My brother (age 40) & his wife ignore my birthday every year and send me something about a month later, the same for my partner. Yesterday if was my daughters 5th Birthday and that was ignored too - she is their only neice and they have no children of their own. I send theirs on time every year - and they never even say thanks - What would you do in this situation?? Should I make them feel bad re my daughter??
PS: They don't do this to other family member - they get theirs on time!! Its just us!!!
2007-06-20 00:51:56 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Simple answer.....don't bother, your time and effort is wasted and totally unappreciated....and the lack of manners is appalling....Dear Lord...why have you been bothering.....
Disown them...because they obviously don't acknowledge your existence, take the money you save from wasting time on them and spend it in your own home, for those who appreciate what you do.....and why...
2007-06-20 01:36:04 · answer #1 · answered by missceekay 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There are two things that you can could do. First you can keep sending them their gifts on their birthdays only if thats the type of person that you are. You should only do things because you want to do them and not because you feel like as though you should. Or secondly you just stop sending them gifts all together, but that could just make the situation eve worse/bigger than what it is.
I would just talk to them and ask them why for some reason that when it comes to your little niche in the family tree you get treated like an after thought. Hope this helps you a little bit.
2007-06-20 01:12:51 · answer #2 · answered by Icky B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make a conscious decision not to let it bother you ~ probably the best thing to do is ignore theirs and see if they comment on that ~ however, I have experienced this from a family member in the past and now just think ' Life is way too short to worry'.
2007-06-20 01:00:35 · answer #3 · answered by gfj 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mother, whom I am close with, ignores mine every single year and has for over 20 years. She will spends weeks planning something and then crap out in the very end feigning some petty excuse. A month later, when hers rolls around, she plans something and pretends we re celebrating together. She knows it hurts my feelings and she repeats it every birthday and every Christmas. I endure the harassment twice a year knowing it will never change. I feel your pain. I wish I knew of a resolution but it s most likely deliberate.
2015-05-03 18:49:32 · answer #4 · answered by angelacatirina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask them, thats probably what your other relatives have done. Just phone them and ask why they insist on sending presents late to you. Don't feel bad for asking because its not fair on you that only your family has to wait a month longer than everyone else. If they still carry on sending you presents late then I suggest sending them theirs a month late see if they agree on that lol :)
2007-06-20 00:57:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ignore theirs.
2007-06-20 00:56:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Buy them a calender as a gift and write your birthdays on the day of them and put big red hearts around them, they should get the hint, if not tell them you already filled in your important dates, and all they have to do is fill in the others, or you could do that as a favor and tell them that you did it as a favor, my sister in law did that for us about ten years ago and I still have and use it for date reminders still to this day, just tell them you know how busy they are, and you filled it in for them, They should love it.
2007-06-20 01:01:09 · answer #7 · answered by Leeanne 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They may be busy or whatever. My siblings and I stopped with the bday stuff years ago because it is hard to remember everyone and now we just call if we remember or send a funny card if it suits us. I think you need to get something else to worry about rather than a late bday greeting.
2007-06-20 00:57:03 · answer #8 · answered by Gone fishin' 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't send them anything and if they say something then you can tell them why i have a twin sister and she never gets me a present on time and our birthdays the same so i know how you feel
2007-06-20 02:05:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best you can do is to give them payback,and let every one now how and what they are. If it was me I will tell them in there faces what I think of the hole thing. Don't let them get you down give them some of there own medic in,a wise man once said you will only get what you give.
2007-06-20 01:25:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋