My guy and I were hanging out in my car tonight after I got off work. We were pretty much just cuddling and that, but a couple times he made subtle hints that he wanted me to je*k him off. The reason I say I'm confused about this is because he's had some crap going on right now, and he said he didn't want to do anything physical with me anymore until he was ready. I asked him if he REALLY did, and all he said was that I didn't have to do anything I didn't want too. I would have if he would have given me a straight yes, but I didn't want to do anything that would cross his boundry. Why did he keep hinting that he wanted me too, and then not let me?
2007-06-19 17:59:07 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Have you ever seen someone about to make a bad move in a chess game and you ask them "Do you REALLY want to make that move?". The person realizes that perhaps he's making a wrong move and backs off to reconsider. That's what happened with you and your guy. He's just a normal guy who wants his girl to give him some pleasure. Whack off or even a bl-w j-b. Nothing complicated. But he respects you too much. When you asked "Do you REALLY want that?" he thought you didn't want to. So he says don't do anything you don't want to. All that other stuff about boundaries is because he doesn't want you to think he just cares about sex . Actually, he wants some action badly. But he cares about you too much to rush you.
2007-06-19 18:21:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, did he actually say don't do it after he dropped the hints? It all depends on what was said exactly. If he didn't actually say he DIDN'T want you to do it, then that is one thing, and it obviously means he isn't ready.
If he dropped the hints, but then simply said, "I don't want you to do anything you don't want to do." That is the respectful way of saying, "I would never force you to do anything you aren't ready for, but I would really like you to do _____ "
He was probably a little nervous about it and didn't want to just come out and ask.
Again, like I tell everyone I answer on here, you must talk about it because otherwise you are just speculating. Communication is key to every relationship, and it's especially key when it comes to the sexual part of your relationship because each person is their own when it comes to how they feel about sex.
2007-06-20 01:07:42 · answer #2 · answered by John H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you both are a bit confused. He's not sure what he wants. You'll need to sit down with him and let him know you want to help him through "this "crap" he's going through lately. Let him know that you can't read his mind..but you've felt uneasy since tnight after work, wondering why he was hinting around to do that, after saying he doesn't want to fool around at all til he figures things out..
He can't continue playing these games with you and your heart..and he's right..You Don't have to do anything you don't want to so always remember that~*
Sounds like he needs some space to figure out what he wants in life. Best wishes*
2007-06-20 01:15:47 · answer #3 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your guy has some Psychological issues. maybe you should ask him for a straight answer. Or else you'll just keep shooting in the dark.
2007-06-20 01:04:34 · answer #4 · answered by Evangeline 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he has some sort of STD.....? Its kind of out there but if he did he didnt get them from you. Maybe he wants to let you go but likes the sex..... why buy the cow when you get the milk for free.
2007-06-20 01:36:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im pretty sure he wanted it, but since he had told u he didnt wanna do anything physical, im betting he was trying to make it seem like he was sticking to that rather than flat out saying "yes i wanna hand j". hope that helps.
2007-06-20 01:03:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mind game...........u have to find the missing puzzle piece which seems to be missing there, for me to be able to figure this one out, i can't, cuz thats something you need to ask him about and not let the conversation go till he gives you a clear answer ..............Good luck..
2007-06-20 01:04:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if this young man is not your boyfriend,then you need to let
him get on with his life.,when he ready to make that move
he will. i would give him the space that he need, and go
from there. dont rush anything , other wise you might be
the one that get hurt,
2007-06-20 01:05:07 · answer #8 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it was his hormones taking place. i think he really didnt want to but when he wasnt in the position how could a guy refuse
2007-06-20 01:07:57 · answer #9 · answered by Somebody 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
must have wanted u to be aggresive,where are u from,e-mail me
2007-06-20 01:12:06 · answer #10 · answered by mmmlong10 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋