what does this verse mean?

Question

Corinthians 7.1-36

"it is well for a man not to touch a women"but because of cases of sexual immorality each man should have his own wife and each women her own her won husband."
to the unmarried and the widows i say it is well for them to remain unmarried as i am.but if they are not practicing self-control,they should marry for it is better to married than to be aflame with passions.
now concerning virgins,i give my opinions as one hwo by the lord`s mercy is trusthworthy,ithink in view of the impending crisis it is well for you to remain as you are.are you bound to wife? dp not seek to be free are you free from a wife do not seek wife. but if u marry u do not sin and if a virgin marries she does not sin.yet those who marry will experience distress in this life i would spare you that,let even those who have wives be as though they had none and those who mourns as though they were not mourning and those rejoice as though they were not rejoicing and those who buy as though no ..

it seems like god allow us to married but it seems like god meant marriage is not good?is that what god meant?.....and also
it says if 1 corinthians 7.32 i want you to be free from anxieties.the unmarried man is anxiuos abt the affairs of the lord.how toplease the lord.but the married man is anxious about the affaris of the world ,how toplease his wife.and his interest ar divided.and same goes to the unmarried women anxious to about affarid sto the lorsd so that they be holy in body and spirit but the married women is anxious about the affairs of the world to please her husband.i say this for your own benefit,not to put any restraint upon you,but to promote good order and unhindered devotion to the lord.
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f anyone thinks that he is not behaving properly towards his fiancee,if his passions are strong and so it has to be let him marry as he wishes it is no sin.let them marry.but if someone stand firm in his resolve,being under no necessity but having his own desire under control so determined to keep her as his fiancee he willdo well.so then her who married his fiancee does well and he who refrains from marriage will do better.
are you saying that if u want to married it must be decided by God who u are going to married?what if u have acted immoral like kissing with your bf is this a sin already?

that means sex is bad right ?not good?

Answer 1

This is actually an excellent question...Here we're seeing two groups of believers.. Those that are single.. be it as an unmarried person or a widow or widower.. and those who are married.
Our brother paul wrote this portion and he was expressing his own thoughts regarding the matter.. The brother himself being single saw the benefits of leading a single life in God's New Testament Ministry. He saw where him being unattached allowed and afforded him to be more available for the Lord. The Lord called brother Paul to be single since unlike all the other apostles, Paul wrote almost 45% of the whole New Testament. He also received the highest revelations regarding God's Purpose.. he is the Only Brother who wrote regarding the Church as the Body of Christ...he was very clear regarding God's Divine Plan. Because of his singleness too, Paul was able to raise up many churches and be available to the saints. I am sure he had desires for a wife and a family.. its not like our brother was abnormal.. but he himself gave this up in order to give himself fully unto the Lord.. At that time there was no one else who fit Paul's qualifications..unlike Peter and John..who were the other two main writers in the New Testament...these two brothers were fishermen and in quite a few ways were limited .. but Paul's was well educated and as such his capacity was greater for the Lord's use in spreading the Gospel

Had Paul been married he would not have been able to be so free. Its not that marriage is put in the negative light.. but if a marriage is not FOR and UNTO the Lord, then for each of the partners in this union, their cares and concerns for their own lives becomes a stumbling block and even a dead end for God's Move. People tend always to put their own family before other things...even the Lord

Brother Paul had to speak of this because being single or married does not necessarily mean that you will be a seeker of the Lord and give yourself for the Lord.. You can be single and be just as occupied with worldly affairs and struggle to give yourself just as much as a married person.
And in like manner .. a married couple may give themselves sooooo much for God's work that they reject their family and their own children go astray.
The key to this whole passage is seeing yourself...
If you are trying to be like our brother paul and being single because he recommended it then you are fooling youself..
our brother was very thorough in this passage.. If you are burning with passion.. then open yourself before the Lord and pray for Him to send you a wife or husband.

The Beauty of it all is that each type of christian.. be it single or married can be so profitable unto the Lord... Does not matter who you are..we all NEED to seek first the Kingdom of God and His righteous and ALL these things will be added unto us.
I can testify of couples who do not miss the mark.. they have a family yes.. but they are so much for the Lord too.. He is not competing for a place in their home.. in fact.. He is the Lord there.. and their home is open for the Lord.. their children are blessed because of brothers and sisters coming into their homes for prayer meetings or bible study or young people's meetings.. or just having other families over for dinner...
This is a good pattern for the children and a way for the Lord to keep the home sanctified and under his blessing.

To those who are single.. Use your singleness fully for the Lord... keep yourself out of any form of evil.. the enemy will be out to destroy your testimony and use guilt and your own flesh as your biggest enemy to bring you into a compromised postion.
This time in a single person's life should be given for the maximum use to the Lord... He can do so much with your freedom to go and be here and there about The Lord's business..You can be available to pray with.. study the word with.... go to visit others with.. If the Lord need someone to move or go full time to bible study ..that person might just very well be the single brother and sister..
Just remember..nothing is written in stone.. a person may be single now.. and married five or ten years from now... just do not waste the single years in damaging yourself with sin and looseness.. the most beautiful things to see is a single brother or sister. sold out for the Lord and for His Body.

Answer 2

It seems that some Christians in Corinth were advocating asceticism in sexual matters. The pattern it is a good thing . . . , but occurs twice (1 Cor 7:1-2, 8-9; cf 1 Cor 7:26), suggesting that in this matter as in others the Corinthians have seized upon a genuine value but are exaggerating or distorting it in some way. Once again Paul calls them to a more correct perspective and a better sense of their own limitations. The phrase it is a good thing (1 Cor 7:1) may have been the slogan of the ascetic party at Corinth.

3 [1-7] References to Paul's own behavior (1 Cor 7:7-8) suggest that his celibate way of life and his preaching to the unmarried (cf 1 Cor 7:25-35) have given some the impression that asceticism within marriage, i.e., suspension of normal sexual relations, would be a laudable ideal. Paul points to their experience of widespread immorality to caution them against overestimating their own strength (1 Cor 7:2); as individuals they may not have the particular gift that makes such asceticism feasible (1 Cor 7:7) and hence are to abide by the principle to be explained in 1 Cor 7:17-24.

Peace and blessings!

Answer 3

You are to remain chaste before marriage....that means no sex and no petting or necking.
The Bible here is talking about young adults wanting to devote their lives to serve God while they have the strength of youth. It is ok to marry but if you want to devote a few years to God exclusively then it is better not to marry for then you will have the added burden of a wife and soon children.
But if you cannot stay celibate and want sex...then by all means get married.
No person is so important that they can rob you of your chastity. God says to remain a virgin until you wed....for he will judge fornicators and adulterers.
This is nothing new...satan uses promiscuity to lure everyone from serving God. He knows our weaknesses and works on those. So shore up the walls and set up ramparts against the devil so he may not ruin your lives.
Pray to God that you will be protected against the wicked one.

Answer 4

I have understood Paul to approve both celibacy and marriage here. It might be assumed that those who just cannot control themselves should marry in order to avoid immorality, but I don't think that's right.
If you decide to be single, then do it God's way and don't think/do immoral acts. If you choose to marry, God has a plan for that to work as well, so follow the plan and not your own selfish and proud ways.

Answer 5

It means that you shouldnt be sexual with anyone other than your husband. He wanted everyone to remain pure until marriage so that it would be long and prosperous. The way people are now and getting prego at 14 isnt in is favor. He wanted 2 people to be in love and have a blessed marriage then have kids to populate the world in love.

Answer 6

That was Paul's opinion. His life was not for everyone. He is saying that if you fornicate and can't control yourself it is better to go ahead and get married so that you do not sin.

He is also saying that if you married then normal life will require your time that you could have devoted to God's work. However, we are called to different things and different lives.

This is not a commandment but advice from a man who was 100% devoted to God.

Answer 7

Paul is saying under the influence of the Holy Spirit that some people were destined to be single....and some married

Answer 8

Basically single people can spend more time pleasing and serving the Lord. But it is ok to be married, or remarried, to avoid the temptation of sex outside of marriage.

Answer 9

The meaning's clear. The religion wants to treat women as second class citizens.

Answer 10

The Spaced Guy has pretty much covered it. Great answer!