Is this a good way to make an enemy a friend?

Question

The best way to knock the chip off your neighbor's shoulder is to pat him on the back.
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Leaving on a Jet plane. Be kind and loving to each other.

Much

Peace and Love

Namaste

Answer 1

I'd say it's a way to make a friend.

Answer 2

A person with a "chip on their shoulder" is a person whom we've perceived with a chip there. Our perception is generally wrong in this regard because it is our perceptions which are clouded with delusions, generally ascociated with "Self".

If we are to make an "enemy" a friend, we must begin by thinking of them as such and stop thinking of them as "enemy". Patting them on the back without thinking them friend first is tantamount to deception and is selfish rather than compassionate.

To begin, acknowledge the "chip" as falsely perceived. Then friendship will blossom, because then there is no chip to dislodge, only our friendship to develop.

The best way to knock the chip off your neighbour's shoulder is to realise it is not there. Then when your neighbour needs your pat on the back it can be provided with Love.

Peace from a Buddhist on this, a most important moment in your Life....

Answer 3

You are amazing. What ever it is, I wish you wellness, happiness, fulfilment and all that is good and beautiful in your life.

It is a walk a mile in my shoes scenario isn't it? We can empathize, criticize, hit the nail on the head or miss it by miles...at least we have made an effort!

Love and peace friend!

Jamie


PS Amiram and Vinslave are absolutly right. Been there in both regards. Please keep those words of wisdom in mind. You are a good hearted person.

Auntb...been there too, actually quite recently! Hurts every time.

Answer 4

It's a good line, actually. Although for some people, patting on the back is the way they get close enough to slip in the knife!

Answer 5

First why are they your enemy in the first place? The best way to make up is be the bigger one and make the first move and approach them to discuss whatever made them an enemy.

Answer 6

I can't say that I desire to make an enemy a friend. Fortunately, I can't think of any enemies in my life.

Have a safe trip and enjoy the wedding.

Answer 7

Yes

Answer 8

silly acquaintances :] nicely, while you're speaking approximately stupid-silly, then yeah. If it is silly like making undesirable possibilities and stuff...then in all likelihood nonetheless yeah smart enemies are greater stable to conquer :[

Answer 9

sure, pat your enemy on the shoulder, but keep a big stick at hand.

Answer 10

Let there by LIGHT(ONLY), not lights nor light + darkness.

Friend: I will never leave thee nor forsake thee: Grace.
Enmity: I will forsake you, the city & your fathers: Law

Christ is our "peace" who abolished the enmity(law).
Christ is the end of the law, the Saviour of the world.
To wit, that God was in "Christ" reconciling the world.
To wit, that God is light(only) did NOT law impute sin;
For law imputed sin to anyone brings death to everyone.
Eg: "Cursed EVERYONE that hangeth on a tree": Gal 3.

No law law = No sin and death sting = No dead end.

The GRACE(ONLY) of our Lord J->C with you->all. Amen.

Answer 11

You make your enemies your friends by no longer seeing them with aversion to them, and understanding that their behaviors are due to causes and conditions, are impermanent and changing. Having compassion for them and altruism, is how you make an enemy a friend.

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