Could you? I'm not dating but theres a guy friend who likes me, hes nice but chubby and stuff,, he has a good job,, could never picture myself in bed or kissing him... but should i try to date him?
2007-06-19 18:19:02 · 21 answers · asked by Jetglam 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, that really wouldn't be fair to him now, would it? You know that you aren't physically attracted and it's pretty obvious things wouldn't work out. However, he is into you, and by going out with him you are unethically and dishonestly indicating that you do find him attractive and unfairly leading him to believe there is a good chance for the relationship to work.
2007-06-19 18:24:12 · answer #1 · answered by Rum R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm . . . you should date him only if you think you might change your mind about him later or if you get to know him more. Losing weight is easy but you won't be able to make him do it. I think you should not try to date him unless you really feel like you want to have sex with him at some point in the future. After all, the goal of dating is to end up in a serious relationship. So, there are three main reasons why you should not date him:
1) You would be occupying his time and making others think he is taken.
2) He will probably have to pay for the dates, so that will take his money.
3) He may get the wrong idea and have hurt feelings when he finds out you don't feel attraction for him.
There are two benefits I can see from you going out with him:
1) You might change your mind about him for some reason.
2) If you break up with him and tell him why you aren't attracted to him, he may begin a crusade to lose the blubber.
Still, you probably shouldn't date him. Good night!
2007-06-20 01:33:23 · answer #2 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been attracted to people based on personality - like I would not think they were cute on the street but they grew on me - but at least some sort of attraction was there. Don't play with people's feelings - if you are not attracted to him you will end up hurting him. Besides, you don't want to be next to the wrong guy when the right guy comes along. It's okay to be by yourself. Good luck!
2007-06-20 01:23:51 · answer #3 · answered by so Fresh 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Been there, done that, didn't work out. I only liked him for his personality and he was always like,"You're the hottest girl I've ever met." As I sat there thinking,'Oh God, what do I say back?' I couldn't lie to him and pretend I thought he was hot too, so I just said,"I'm sorry, but as for now, I don't want a bf." Just keep my side of the story in mind, and understand why it's not a good idea.
2007-06-20 01:26:08 · answer #4 · answered by AJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good lord, no! But it's not about looks. He could be chubby or nerdy or too skinny or whatever, but chemistry is a crazy thing, and you could still be attracted to him. The ex bf I thought was the hottest, my friends thought he was not cute at all. But you don't seem to be attracted to him, and to date him would only be leading him on.
2007-06-20 01:25:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Attraction comes (or goes) when you get to know someone. He could be the most attractive man in the world, but if he has a rotten personality/is a horrible person, you probably wouldn't stay attracted to him. That's not my point. My point is getting to know him could change your mind. Over time he could become insanely attractive to you.
If you think there might me something there, try it out.
2007-06-20 01:24:22 · answer #6 · answered by Miss K 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say go on a date with him and try to get to know him in a more intimate setting such as a date. You may not be initially attracted to him but after you sit down with him and get to know him a little something may click and you may decide there is something about him that makes him very attractive to you...its always good to get to know someone because you never really know. And I could go on a date with a guy i wasnt incredibly attracted to because there are certain aspects about him and his personality that may make him attractive to me if we go out and I get to know him. Its worth a shot...you never know. Good luck!
2007-06-20 01:24:37 · answer #7 · answered by Nikki 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This sounds like the guy I dated last year! (smile) Anyway, I think its ok for you to go out with him, but just make it plain that you are not interested in a relationship, only friends. If he's looking to do the same, go out and have fun!
2007-06-20 01:24:14 · answer #8 · answered by Alana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what does "dating" mean to you? lol. if it means anything that i probably think HE thinks "dating" means then: he will want to take you out and then work his way up to banging you really good. In the end, is what im saying, is this poor chum - given the specifications you have given; he is fat and you could never sleep with him- is going to probably want sex at some point.
Did that ever cross your mind?
I guess you want to use him and you see no problem with it?
2007-06-20 01:26:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Date him for who he is on the inside, and if you really like the man, you will know the answer.
2007-06-20 01:24:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋