how can i help someone who cuts himself?

Question

a really good friend of mine has a lot of problems. his parents are never home and when they are they don't care about him. he has drinking and smoking problems and now he cuts himself. the thing is that at school he's really normal but when he goes home he does all that stuff. so how can i help him?

Answer 1

Talk him into getting help. He needs to see a therapist/counselor of some sort. The best you can do is try to convince him to get help himself, 'cause if he doesn't want to get better, he won't. Good luck.

Answer 2

I had a friend of mine who was a cutter. I tried several times to get her to go to a psychologist, even suggesting that I go with her. She never went, her mother even knew that she did this and wouldn't do anything. I finally had to get myself out of that situation. My suggestion for you is to try and talk to him about his problems and see if he will seek help, offer to go with him if that will help. If that doesn't work then talk to his parents about it and see if they will do something, most likely they either won't believe you at first or they have seen the signs and didn't want to admit it was happening. If you need to talk to a counselor and have them talk to the boys parents. Next you need to make sure that you are in a good mental place because being in that type of friendship will be very difficult. Also just try and be the best friend to him as you can. Take him away from the situation that is causing him to hurt himself and put him in a situation that will make him happy, like to the beach (if possible), or to a movie or just a walk around the block to get him out of his house.

Answer 3

Yes you can. He must be suffering from a kind of depression where he misses his family. A kind of a person who likes people giving him some attention and being there for him. The first thing you can do is make him talk to his parents more and make them start caring for him. He needs care and attention from his parents. This is one of the best medicine to cure him.
Getting him off the drinking and smoking habit is the next best medicine

Answer 4

Hi Steph. I think your friend is depressed. Big time. He is cutting himself now, but it may turn into even more harmful acts later on. I would tell a teacher, guidance counselor, or your parents if you want to be a true friend. He needs help. You might feel like you are betraying him now, but you may be saving his life.

Answer 5

If you really want to help him tell the councelor at your school. They can take care of it from their. It's that simple, your a taddle tale, but if something happened you'd blame yourself for not telling. It's your choice good luck, i hope it all works out.

Answer 6

this person is in a lot of pain even if he won't admit it. he needs some counseling and some love. he is trying to create an escape for his pain, by cutting himself he feels like the pain will just ooze out. {my opinion}

Answer 7

if he wants help
get him help
don't try to force it on him

take it from a cutter
don't call the cops or put him in the hospital
it'll just make things worse

just love him
and let him know that you're there for him
talk to him
love him
that's the best thing you can do

Answer 8

you cant help him. You havent been through whats hes going through. Dont talk to him about it either cause is will piss him off really bad. If he wants to talk to you about it than let him talk and listen. All you can do is be a good freind

Answer 9

Go with him to get help, try to talk to him and show him that you care, and if all else fails, you need to tell on him. I know that seems cruel but this is serious and it could save his life.

Answer 10

I know you won't want to do this but in the end you'll be really happy im guessing your under 18 sorry im your not lol! but you should tell the cops and they can help him will put him in classes so he can learn all the harms of doing these!! dont call me a taddle tail and he would never know it was you please do it!!!!!!! good luck!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!