how can i break up with my boyfriend of 4yrs?

Question

i've been with my boyfriend for 4yrs and he treats me too bad, he lives with me and i can't take him anymore..he has said so much hurtful stuff to me i don't even wanna repeat it...i need to know how i can break up with him without a huge fight blowing up or him laying a big guilt trip on me, which he has done before...please help me figure something out!!

Answer 1

Don't take that s**t from no one dump him. Tell him to get out if you think it might get vilonet or bad have backup with you don't let him guilt you into saying with him just remember all the bad he's done and end it 4 yrs is too much to take from him don't take anymore.

Answer 2

Go to your local courthouse and ask the clerk to help you fill out a form for a 'protective order' also known as a 'restraining order'. The Judge will issue an order either for him to leave immediately if you put in your form that he has threatened your life, or he will set a date within 2 weeks for him to appear in court. The Judge will hear testimony from the both of you and will then make an order. 9 out of 10 times the Judge issues the order for him to move out and leave you alone - not to bother you at school, work or home. Your local sheriff (or Marshall or Constable, whichever you have in your state) will serve the documents on your bozo boyfriend (sorry - couldn't resist it) the Judge signed. The police will get a copy of the order and you must keep a copy on you at all times. This way you are protected from him. I know this won't be easy because you loved him and probably don't want to 'hurt his feelings' but you MUST do it for your own protection. And, please do not violate the order by letting him back in. If you do that the police won't respond to your 911 calls in the future. Good luck and do not be afraid any longer! Please do take my advice for your safety and peace of mind.

Answer 3

Why would you have ANY problem at all dumping this loser? Why would you feel guilty about anything???? He treated you like dirt and deserves to be dumped. Cut n' dry, you need to just tell him this isn't working out. Don't sacrifice your happiness for his when he clearly doesn't care about you. He would have no guilt trip to give. HE should be the one feeling guilty for being an ****** to you for so long. He killed the relationship. Don't even bother having a sit down talk with him. Kick his a.S.S. out. If he causes any problems call the cops.

Answer 4

nicely regrettably he dosent could desire to respond to those questions. in all likelihood because of the fact he's in simple terms up set as you're some people act in any different case whilst people destroy up. you're a questioner and hes an steer away from-er. Im specific he isnt to chuffed approximately it the two. yet he could have moved on and a rationalization why he hasnt replied you is bc hes afraid if he says we could in simple terms be acquaintances you will turn at him. anyhow i think of he has moved on this is the undertaking with long term relationships one man or woman can stay without the different. So if he needs he will come to you dont be so needy in time it is going to all be magnificent. :) its okay to be unhappy yet its no longer ok harassing

Answer 5

Start packing up and move. let him know that you are not happy in the relationship and the only one benefitting from it is him. Tell him you're not happy and you want happiness too.

If he gives you the guilt trip let him know that it's not going to work that he have 30 days to move around.

If you think he's going to get physical write it in a letter leave it there for him and leave a number at the end so he can reach you.

If he threatens you get the po-po's in his life or your thugged out cousin to kick his *** out your house.

Answer 6

I'd consult a domestic violence shelter if you're afraid of him. Can you move out first? Get your own place. Or, you could warn him in advance... get him in a public place when you're not fighting and say, "I'm sick of our fighting. You've said a lot of hurtful things to me. I don't want any more fights. If we fight again, that's it, I'm leaving you, no second chances." Then, the next fight, leave and don't come back. And there will be a next fight, but at least you warned him. However, if you think you're in any danger, definitely call a d.v. shelter first. FWIW, I do all my breakups in public, then they can't get too bad because they don't want to be seen.

Answer 7

Well i said that you sit down with him and said how he is treating you wrong and if he doesn't get it say i going some where else and i am sorry to go on you but you've treated me wrong in way i can't say so good bye and if he hurts or miss treats you call the cop or leave as fast as you can.

Answer 8

You need to be mentally strong and tell him you're leaving, and that he does not own you. Tell him you found someone else that treats you with respect. If he continues to harass you then file a restraining order against him.

Don't let some guy dominate your life, you don't want to end up being that poor trapped housewife who's husband beats her because he's got a small dick

Answer 9

Kick him out the door and get a restraining order, and find your self a big boyfriend that can protect you! What does your male family members have to say about this mooch? Get people involved and don't feel guilty what do you have to feel guilty about? You are supporting him and really it should be opposite, he should be providing for you and making you feel good about yourself!

Answer 10

tell him that u are no more love him and u pregnant other man child.