tears in her eyes and a smile on her face which will ease the rest of her day. She wants whats best for you, that's why she gets on your back, but when you refuse to do it because you are angry with her, it just starts a horrible cycle. If you are done, ( mean honestly you have done it) and she yells, stay calm, tell her I am done mom I did it as soon as I got home. Would you like to ask me questions about it. I think you are a great kid with a great understanding on your mom. Good Luck.
2007-06-20 09:52:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Understand that she is trying to prepare you to meet the world on your own. She wants you to have the tools necessary to exist and have a decent life when you move out. AND if she is stressing at work, and come home to a sassing argumentative daughter, well, you may be helping to shorten her life.
She wants you to study so that you can have a better career as you get old enough to move out. THIS IS HER GOAL. I would advise you to STUDY when you need to, understand that your mother is not your enemy but your allie in life and when your "friends" all grow up and move away to diverse parts of the world and are no longer friends, your mother will STILL be your mother and will still love you. HONOR YOUR MOTHER, tell her you love her.
2007-06-20 09:59:55 · answer #3 · answered by Gardner? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
agree with her, do what she says and let her have her way.
think of it this way, you only have to live with her for 18 years and then you get to live away from her for 80. Sweet odds right. Besides the more often you let her have her way, you will fight less and then the times you do insist it be your way, she will be more apt to give in.
2007-06-20 09:54:08 · answer #4 · answered by GAgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well maybe go ahead and do the things you know she's going to tell you to do, you know without her having to tell you, if you know you have to study just go do it, it will save her from stressing over that, and maybe ask her if there is anything you can do for her..
2007-06-20 09:46:48 · answer #5 · answered by wafflegurl06 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh my god!!!!! she's the one that nurses you to health every time you get sick.She's the one that gave birth to you,cooks dinner every night(not to forget lunch and breakfast) do you really think your good grades even affect her at all?????? no they dont! would you like wasting your energy every day????? Be a good kid,love your mom
2007-06-20 09:52:13 · answer #6 · answered by Asian grandma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh, get off the computer and STUDY!
2007-06-20 12:18:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋