I have met someone and we both are very attracted to each other. However im 18 and he's 25. Is this too much of an age gap? I am very mature and sensible, i have the mentality of an adult, i would say. We talk online and we get on great. He thinks im cute and sexy, and really wants to get to know me more, and i think the same about him.
Also, i've noticed while searching answers that the American Yahoo answers would be totally against a 7 year age gap, whereas in the UK it isnt seen as much of a problem. Why is that then? Or am i wrong?
2007-06-20 00:21:14 · 66 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think the reason it is a bigger deal in the US is because your legal drinking age is 21. So most people don’t settle down till they have had there fun going out, partying, drinking and also collage. Here in Australia our legal drinking age is 18 so by around 19 to 21 most people are working already and in life long relationships as we get our “partying” out of our system a little earlier. Most of my friends and my little sisters friends have all started families at this age and as our schooling seams to end earlier also. Unless we go to Uni and for example my best friend is doing Uni with a 6 year old and a 4 year old she is a mature age student. Then you have my little sister who is 20 and she is studying law from home. (as she has a baby) Much harder without having her lecturer there for guidance but she is doing great!!! My sister was around 18 when she got with her boyfriend and he is my age, 25 (I went to school with him lol) The things they found really hard at first were that he had done all his partying and she was just starting. His friends all did the BBQ’s on weekends with there kids and friends and my sister (although very mature for her age) still wanted her friends all the time and most of her mans friends didn’t get on with her friends due to the age gap & cause they were at different stages in life. But they did work through all this, I think my sister got her partying out of the way and then got pregnant with my nephew. This was bad timing as she was just starting Uni but her man was very ready to have the baby!! So she stopped Uni for a year and has just gone back now and she is doing great!!! Just thought I would share this with you so you could get an idea of some things you may face entering into this relationship. And don’t forget that you wont even start the partying for another 3 years yet. If he is happy to go though that stage in your life with you and go out and party with you I’m sure you will have a ball together!! Just don’t miss out on that time in your life your only young once lol so be with him and have fun if that’s what your heart says!!! Good luck hun I wish you all the best in life :)
2007-06-20 16:47:18 · answer #1 · answered by Kaylie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the specific ages.
A 7 year gap is a big no-no if the two people involved are 13 and 20, but 18 and 25 is not much of a problem, whereas anyone over 25... it's irrelevant.
Another factor to take into account is emotional maturity.
You are of legal age. So it's no problem. As you are now 18, don't worry about what other people think. Good luck with your relationship.
2007-06-20 00:25:04 · answer #2 · answered by Balaboo 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's nothing at all. Don't let it worry you. If you get on well together,then go for it. I was 32 when I married and my wife was 19, a 13 year gap. We had 3 children and have 8 grandchildren. We are a close loving family and the age gap has not made any difference at all. It does help if the man is a bit older and mature as his career and job have advanced and he is more able to support his wife and children in the early years. Don't miss out on this opportunity if you love one and other just because of the age gap. You would probably regret it for the rest of your life if you separated for this age reason.I am in UK by the way.
2007-06-20 00:34:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on your age I think. At 18, I'd say you're old enough to make your own decisions and start calling the shots. Whereas, I would be opposed to someone say 16 dating a 20+ year old, see the difference?
If you think you're ready for a serious relationship (which I'm assuming is what the 25 year old is looking for) then go for it. If you honestly see it going somewhere, take a shot. But if you're comprimising your thoughts because you're attracted to him physically and because of his age, I wouldn't waste my time and start looking elsewhere. Like, "oh he's mature and he's cute, but sometimes he's a jerk... maybe it'll still work out." Thoughts like that would make me lead towards the 'move on' column.
But I don't see anything wrong with that age group if it's real, and might work out.
2007-06-20 02:49:30 · answer #4 · answered by poopsmith 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not a problem at all. In America, the legal age of consent is 18, so you would only just be legal, but here in the U.K it's 16. At 18 years old, you are old enough to drink, vote and even get married if you want to. Don't say that you have the mentality of an adult, you are an adult. Do what you like, it's your life.
2007-06-20 00:26:45 · answer #5 · answered by Zombie Jesus 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband is nine years older than me and we have been married for nearly 44 years.OK you will probably get people who have had such big gaps telling you what a disaster it was.The point is at this early stage you can't tell BUT at this moment it doesn't matter.It isn't as though you are rushing into marriage or living together.If there is an attraction there explore it,find out about each other,have fun.If the age gap proves to be a problem later in the relationship deal with it then.It should not put you off following your instincts now.If you let it get in the way and let him go you could regret it .I hope it works out for you.
2007-06-20 00:35:04 · answer #6 · answered by chezliz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no way is that too much of an age gap women need men who are older coz if you go for a typical 18 year old lad they are very immature. you also have more fun with an older person. When i was 20 i met a man who was 32. 8 years later we are still together and age has never been a problem. I would say definitely go for it.
2007-06-20 00:27:04 · answer #7 · answered by phil k 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
of course not, honey. age has nothing to do with how much you can love a person. you are both adults, and since he feels the same way, then go for it! i'm sure you'll be happy together.
as for the difference between the US and the UK, it's just that the US is used to some things, and are a bit stubborn about changing their mind. well, right now i am generalizing, which is something you should never do. take me for instance, i think that you and this guy will be perfect for each other!
well anyway, just take the guy, and stop worrying!
2007-06-20 00:29:28 · answer #8 · answered by lalalucy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Haha! It is not the gap of age which can create a problem because , 18 is not quite a kid anymore, but your on line meeting's only may cause a surprise.
Dont get too emotional about it yet please if you have not met him ; Get to know him soberly, because although you are not a kid anymore, you're still very young and inexperienced. It is nice to feel in love, but it is sometimes blinding us.
Are you now still studying like in Uni or College ? If yes, plan and keep yourself to reach your degree / diploma and dont get disturbed. If you are mature enough, you can do both and happy . That is my answer.
2007-06-20 00:54:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't say it is wrong or right and I even will not against it as relationship can't be justice by age if both are 18 or above. My boyfriend is 53 this year and I am 29. I don't think any problem. (When I know my boyfriend, I was 25).We both enjoy each other when we are together and we both love each other so much. Sometimes, it needs to follow your heart and don't miss your Mr. Right
2007-06-20 00:33:28 · answer #10 · answered by Earthman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋