Tonight my 2 year old sister woke up in the middle of the night and wouldnt stop crying. As she was crying and throwing a fit she said she had to go to the bathroom but a second later she peed her pants all over my kitchen floor.
Then my mom yelled at her. She then said "clean yourself up, your disgusting." My sister kept crying and started saying "Mommy I want you". My mom then replied to her by saying " I dont even want to look at you."
She said these things not meanly but, disgusted like. But, I still know what kind of trama this can cause a kid. And when she said these things it upset me.
Should I say something to my mom about what she is saying to my little sister?
And then what would I say to her?
Do I have a right to be mad about this?
2007-06-19 19:10:37 · 18 answers · asked by muhboh 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You might want to talk about how you feel to your dad, or an adult that is close to your mom. What you say probably won't make much of a difference, if she is that insensitive.
You are right, she really needs to have more patience with a 2 years old.
2007-06-19 19:15:20 · answer #1 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you have a right to feel protective of your little sister. You should calmly try to talk to your mom about it. Try asking her if everything is okay... maybe she is just really stressed out and doesnt realize that she is snapping out at her. Or maybe she does, feels bad about it and just doesnt know what to do. If that is not the case you should try to calmly and nicely let her know that you think that she is being too harsh on her, and try to explain how that could hurt her. If you havent had a past experience like this use a friends, or make one up and call it your friends... that way it will be make more sense to her as to why you are worried. So just try to figure out if there is problem and do your best to fix it. You sister is lucky to have someone like you to stand up for her.
2007-06-20 02:21:04 · answer #2 · answered by rachel_lyn915 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off how old are you? If your 18 and up then depending on your relationship your mom maybe a little more receiving of your suggestion. How big is the gap in age between you and you baby sister? Yes you have the right to be madd about the way your mom was talking to your little sister. Maybe your mom was having a bad day, not making excuses but parents aren't perfect. Is this the way she normally interacts with your lil' sister?
2007-06-20 02:16:48 · answer #3 · answered by Roger B 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are perfectly right to be sensitive about this.
If you can do your best not to lose your temper when your mom responds like this, it would be best. I understand why you may feel protective of your little sister. That makes you a good person.
You can say, "Mom, if you could see and hear you like I can, you would be deeply ashamed. Don't talk to my sister that way. She's very small and needs love and patience around her as she's learning." Or you could say, "It's not ok you're not showing my little sister proper love and guidance. If that's not your job, who's job is it? Can you think about your words and actions and change them now? I can't stand back and ignore my little sister being hurt. I will have to report it if it continues."
Seems like your mother needs better parenting tools to manage her responsibility. Where is your little sister's father? Is he helping?
2007-06-20 02:50:45 · answer #4 · answered by reeksofhoney 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom has some kind of psychological problem and needs the help of psychiatrist. It's very possible that she has a severe post partum depression. Depression is treatable, but you have to get her to see a doctor for an exam, just to rule out any physical problems and to get a referral to a psychiatrist. After that, a psychiatrist can help her, with therapy and medications, if necessary, to come back to normal. Consult with her doctor to see how long it should take for her to get back to normal, and if she isn't a normal mother within the time the doctor said she should be, then you must call Child Protective Services.
2007-06-20 02:24:01 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how you gone say something that like that 2 a 2 year old? your ma is outta control and u need 2 step up. she may not was tryin 2 b mean, but he didnt expect 2 have 2 deal wit disgusting things as a ma, maybe she shouldnt had had children. tell her tht and maybe she'll stop.
2007-06-20 02:18:13 · answer #6 · answered by New Intelligence lol 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i personally feel you should speak out about this. its for ur sister's health and it could damage her mentally.
you do have a right to be mad at ur mom but dont keep these talks 2 urself. tell her how u feel. if she really loves you, she mite get mad @ first but then atmitt it
2007-06-20 02:17:04 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont say any thing to your mom unless she seeks your advise. Be kind to your sister and give her the love and care she is deprived of. Your mom seems to be having problems.
2007-06-20 02:22:46 · answer #8 · answered by rams 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is borderline on abusive.
She may be stressed out, or depressed. Either way, you should see if you can get some help for your sake, and your sister's as well as your mom's.
2007-06-20 02:16:37 · answer #9 · answered by Madama Butterfly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you have a right to be upset if you have a good relationship with your mom and can talk openly without her taking it out on you then yes talk to her if you feel she will tell you off or not consider what you say then maybe your grandma or someone you talk to older can talk to her and i would definately pray i do believe in prayer
2007-06-20 02:51:05 · answer #10 · answered by PAM d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋