help with an alcoholic?

Question

hi, i am 13 years old and have a mother who unfortunatly is an alcoholic do you have any advice what to do when she does drink, how to get her to stop and if i could become one as well (i hope not!) thanks in advance.

my father and i have tried helping her, most of my family members have tried to help. Just yesterday she finnaly said that she was done drinking but today she is not keeping her big promise. Thank you for all the answer so far. I am going to research the al-anon thank you for all the support.

Answer 1

Wow, that's heavy. Have you tried speaking to a school counselor? That's the route I would take. I think you're smarter than to start drinking yourself, after having seen what alcohol has done to your mother. Where's your dad? Have you tried talking to your mom? Perhaps if you get an authority figure involved, she might take things much more seriously. I hope this helps & I wish you lots of luck.

Answer 2

My daughters father is an alcoholic, 3years sober. When my daughters were your age he drank all the time, as well as drove drunk. They are 24years old now and the question of them being alcoholics is something we have discussed many times. Since they have a strong family history on their fathers side of drunks, I raised them to keep in mind that they had a good chance of becoming one. I guess time will tell but neither drink very much and neither drive if they have had a drink. But I believe its a family disposition and that they need to be observant of the symptoms.

There is nothing you can do to help your mom stop drinking, it has to be her alone. You need to start attending Al-anon meetings, look them up on the computer. Ask your school counselor about them, or your minister(if you have one). Its really important that you get the tools to learn to cope with your mother and not enable her. You need to enlist another family member who will help you and be your support. Grandparents, aunt/uncle, adult cousin, sibling, or where is your father in all this?

I am afraid you are going to have to tell them that you cannot control your mom's drinking and its frightening you and you need help.

Good luck to you, and remember that your mom is not you, you will not become her.

Answer 3

I agree that it would be a good idea if you could attend some Al-Anon meetings. You can even call AA (Alcoholics Anonymous) and they'll get you in touch. Al-Anon is for the family members of alcoholics, so you'll be around people that understand and can help you with what you're feeling. It is a terrible disease and no matter what you do, she will want to quit for herself. The meetings will give you some peace of mind and to know that you're not alone. You don't have to suffer in silence.

Answer 4

You empty clear the house of alcohol, and when shes sober talk to her about it, how disappointed you are etc. How you deserve a full time mom, and that she needs to seek help, go to meetings with her, do things together and alleviate some of the burdens like do more chores etc. When she drinks take pictures or video tape it then show her when shes sober what you see..........

Answer 5

I feel your pain, and I want you to know there is nothing you can do. It is up to her and honey its a hard disease. I want you to go to an alanon meeting. Its for the kids of drinkers, and boy does it help a kid to understand this stuff, and it keeps you on tract and gives you ways to help your mom. the alanon meeting is in the phone book, or ask your school counselor for the location of a meeting. I'm praying for you and I'm proud of you, your great. I mean it.

Answer 6

everytime she buys alchol...tell her not too...do not be around her when she drinks..walk away...my mom dad both drink but they r not alcoholic