It has been five years, since my ex left me.We were having a kind problems about....our relationship that he can never protect it! he's selfish. He never saying two words for me! He should be thankful for me because I'am the only one who really cares. He never loves me, doesn't care about me! I did everything what he wanted but wasn't enough for him? When Im crying he was not there!. He just playing billiard with his friends. His friend loved me so much, so I said yes. I got two bfs. Even though I said yes to my no.2, I ddn't love him. He knew i stil in love my bf # 1. My no. 1 found out that his friend were together. He asked me to let my no.2 go, so that we can be together again. Yea, I did b cuz I loved my no.1. Hhahay, your no.2 loves u, but I dont have a feelings on him. Your no. 1 did not love you much, and you love him. That's hard, some one is getting hurt.
2007-06-19 19:48:47 · 14 answers · asked by Jane 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Break off with everyone, as nicely as possible and take a break from dating.
If you are able to travel take a long trip. The longer the better.
You need to get over your ex and you need to sort your life out. Your situation is so complicated I got a headache trying to read it.
I'm still not sure who was doing what, with which and to whom. And I'm not sure you're sure.
So, take a break. Then find someone to love who'll love you. Love shouldn't hurt.
2007-06-19 19:55:53 · answer #1 · answered by Warren D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It makes me really sad when I see people supposing that they are not being loved and cared for.
I disagree with your perception that your guy was enjoying billiards with his friends when you were crying.
I have gone through this, I got misunderstood. But no pains. No tears. Its sometimes very difficult to make someone understand that they are believing what is wrong and exactly opposite.
I was away from my girl but she was the only one I thought about , all the time, every second. But she thought that other guys were more true and real than me.
we sometimes find ourselves helpless in making others believe of our honesty and feelings for them We should let others grow in live because experience would make them wise some day to realize that how wrong they were.
2007-06-20 02:59:36 · answer #2 · answered by Goldman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot make anyone happy they have to find it for themselves. The same goes for you. If you can find acceptance within yourself then you'll be ready to love. Cut out the #1 #2 business!!! An old man told me love is 10% Intamicy And 90% commitment. Relationships are a compromise from day 1. You both need to be balanced to do that.
2007-06-20 02:59:47 · answer #3 · answered by Russ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a guy, so listen close...
Unless you're not telling the whole story, he doesn't care enough about you. Stop being used and stand up for yourself! Don't get back with #1 and find a guy who's not part of that group.
And forgive me for saying this, but saying yes to #2 was really a stupid idea... What were you thinking?!
2007-06-20 02:56:12 · answer #4 · answered by Thinksalot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Basically I feel that you have to learn to let go of both guys before you really start a fresh relationship. I feel that you are not being fair to your No 2 coz you accepted him just bcoz your No 1 didn't like you as much as you like him. At the end of the day you will missed both guys coz they may just leave you. It is never easy to let go of a relationship but you have to learn how to do it. Let time takes away your pain slowly and hope it heal your wounds before you start a new relationship.
2007-06-20 07:01:36 · answer #5 · answered by Clown & Joker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, your BF #1's actions speaks louder than words.. he doesnt care about you..he doesnt love you..why do you stick around? yes you love him but its not worth it. find another man who will love you for you..who will treat you as you deserve..you can never find true happiness with your boyfriend if he's treating you like that.
However, about BF#2, i dont quite agree that you have the right to use him. its unfair as it is unfair that your BF#1 is using you..break loose of both your relationships and start a new one the right way..
Good Luck.
2007-06-20 03:02:43 · answer #6 · answered by Kiara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just from reading the first few lines....move on. You don't deserve to be treated like that and if he doesn't care about you, you shouldn't be torturing yourself. He only cares about you when you've moved on? that's not fair to you. He is using you and you deserve better. You could love someone else if you let them in....you're just probably shutting them out because you want the other relationship to work out when its not healthy.
2007-06-20 02:54:44 · answer #7 · answered by ~Mo~lovin<3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi jane.my,what a problem.there is nothing more complicated than love,dont you agree?
well,here it is.why dont you ask your #1 boy if he love you or not.if he really do,then tell him what makes you said yes to his friend.or,leave your #1boy and #2 boy.stop the relationship,do not contact any of them and see who care for you the most.i mean if your #1 boy really love you he will look for you.
2007-06-20 03:04:57 · answer #8 · answered by yuki129 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im just curious...if he is never there what do you luv about him...and how much can you really luv him if you say yes to being with someone else...reguardless of what...your right someone is going to be hurt...if you stay in the situation it will be you over and over again...time heels all...the sooner you move on and open your heart to someone who makes you feel like your the world the better you will be...
2007-06-20 03:00:49 · answer #9 · answered by acarisg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uhm....move on!
he obviously does have respect for you and you are letting him treat you like that! noo...tell him how you feel! or just go out and find someone else. if he doesnt support you then he isnt a good boy friend at all!
2007-06-20 02:52:25 · answer #10 · answered by [.ℓove&happiness.]™ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋