i have this bf that i think i need to let go becuz im not happy. i care dearly for him becuz we did at one time have something special, so i thought. well he has a double life. he hasnt introduced me to his kids and he still wears his wedding band around his neck, even though she left 3 yrs ago. he got a phone call today from a woman and i asked who it was and he said his childs mother. this is the first i heard of this. he has 3 other kids that live with him. he smokes weed every day and he hardly ever takes me out. i never see him on the weekends and he gets upset when i complain. i never met his mother and he has not helped me at all but he did give me something for my birthday. normally he comes to my house at night cuz we work together. so after work he comes over. well not tonite. he hasnt called or said nothing. then he has flirted with girls in the past. i kind of dont trust him and i think he might be just using me. plz help cuz i did care for him. what would you do?
2007-06-19 18:34:50 · 10 answers · asked by eaglestraces123 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
that sure is alot to digest. Finding out about this other life he "forgot to mention"....
You're better off knowing now girl, so move on with your life without him in it*
You deserve better than someone who smokes weed daily, very rarely takes you out anywhere, someone who you don't see on weekends...yet he will turn this around on You* saying you complain too much*.. You have every right! Something that important..'having children and an ex wife' he forgot to mention to you..is not a good way to continue in this relationship*
Communication Trust and Honesty are the keys to a long healthy relationship, without those, you have Nothing*
You just said you don't trust him..he obviously isn't being honest with you nor is he communicating with you. You need to leave this lazy guy and let him waste his life away, flirting with other girls etc...You Don't Need it, You Don't Deserve it and You Shouldn't Stand for it~ Pack your things and move out , move on with your life to brighter better things. Someone who will make you laugh again, have fun again....someone who will love and respect you* because You Deserve it!~*
Best Wishes*
2007-06-19 18:44:46 · answer #1 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh boy. Honey it sounds as though he is a typical- untrustworthy, selfcentred and un-motivated pot smoker. One who lives in the past, isn't willing to deal with reality or let anyone new into his life. They usually have a lot of secrets they keep from you too. He isn't giving you the respect or individual attention you need. Honey- leave him, I have been where you are twice- they do not change. You are wasting each day until you leave.
Good luck. You will find someone healthier (in every respect!) the sooner you move on the better. Remember- you deserve much better.
2007-06-20 02:00:41 · answer #2 · answered by Renesme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should leave him. You are putting a lot more effort than he is. He actually seems to show no effort at all. Even though you care for him you have to make sure that you are okay, he's not thinking about your happiness so why should you be worried about him? You need to let him go and get his act together.
2007-06-20 01:40:49 · answer #3 · answered by Chelsea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i think that all women should love themselves before they try to love a man. If you are not happy I think you should let him go and find something that will make you happy. It sounds to me that he doesnt derserve you and you derserve better. Let him go girl because there is someone out there that will treat you like the queen you are *I hope I helped* :-)
2007-06-20 01:39:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah you definitely need to let go. This guy is not worth your time just let go he is asking for it. Look at your relationship and ask were is it going , not far right? Stop wasting time and move on im sure he is using you.
2007-06-20 01:40:57 · answer #5 · answered by nenamexicana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you did care for him once. But there does not sound like much caring either way now. Dump him and move on.
2007-06-20 01:39:48 · answer #6 · answered by jimanddottaylor 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Be patient
2. Just let go
3. go to holiday
4. make busy your self - work or what ever
5. find consultant - not relevant to this case
6. forget it, life will go on
7. do the synergy thing
8. be strong and strong, you are power
2007-06-20 01:44:21 · answer #7 · answered by rossi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sad...me too in such a predicament. you shd have a good and open talk with him. since you are with him, you shd trust him. if he doesnt love you, y be with you? you must ask yourself can you feel his love??? this is a very crucial ans to determine your next move. good lucks! for my case, my man did not divorce her wife but i can truly feel his love for me and this is what that keeps me going till now....
2007-06-20 01:43:45 · answer #8 · answered by overseas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know. Follow your gut instincts girl. They are always right on.
2007-06-20 01:39:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur dating a married guy? ew.
2007-06-20 01:39:20 · answer #10 · answered by blingding 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋