I have been divorced for 5 years, work a lot of hours, kids all gone away. I don't cruise bars, and I tried online stuff, but just too many crazy people who want an instant relationship.
2007-06-20 02:40:06 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Find some activities you genuinely enjoy (sports, music, dinner clubs...there are plenty of people in your situation) - from there you will no doubt meet people that you have something in common with and can then meet people the 'normal' way.
I suspect you could also just use some new friends or something to do when you are not working.
Yeah, good for you for not doign the bar scene...its creepy enough for 28 year olds, let alone middle agers...
Don't get discouraged, most of these activities will probably suck, but some really will stick!
2007-06-20 02:44:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A friend of mine who was in a similar situation to yourself tried speed dating held a local hotel. The set up at the one she went to was 30 guys at individual tables and 30 women who each spent 4 minutes with each guy. At the end of the night and girls and guys the names of the ones they were interested in and the rest of the night the bar was open in the hotel so anyone who wanted to stay could stay for drinks, but it wasn't necessary if you didn't want to. Because you only have four minutes and everyone there is single and is probably looking for the same thing, you start on an even footing. She met her other half that night and they've been together a few months now.
Best of luck xx
2007-06-20 02:47:09 · answer #2 · answered by stacey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a woman around the same age and have wondered the same thing. I have been single for about four years and have decided that 'dating is over-rated'. It's easier just enjoying my freedom and independence. I hang out with guys sometimes, but it is understood that it's only a friendship relationship as opposed to romance. It is true that you have to 'circulate', not by cruising bars and trying on-line stuff...but just getting out of the house, accepting invites from friends for outings, attending local events, etc. When the main objective is just having fun instead of trying to find someone to date, you come across differently. And if eventually you cross paths with someone that you do connect with....it'll be easier to do that. Avoiding the crazies and predators is the big hurdle. I can relate to your dilemma and can tell you it isn't easy for any of us. Good Luck
2007-06-20 02:50:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may sound inappropriate but you have the highest sex drive now than you ever would have before - your hormones are telling to get those last minute babies in, so don't feel like a dirty old woman! What is wrong with a fling...? I mean, it's been eight years. It is not a bad thing to want to be with a guy and not want to marry him. And it's not bad for you to fancy a thirty year old, it's hot.
2016-05-20 07:34:16 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask friends :) I am 44 I met my husband on the internet almost five years ago we have been married for two years do you start out as friends talk while playing euchre or do you do dating sites?
Friends and family are good soundboards and can also help with interactions also clergy and joining a social group
maybe you need to shorten your work load if you want a relationship
2007-06-20 02:44:41 · answer #5 · answered by Cheryl J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At work ask friends to think about their single friends. Throw a party for friends and ask then to bring their friends too. If you enjoy activities, biking, cars, sports, join an organized group. Church. If you see someone approachable say hi. You will get turned down 8 out of 10 times but it will also get easier an d you will gain confidence. Just be sure of yourself. Women like that.
2007-06-20 02:50:19 · answer #6 · answered by stefani h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is it that you like to do ???? try looking in church, Beach, maybe your Family knows someone who would love to go out .Just don't sit and wait in the house there not coming up to the front door and saying hay I here your ready for a date ... Never find them in a Bar and you don't want a girl who has slept with everyone under the sun . Good luck and God Bless you
2007-06-20 02:48:26 · answer #7 · answered by Libra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try the library, or bookstore. Churches are good if you're into that stuff. Even supermarkets. You seem like you're wanting a decent woman to grow old with, these are some good places to find love.
2007-06-20 02:43:18 · answer #8 · answered by oplumey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Generally speaking, men are on-line looking for sex and women are on-line looking for a relationship. Both frequently lie about their age and personalities. To meet other women try the old fashioned way ... health club, grocery store, church, local organizations, special interest public groups ...
2007-06-20 02:46:43 · answer #9 · answered by lollipop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ballrooms, Golf Courses..
2007-06-20 02:42:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋