My 19yr old brother and his GF of the same age got pregnant after knowing each other for 5days!! They are both highschool drop outs, with no jobs, no car, no place to live and no money. She is 7mths pregnant and they have moved 9times. My brother and her plan to live in a bedroom at my mom's or her fathers with the baby and let it sleep in a dresser drawer. I am a single 21 yr old female living with my bf of a year with a full time job part time online college and a job i have had for a year. In my home I have plenty of room for the baby and I want it in a stable enviroment.
2007-06-19 17:54:17 · 6 answers · asked by twohott4u00 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
No unfortuantely you have no legal rights, you can always offer to babysit to minimize the amount of times the child is with the parent. If you have plenty of room for the baby you could offer for your brother and the mother to live there so you can also monitor what goes on.
2007-06-20 03:51:06 · answer #1 · answered by jmay219 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There will be alot of money involved in you trying to get custody and there is no basis yet for removal, the child isnt even born yet but really think about this, your heart is in the right place but you'll be enabling there irresponsible behavior, also you are young too with so much going right for you, talk to them and your boyfriend, see how everyone feels and start off with you only having the child 2-3 times a week, a child is lot of responsibility plus think how this will effect your life and schedule, and also is your boyfriend ready for this, you live together, its a life changing decision and he should be included in making it. You need to really think this out, also they have to step up and be parents. You are wont be helping them or the child in the long run, plus are you ready to be a mom to this child from the moment its born till atleast 18, 24 hrs a day 7 days a week, maybe you are but it isnt your child, be a good loving supportive aunt not its mom eventhough the child will prob see you as such, plus it sends a wrong message to the parents, like yes go ahead have cute kids, ill take care of them for you and you keep living it up-
2007-06-19 18:25:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are 21 dear. Do you realize how much it costs to raise a child. I know you have the best intentions. You may not like my suggestion here goes anyway. I would suggest she put the baby up for adoption. There are so many mature stable married couples that could give the baby a fighting chance. My son and his girlfriend who were lacking in stability and maturity let there baby be adopted out. Would I have loved to hold and love another grandchild? Yes! He was 2 this month.
I am very proud of you for continuing your education and one day to marry your boyfriend and when mature enough start your own family....
2007-06-19 18:07:10 · answer #3 · answered by Cinnamon 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Darl...have you any idea how many problem this may cause? It can divide a family. Talk to them about adoption, there are so many couples out there who earn plenty of money, who can provide a loving home, who desperately want a child yet sadly are unable to have their own. You are so young! I was 20 when I had my first baby and as much as I love my little boy I wished I had have waited. Your intentions are good, you have a wonderful heart wanting to take the baby so they can still know him/her and so the baby can have a better life but think of yourself first.
2007-06-19 18:30:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
But its not yours. You may have plenty of room at home, but you have no time and you aren't married either.
You have no right to this child, it belongs to someone else. You need to look at why you think this kind of complication is a good thing for you and what exactly you are running away from. You don't have any more stability then they have and if you really cared, you'd be talking them into putting that child up for adoption.
2007-06-19 18:47:56 · answer #5 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you live in the U.S...
You've said nothing that would be a valid reason for the court to remove custody from the parents and award it to someone else.
Apparently they are going to have a place to live--at your mother's or her father's. As long as the child has the basic necessitates--shelter, food, clothing, etc--(even if someone else such as a grandparent is providing it) and is not being mistreated, the court will not remove custody from the parents.
2007-06-19 18:23:39 · answer #6 · answered by kp 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋