why am i mad??

Question

My ex girlfriend and i have been talking and going out together since march of 2003.

We break up and get back together the reason beign distance we live in different states and school and everything else.
There was a time in our lives last year were we both went our own ways and had other people in our lives.
i got someone pregant . earlier this year my ex girlfriend and i got to talking again i loved her and we were trying to work things out. When i told her about gettin the girl pregant she flipped and thought i did it to hurt her. AND WAS MADD BECAUSE I DIDNT TRUST HER ENOUG TO TELL HER EARLIER.THE GIRL ENDED UP LOSSING THE BABY.
we worked through that. but when she told me that while me and her were apart she and her ex. the guy she was dating before me who treated he rlike sh*t went out for lunch i went crazy and hurt. IT HURT ME MORE THEN ANYTHING . SHE SAID SHE WANTED TO be honest and tell me. that she was lonely and was attratcted to him. im still madd at her for this.

i know that i was the one that was dishonest and gt someone pregant. But it hurt me to think that she was even breathing the same air as this man who had degraded her so much. and i was the one who had to pick up the pieces. am i wrong for being madd?? or should i just get over it?

but we really love each other im in love wiht this girl.

Answer 1

it's understandable that you're mad at her cause you genuinely love her, but you should try to get past it. i mean honestly you both did something wrong. i don't blame either of you for being mad at each other but if you guys truely love each other you both can get past either situation. i mean you two been together since 2003 ! do you really wanna end it like this & get angry over something like that? if you truely love her then work things out & get passed this. it seems like you two have been through a lot & been able to get through whatever comes your way so this is no different. this is only making your relationship stronger. i definitely gotta give you guys props for the comittment. but anyway work things out, things will be okay. stay strong & follow your heart. best of luck to the both of you [=

Answer 2

Well you both went your separate ways bro; and when you were apart: life happened. You were both dishonest because you were both getting used to your new lives. You mostly forgot about each other for a short while, then didn't want to overwhelm each other with the harsh truth so you lied... But to honest with you, it sounds like you're pretty much made for each other since you can't get over each other. Kiss and make up, you'll both be happier! Good luck man.

Answer 3

You should try to get over it and move on with your life. Long distance relationships are extremely hard to do. And it's going to be even harder for you and this girl. Since yall have already ventured out into dating other people. So, my advice is either you live closer together(same state and city), or forget about each other and move on with your life. Life is too short to be going through this kind of crap!

Answer 4

Get over it. You BOTH did some stupid stuff...-But if you REALLY still care about each other- you'll call it "even", & move on with your relationship. The Past is not going to change. But you both can share the Future together-if you're honest with one another & take the trouble to pay attention to each others feelings. Good luck.

Answer 5

I think that you should just get over it and keep talking to her. Because if the feelings are there for the both of you guys then you all would get back together. Its all about forgiving. I know its going to be hard to forget, but you have to remember that both of yall made mistakes and hopefully yall both can get pass it. I know it hurts to think about your ex being with her ex especially if he treated her like crap. But maybe she was just expressing her anger and trying to do something to get back at you. Just give it time and if its meant to be it will be. Hope you feel better.

Answer 6

Face-it, women are evil creatures. Women will LYE, MANIPULATE, and are very UNTRUSTWORTHY beings.
When I was a young man this ole' guy once told me "we should go ahead and castrate you now,then we shouldn't have anything to worry about". At that time I really didn't understand what the ole' guy was saying. But looking back Now I realize: if a man never gets laid he has a tendency to look at things alittle different, but after that first experience that's all that he thinks about.
Sit back and watch your g/f. Take her actions mildly. Stay Cool, Calm and just sit back. Give her enough rope to hang herself and then you'll see who gets the last LAUGH.

Answer 7

She isn't your girlfriend...althought the two of you try time and time again, you aren't compatible...it is never going to work and both of you need to move on and go forward with your lives.

You have no right to be angry with her over what she does...it is her life to live, and you are not together, just as she had no right to be angry with you for the girl you got pregnant. (it takes two pople to get pregnant, by the way - stop laying the blame on your shoulders)

One of you needs to lose the other's number and not look back...in the long run, you both will be happier people.

Answer 8

you do need to move on..letting bitterness or jealousy in a relationship will ruin it again...BUT yea..damn right your angry...and its natural..It sucks either way....on both feet so to speak. But try to imagine you pain and the fact that she shares it from your end of things. Sit down with her put it all on the table....this is what i did wrong...this is what u did that hurt....this is where we need to go from here...then get there....alot of things are going to take place in relationships that will hurt..if you hold on to all of them...there will be no place left in your heart for love........this sounds so SUPER gay....but it worked for a friend of mine....he took a piece of paper and wrote on it "she cheated on me:" then he sat down ..delt with his emotions cried, kicked, screamed, and then tore the paper up and burned it....it was symbolic, but nonetheless, it worked for him.....try something,,anything to move on...but first dont deny that anger OWN IT..then move on with her..or alone....
good luck..I hope your love works out..its along time and after all of that..and she still chose to love you.......you are a lucky man....treasure each other for now.!!
peace.hope.blessings
RUE

Answer 9

You are probably mad because you still have feelings for her. The actions you both do will affect eachother because you both care about eachother even though you are no longer together.

Answer 10

to me it seems you both need to cut you losses and move on, both find new partners and leave eachother alone, it looks to me like she has just said this to hurt you because you got someone else pregnant, she has admitted shes still attracted to him so let her go and be treated like sh*t.