We just moved to Houston, against his wishes. The night before we started loading the moving truck, he became sick with stomach flu: shaking, fever, diarrhea. He looked too sick to move, so he didn't. But then he looked better, was walking around, and seemed okay. So I asked him if he was better and just faking it (he's shady sometimes). He angrily said no, and I said, "Sorry for asking."
Then, the next day we went to Ikea to get stuff for our new home. He was sick and in the bathroom, but he called me and started SCREAMING in to the phone that I should apologize for questioning him/his sickness. I said, "I did. Whatever. Get over it."
On the way home, he grabbed the steering wheel, shook it hard in the middle of an intersection, hit me on the side of my head and on my arm, all the while screaming, "APOLOGIZE TO ME!" over and over.
And it's not a shock because he's always had anger issues. Just never hit me.
1) He's crazy, right?
2) I'm crazy for not dumping him, right?
2007-06-19 19:05:23 · 32 answers · asked by Kristina S 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
One more thing:
Not only did he not apologize after it happened and continue to yell at me to apologize to HIM, but when he finally did apologize, he showed no guilt about hitting me. Two days later is still bringing up how I questioned whether or not he was really sick and that he deserves an apology from me.
2007-06-19 19:18:40 · update #1
1. he's acting like a 2 yr old.
2. if he hits you once...he WILL do it again.
3. your not crazy...but i would definitely leave him.
honey...do you want to raise children around this man? what happens when he has his "anger issues" with your kids and decides to hit them?
...oh yes it will happen. you can take that to the bank. been there done that.
NEVER EVER let a man treat you w/that much disrespect.
yelling is NEVER okay.
acting like a 2 yr old when he doesn't get his way is NEVER okay.
HITTING YOU IS NEVER OKAY!
2007-06-21 14:09:44 · answer #1 · answered by ☆MWφM☆ 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Omg that is a shocking story! Well firstly you moving to Houston against his wishes just shows that you really do care about him and the fact that you asked if he was faking it was bcoz u didnt want him forcing himself to walk around if he wasnt feeling 100% still right? You did apologise afterwards but at the end of the day it wasnt anything bad to actually deserve an apology. If anything he should be apologising to you.. there is no excuse for violence no matter how much anger problems ur fiance has! I think that you should get out of the relationship while you can or he will resort all arguments to violence..
2007-06-27 19:04:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I presume there have been some good times otherwise you wouldn't be with him, but these kind of anger issues sound really deep rooted. You have to make the call- if you love him, then suggest counselling. Otherwise it will just get worse. There are things that will be revealed in counselling which you will never be able to get from him and it may help save your relationship. If he refuses to go for counselling- give him an ultimatum- and go to a friend/ relative, till things calm down. I l know it may sound embarassing to admit to a friend, but you must keep someone close to you, informed about this. He sounds dangerous and it is better to nip it in the bud now. If i were you-even if i left him, i would still want to find out what his issues were. You seem intelligent- take care of yourself. No one has the right to treat you this way- and no excuse is acceptable for a guy hitting his woman.
2007-06-19 19:16:57 · answer #3 · answered by shania 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He has major anger management issues.If he is going to hit you over something so trivial what is he going to do when he really gets mad . I say cut your losses get a friend or better yet get a deputy sheriff to get your things and find another place to live. It will be rough because you just had the expense of a move but ,this dude is crazy and does not have control of himself.He could very easily harm or kill you. I have 15 years experience working at the state prison and have seen guys like this . They have low impulse control. I say go. It's not worth it. He won't change because he doesn't think he has a problem he thinks YOU have a problem right? It's better to go now then to go in a corner's bag on 6PM news.
2007-06-22 01:15:58 · answer #4 · answered by Wow!guitar 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dump that crazy jerk.He is NOT sorry.He owes you an apology( sincerely) you will not get it.The words may come out, but the heart won't be in it.I would break off the engagement.If you marry this guy its only a matter of time until he hits you again or worse. Then you may have children who will be involved as well.I am speaking from my own experience. Do not allow yourself to be trapped in misery ,you can not change this man.
2007-06-27 16:57:17 · answer #5 · answered by dog biscuit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out! It will progress not get better. Don't find yourself in a situation down the road where he's threatening to kill you if you leave. Or ties with kids, or worse, shaken baby syndrome, etc. This type of behavior does not heal. Funny thing is, or not so funny, for some reason when the good times come you tend to think they are better than they are & you think you love him more. Not true! Been there.
2007-06-19 19:18:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are crazy for not dumping him - he will continue with this abuse - it certainly wont improve especially if he is not even sorry for hitting you.
Justifying his abuse and not leaving him gives him the reason for continuing to hit you. One day you will end up in hospital and you will hear yourself making excuses for what he has done to you and why you wont leave.
Leaving him permanently will actually let him know that his behaviour is totally unacceptable.
You deserve someone who loves you . Love is a kiss and a hug - abuse is a punch to the head
2007-06-27 18:59:55 · answer #7 · answered by petal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how long the two of you have been an item but, honey, if I were you, I'd lose this sucker. He's a looser and will give you nothing but problems along with physical and verbal abuse. One day you may find yourself hurt badly. No one should have to take this or any other type of abuse from any one!
Love is one thing (it shouldn't hurt) - - - abuse is totally another (it DOES hurt)!
2007-06-19 20:21:24 · answer #8 · answered by lilbit48vmb 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Question 1: Yes
Question 2: Yes
You already knew this.
2007-06-26 03:00:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should of knocked him out the door and make him suffer like you did only 100 times worse. Make him prove his love and stop being a wuss. Take control and he will respect you more if he does'nt then he lied and never did love you.
2007-06-27 08:24:26 · answer #10 · answered by RB. Johnson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋