2007-06-19 20:52:04 · 13 answers · asked by missladytea 1 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Infectious Diseases
Haha her fiances?
But yeah, get her to to him. That's something that would destroy their marriage if she didn't. So she can suck up her pride and tell him, or she doesn't and get her husband really angry when he finds out the truth.
2007-06-19 20:56:03 · answer #1 · answered by Arianna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm just curious as to why you feel that this is even your business. I'm sure the reason you know this is, because she trusted you as a "friend." But instead it is driving and bugging your brain that you have felt the need to pose it as a question to complete strangers.
Seems to me that you are jealous of her and want in some kind of way to have something negative to say about her future marriage.
From what I know about this disease it's one of the most common STD's in the US. 1 out 4 people have herpes, and it is estimated to be 8 millions people in the US that have it. There are even more people that have it and aren't even aware that they have, because they have no signs or sympthoms.
Let's just say 5 years from now, he comes up with herpes. There will be no way for a doctor to determine whom gave it to who. So maybe she's counting on that.
Either way it's not your business, and you need to get a life and just be happy for your "friend." Do you think that he will be greatful to you for telling him? You can't save the world. If it was all that much of a concern of his, then he should have her tested for all STD's before making such a big commitment such as marriage. If he doesn't then shame on him and he has to live with the decision that he made. Not you!
2007-06-19 23:20:46 · answer #2 · answered by purrlywhites 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She won't be married for long when her husband finds out!!! I think she should tell him IMMEDIATELY!!! If the shoe were on the other foot and she found out her soon to be husband had herpes, she would not be too happy. The first thing she would say is that he tried to infect her and they would be in some courtroom trying to prove his dishonesty. She must tell him before he finds out, and in a case like this, go off mentally and do something irrational, which she would deserve.
2007-06-19 21:46:04 · answer #3 · answered by mrsbasemore 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have they had sex already?
How do you know he doesn't know already?
I would make her tell him. He'll never trust her if he finds out, which he will. Tell her that and see what she says. He'll probably think she cheated on him. If my spouse gave me something that could have been prevented, or I should have been at least warned about, the relationship would be over. And I'd sue him afterwards for damages. What is she thinking? And when she tries to prove that she had it before, you'll get to be her source and then you'll look bad for having known all along. She's not a good friend or spouse. Very deceitful and selfish.
2007-06-19 20:58:26 · answer #4 · answered by Mellie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
before i answer your question i wanna say sorry if my english bad!!because i'm an Arabian-Indonesian girl who live in Indonesian!!
Well,i've had herpes and herpes "nest" in my body just a week!! it's actually not really dangerous!!!but if it feel itch never scratch it!! because it can spread to another parts of your body and if you still scratch it,it will leave a trace!!(that's what my doctor said)!!so if your best friends want to get well soon!! she has to go to the doctor and take a bath with antiseptic soap!!when i was ill my doctor gave me an ointmen (I forgot the brand)!!!ok i think that's all!!!about the fiances,,i think she should tell the honest!!!dont forget to tell get well soon to your best friend and have a nice wedding!!!
2007-06-19 21:09:57 · answer #5 · answered by nadyah 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stay out of it. Yes, she should have already told him. Yes, he will be very upset when he finds out. If you tell him, your friendship will be over. I speak from experience. I also have it and my friend told my fiance. Fortunately for me he didn't care and we have been married for 17+ yrs, 4 kids too. Our friendship suffered and I did not speak to her for a long time. Mind your own business.
2007-06-20 06:16:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is your business because you are her friend. At the same time, it really isn't our business. You need to talk to your friend about how you are feeling. Let her know that you think she should tell her fiancee. Good friends tell each other the things they need to hear, not always what they want to hear. Good luck.
2007-06-20 07:49:29 · answer #7 · answered by Agape 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to tell him. He deserves to know, so he can figure out how to protect himself from getting them.
They can still get married, still be very much in love, and can still make love. But he needs to know so he can protect himself!
Is she going to tell him?
What's the point of getting married if you can't be honest with the person you are going to spend the rest of your life with?
Cheers and God Bless
2007-06-19 20:55:18 · answer #8 · answered by Daft One 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I would stay out of this one. It is up to her to be honest and tell her what is going on. Not telling him might come back to bite her in the butt, but I think if you say anything, you will have alot of problems with your friend. I would, however, talk to the friend and tell her your point of view in a nice way. Maybe she hasn't thought of telling him? It might make you feel better if you express to her that you think he should be let in on her "little secret". Good luck!
2007-06-19 20:56:37 · answer #9 · answered by Hippie C 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
its better she tells him now rather than when he finds out because she's passed it to him. That was they can both take steps to keep him healthy
2007-06-19 20:59:43 · answer #10 · answered by kate m 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋