I've already asked this but younger girls only now plz?

Question

OK im a 13 year old boy that has had a few girlfriends before but none of them serious at all. I have never kissed a girl or done anything further than holding her hand and a little hug ok? Well i don't plan on kissing or making out or anything like that for like 2-3 years and that's just what i feel is right. Well I really like this girl who I have found out from other guys she's gone out with that she has kissed them and isn't as shy as me about that kind of thing. I think she likes me but im not sure and I think I'm gonna ask her out pretty soon and I was wondering how i tell her I'm not interested in that kind of thing for a while??? plz help me out with some advice and plz dont leave answers like "your weird youve never kissed a girl!!!" i just need some advice k? thx:D Now i really think i could be completely overreacting and stuff but I've heard a lot of stories about kissing leading to making out and then leading to sex and stuff. plz give me advice i can use thx!

ok I've been through puberty lol and im smart. its partly because im shy but also because i just think its right. Not because of religion or anything i just think its right.

ok i just wanted to say

1. I never thought I'd be the kind who would ask this kinda thing on the internet ok?
2. I know a lot of kids my age who have not been kissed and stuff. YA I'm not looking for a girl at a church ok?
3. I realize now im completely over reacting thx you're answers (well most of them anyway) helped:D

Answer 1

look if your both around 13 you will not be leading on to sex. She definently will not want to as it mostly boys who are more interested in it. Dont worry about it. This is coming from a 15 year old.

Answer 2

I'm 14 and am in exactly the same dilemma as you, but with Hanukah, it's like the only Jewish holiday my family does and were completely unreligious and I'm an Atheist so it's a big deal. My brother and sister are both 7 so it's easy what to get them. I want an Xbox, because I have Guitar Hero III. You don't seem to have an iPod, maybe you could request that? It's a pretty tradition Christmas gift. A good webcam? Coach bags are good, but you'll get sick of it soon and their big. It's so hard because you don't want something stupid like a shirt but we have all the necessities for a teenage girl. Hows about a pet? ;) Nintendo DS? PSP? Perfume? Tickets to a certain band?

Answer 3

Alright, let me tell you a little story from experience. I'm 17 right now, and I've been in a relationship for about 2 1/2 years...so that would make me about 14 1/2 almost 15 when i started dating the boy Im with now. Okay, so my point is that He was exactly like you. He's one year younger than me, so that puts him at about your age. I had already been with guys before, and I had kissed before and everything. But he was extremely shy, he never talked to girls, and he rarely made eye contact when we started to talk a little. Well, as we started talking more and more, he finally confesed to me (over the phone) that he was really shy around me and that he felt kind of uncomfortable making out and stuff becuz he had never done that before. So, i completely understood because I really liked this boy, and about a few weeks later we got together. We held hands, and hugged, and we kissed on the cheeck. And eventually, when it felt right for the both of us, we "peckes" on the lips. (And it taught me that relationships arent just about the physical attraction, it's really about falling i love with the person for who they are inside, not for How great of a kisser they are or how many people they've kissed) Now that we've been dating for over 2 years, its not a matter os hsyness, we kiss because we love each other, and it feels perfect. There's no shyness, or worries about asnything. And yes, we make out too, but its just something that happens, it's not a bad thing. You'll understand as you get older that things naturally progres in a relationship, but as long a you put your belefs first, like no premarital sex, you'll be fine. I promise. So just make sure that she knows hpow you feel. I guarentee that if she understands what you feel, and she respects that...she is Well worth your time. But if she likes you just because she wants a cuter boyfriend or something, you'll know it as soon as you tell her. So dont worry about anything, you stay just the way you are!!! just tell her and go from there

Answer 4

All right.....I'm 16 not to young but young enough to help you out. I think that it is great that you want to wait about sex and kissing if that is how you really feel. If you are going to tell her whats going on just say you like her but you don't want to get serious. If she is that type of girl that likes kissing then just be good friends with her. That whole thing about kissing leads to sex is honestly up to the person doing it. The feeling can make you want to do that but if your strong on your beliefs then you will have no problem stopping it before it gets to far. hope I helped.

Answer 5

It's ok that you've never kissed a girl, I'm 15 and have never really made out with a guy. I understand you want to wait and see who the right girl is to be your first but maybe you should try her out, and if she does kiss you, it MIGHT lead to a makeout, but most likely it won't lead to anything else if you don't make the move first. I know you won't want to go any farther so you won't , she'll stop. But if you REALLY TRUELY don't want to go far with her just give her a simple answer, tell her you want to go slow. But really kissing WILL NOT lead to sex or 3rd base at your age, the farthest a kiss will go at you age is making out, and thats perfectly healthy for you.

Answer 6

Sorry I'm not a younger girl but I have more experience than they do....

Take these stories about what happened on dates with other people with a large grain of salt. Maybe she was pressured, maybe she didn't kiss at all. If you do go out, you don't have to bring this up proactively--it might not be an issue. If she does turn out to be too aggressive then you just say this is going too fast. You don't have to discuss a 3-year plan. If she cares about you she will respect your outlook; if not then you don't have much basis for a relationship.

Answer 7

Aw! I think you're awesome for making this a bigger deal then most guys I know would. *but i do want you to know that makeing out doesn't always lead to sex...* If the subject comes up with her, just tell her like it is... if she likes you she'll respect that, and might even appreciate the holding out.
I'm 13 too, and I've already made-out once. It was great, and I was with a really sweet guy. But I still feel like I've lost a more innocent part of myself.
It's your decison though. Good luck!

Answer 8

oh my god you're so adorable! so i'm 15 and i've never been kissed. all i've done is some stuff over text and picture text but this isn't about me. ok for me personally, i would be blown away if a guy told me he didn't wanna go too far. i would fall in love with him for that. once you're going out, i would just tell her that you needed to lay down some guidelines. tell her how you feel. its true at our age our bodies definitely get carried away. so at the most like a little peck will do without getting too dangerous. try to be confident in what you want, dont seem like you're embarrassed because you dont want to go far. let her know where you stand and if she doesnt wanna go out with you, then she's retarded (toned down some words in here to make it appropriate lol)...
i really hope everything turns out alright!!!
you seem like a great guy and there's not many girls deserving of you. so wait for the right one.

Answer 9

yo, u goin bout this all wrong! dont ask on tha internet tht jus makes u look hopeless and desperate. and dont ever tell someone that u never kissed unless they asked! u sound pathetic. but im sure you're not so try goin 2 a local church, fibd a girl there, and jus talk! church girls are tha best!

Answer 10

instead of showing your 'virgin boy' image, let everyone know that you like girls for who they are and not just for kissing and making out. in short, make everyone think your the Decent Chap Whom Every Girl Can Feel Safe With. (which is quite true)

good luck.