I've been seeing this guy for a month (btw we are intimite) and we talk almost every day (few minutes a day or so)... When he doesn't call for a day he apoligizes. We were talking yesterday (on the phone) and in the middle of our coversation he said he had to go because he was doing somethign and that he'd call me back "in a minute". That was more than 24 hours ago. What's the deal? Is that normal of guys to do when they like a girl or he is blowing me off? Should I call him?
2007-06-19 16:07:45 · 25 answers · asked by Girly 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That's not a relationship, its something else, you shouldn't be mad, you need to learn and move on. Guys do not do that when they like a girl, they are attentive and sweet. He is using you and you are making yourself available for the use and abuse. Do your thing, move on, if you continue this, make sure not to put your life on hold for him.
2007-06-19 16:12:29 · answer #1 · answered by SocialMariposa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on your age and commitment level. It's only been a month and you are sleeping with each other, so he is interested in you in that way, but maybe he could care less about what you have to say. Or maybe he had something else going on. Maybe you should call him and ask him how his day was.
On another note, I wouldn't be putting out for a guy after only a month, especially if we only talked for a few minutes a day.
If you think about it from a guys perspective, what reason does he have for showing much more than a casual interest in you--if you've already given him the goods.
I only say that because it seems like you should really trust someone before you are sleeping with them...and you are questioning him (perhaps rightly so) this early into the relationship.
I would simply call him to say hello and I would seek to slow down on the sex until I was sure that I could trust him.
2007-06-19 16:17:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
lol yeah it's normal for a guy to do that...they think girls like it when guys act like jerks or act cocky but they dont realize that when they act rude like that it can be a turn off. If he said he was gonna phone you back in a few minutes then he shouldnt have kept you waiting all that time unless he had some sort of an emergency. You were probably worried wondering why he never called you back meanwhile he is probably out with another girl or playing his xbox and not even thinking about you.
2007-06-19 16:11:30 · answer #3 · answered by deleted 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most guys don't like talking on the phone alot and after the first month it gets old. maybe he just got busy. If he doesn't call in the next couple of days I would assume he is blowing you off. It's up to you weather you want to call him. If you do I would make it casual and say you were calling to see if he wanted to do something this weekend if he says no or he is busy then I would leave it at that.
2007-06-19 16:15:34 · answer #4 · answered by nina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get ur self worked up over this maybe something happen and he could call back. Until u find out what happen don't get upset. But I myself hate it whenever someone say they're gonna call right back and never do it's a pain.
When u talk with him again tell him that u would like it if he said he's gonna call right back he would do so and if he's gonna call later or the next day say that too because u don't like waiting
2007-06-19 16:12:49 · answer #5 · answered by itspink22@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely say something important came up & he was just unable to give you a call. IF this is the first time it's happened, just cut him some slack! You don't know if it was something serious or what. Just give him the benefit of the doubt & wait to see what he says happened. It cold have been a family member orso,eone close or important to/him. I'm sure he has a good reason. Give him a chance...
2007-06-19 16:27:57 · answer #6 · answered by Sue C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My suggestion: wait for his call, keep your cool, do things you like, don't focus on this little detail.. he might have a good reason for this so just wait for him to tell you so.
I think you should not worry too much about it if he did this only once.. If this becomes a 'habit' then you can mention him calmly that you prefer he doesn't tell you he'll call you back if he can't make the call...
But stay smooth if it is not common :)
2007-06-19 16:14:53 · answer #7 · answered by Azucar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call him - to men 'a minute' could actually mean 'a day' - sometimes phrases like that are unconscious, he might not even realize there was a delay in your conversation. OR you could wait - if he doesn't call for 4 or 5 days, then I'd wonder what was going on...
2007-06-19 16:11:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right now I would give him the benefit of the doubt. Don't worry too much about it. You can either call him or wait it out. But when you do talk just ask him light-heartedly what happened? You don't want to get too heavy on the dude this early in the relationship.
2007-06-19 16:11:45 · answer #9 · answered by CHH 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would call him once, if he did not answer, do not call him again. He may just need a little time to himself, some men get scared if they spend to much time with someone. Give it a couple of days, If he does not call move on and be glad it was only a month.
2007-06-19 16:15:26 · answer #10 · answered by jennifer h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋