Maybe I've been rape?

Question

One night I sleepover my friend's house, coz no one at my house. She always bring her boyfriend home. The next day when I woke up, my door unlock and i dont wear any cloths. I remember, before i went to sleep i wore t-shirt and shorts. I felt dizzy. No one in the house, maybe they went to work. My thigh and my vagina were wet. What happen? Should i make a report? but i dont know what happen to me that night. Maybe my friend's boyfriend did it?...what i must do? i'm so scared

Answer 1

How long ago did this occur? When you woke up that morning, the best thing would have been to go immediately to the hospital and notify the police. Not only could they have determined if you had been raped but they could have tested you for any drugs in your system. It sounds like it's possible you could have been drugged with Rohypnol since one of the side effects is dizziness. Did you have anything to drink at your friend's house, and did anyone have access to that drink while you weren't paying attention? Did you feel unusually drowsy right before you went to bed?

Even if this event occurred several days ago, I would *definitely* still report it to the police and go to the hospital. Any DNA evidence would have been washed away when you showered, but they could still check for rape related trauma, such as internal injuries or tears. They could also test your system for the date rape drug, Rohypnol. And, you need to be tested for STD's and pregnancy.

I know you're scared, but you DO need to report it. Many rapes go unreported because women are scared or feel that it's somehow their fault, and that's why men get away with it. Whoever did this to you is counting on you not reporting it. Don't let them get away with it! It's not your fault, and you have absolutely no reason to feel ashamed! I would also talk to your friend AFTER you report it and are tested for what I mentioned above. Find out if anyone other than her or her boyfriend were in the house that night. Find out if she awoke any time during the night and her boyfriend wasn't in bed with her. If there's any possibility the boyfriend raped you, your friend needs to know what type of man she's dealing with. You may not be the first person he's done this to!

But, once you inform your friend about what happened, give her some time and space to digest it all. She may be disbelieving at first and feel defensive for him. Just give her some time, and in the meantime, take care of yourself.

I've posted a few links below concerning rape and the date rape drug. I'm so sorry this happened to you. I know you're terrified, but you MUST report it. You're in my thoughts and prayers.


http://familydoctor.org/online/famdocen/home/healthy/crisis/314.html

http://www.rapehelp.com/if-you-are-raped.html

http://www.medicinenet.com/script/main/art.asp?articlekey=21794

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Oh, I almost forgot - this is probably a long shot, but is it possible you DO have DNA evidence? What did you use to clean the "wetness" with that morning? Has it been washed already? If not, could they possibly get evidence from that, even though it's dried? I'm not sure, but it's worth a try.

Answer 2

Kiki, you should have gone to the doctor at that morning after you woke up. I believe its to late for you to complain now. But you can try talking to a cop if you wont feel embarrassed. You'd never know they probably have a record with that guy or they might find some chemical like chloroform that can knock you out. If you've watch King Kong movie is the same chemical they use to knock him out. I've seen same incident on TV they took a picture of them while they're naked. It's a true crime the guy works as a bartender They got caught though. But they victimized a lot of people. Next time just don't trust anybody.

Answer 3

You should be checked by a doctor and report it to the police if you believe you have been raped.

I am not blaming the victim, but would you not be safer staying at your own place even without anyone there if your friend has her boyfriend over every night.

Answer 4

These types of drug rapes are very common, the police are familiar with them. You are not alone, it happens alot.
Yes you should make a report.
I know you're scared, tell your parents.

Answer 5

Well, were you taking any drugs/alcohol?! You don't remember anything, hmmm....

Well I would file a police report and if you were actually raped, there could be genetic material traces in you that could lead to the culprit. The sooner the better...

Answer 6

There isn't much to report if you don't know what happened, or even if anything did happen. Were you drinking? Did you take any pills? If you were in a normal state, you would wake up if someone tried to rape you. If you were drugged or drunk, then there's no telling what happened. Next time, lock your door.

Answer 7

It sounds as if you may have been drugged and then raped. There is a good chance it was your friends boyfriend, but your friend may have also been involved. Talk to someone in authority and get checked out medically, in case of pregnancy or sexually transmitted disease.

Answer 8

You need to go to a hospital immediately and get checked. They should be able to find out if you were raped, and if the assailant left any seaman in your vagina, which would contain the assailant's DNA.

Answer 9

if it's already 24 hours after the incident then it's probably to late to make a police report and get a medical check,

Answer 10

It's strange. I think you should report to the police. I too feel that you have been raped.