Long Distance Troubles...?

Question

My best friend/boyfriend have been in a long distance relationship for over 2years now.

I'm 17, he's 18.

Things had been going really well up until a few weeks ago. Now he just drives me completely insane! I can't talk to him anymore.

I am beginning to think I don't love him anymore. Although it should be the opposite because we will be together soon.


Why has our relationship changed and why cant I talk to him or want to love him anymore?

Answer 1

Hi,
All of a sudden he is coming really close. You are used to the situation like it was and now that is all going to change. That can be really scary. I think you might be resisting him coming back, because you are unsure if everything will be the same as it was. In 2 years you both probably have changed heaps. Try to put it out of your mind and see where your relationship heads for when he comes back. Also I've read your other questions and what else is going on in your life at present, could be affecting how you think about having relationships with other people (i.e. friendships and romantic relationships).
All the best

Answer 2

It just takes a strong person to deal with a long distance relationship. I don't think that it's you don't love him anymore i think your patience with him has worn thin because of the distance. And sometimes talking on the phone or emailing someone can get tiresome for some in saying this maybe since y'all have to communicate a lot over the phone you've ran out of things to say and this is probably what's wrong with him. If you've stayed this long then maybe it's worth waiting for to see him face to face again and talk about your relationship because things aren't a bed of roses all the time everyone may run into problems now and then you just have to step back and breath a little and be mature enough to deal with them. Good Luck!

Answer 3

Time and distance can alter how we perceive people and our relationships with them.Sometimes our memories of someone become frozen in time and we forget that the friend will have changed over time just like we all do.You had previously stated that this friend was a source of support for you throughout the turmoil in your life,he helped keep your life in perspective.Perhaps what you felt was gratitude for him always being their for you and you mistook it for love.Sometimes we would like to stay at a time in our life when we felt comfort and security but life goes on and nothing stays the same. We cannot control everything in our lives we can only do our best to face whatever comes our way.

Answer 4

Well, as you said it should have been quite the opposite. What is the reason that drives you crazy? Is he changed from what you knew? or are you expecting every thing too much from him since he is been away for more that two years?
You should ask your self these questions and most of all are you sure that you don't love him any more?

I am sure now you will get an answer for your question.
Good Luck!

Answer 5

Hi, Wabby.

According to Dad's opinion, long distance relationships don't reasonably work as we expect them to. I've personally had a long distance relatiolnshio before, and that was because both of us were shy of each other, so a long distance relationship was necessary, but transitorily ( Short).

But as we aged and got more experienced of our body's changes, we naturally went apart, for we needed someone in our lives to remain close in order to comfort our loneliness.

Sometime we tell ourselves that we will never part with whom we love. But making such commitment can disappoint us without us realizing it. When someone comes by and remains close, starts to do the things you wish your long distance boyfriend/girlfriend should be doing, you'll gradually and naturally invite that person into your life without self control, because we're motivated by nature.

Of course when the long distance boyfriend/girlfriend comes by for a visit your love for him/her would return, but complication would also arise, because you would find it difficult to dump the person who has always remained close to you.

I always try to avoid long distance relationships because they cause more bad than good. They cause frustrations, uncertainity, hopelessness, etc, and because you would not be seeing your partner conveniently, loneliness would repeatedly interferes with your good mood.

The reason you can't talk to him is simply because of the long distance relationship, which I previously explained to you. And the reason you feel like you don't love him anymore is simply because of uncertainity and hopelessness.

What should you do?

I highly recommend both of you to get close and enjoy a natural life... We have not seen a pair of animals dealt with a long distance relationship, so take that as an example and correct your situation.

Love from Dad.

Answer 6

well hang in there
we guys can be annoying sometimes but we love always n take more time than girls to come out a brk up
u r just a little confused n tired of the long distance relationship
been here

Answer 7

hmm...what happened that made things become like that? why u said he drove u completely insane?
are u nervous that u two will be together soon after such a long period? maybe u should find a quiet place, and think about whether u still love him.

Answer 8

I think that when you sort all of your other issues out things will come right.
Just don't push him too far away.
A relationship needs both parties to work together.

Answer 9

young love never seems to last play the field don't tie yourself down just yet go to college get your degree then start looking for the one after that

Answer 10

Maybe you guys are drifting apart? Maybe you are just tired of trying to make it work. If it is meant to be, then it will work out, don't worry about it...