Here is a very controversial question for everyone here in the R& S Section….?

Question

You have a son/daughter that chooses to inform you that he/she is a homosexual
-OR-
You have a son/daughter that chooses to inform you that he/she is a murder, rapist, or pedophile.

My question to you is how you would treat your child upon receiving this information – would you continue to love and support them?

In the case of the murder, rapist, pedophile, would you turn them in?

Honest answers please.

In reply to “keri gee” –
I am appalled with the reading of your answer that homosexuality is a “lesser of two evils”. Your answer is a contradiction in it’s self.

No where in my question that multiple others have answered, did I ever state such a thing. You need to re-read my question carefully!

You missed the point of the question entirely and are the only one to state that homosexuality is an evil.

If I could, I would thumbs up the mass, but since I am still at level one, I am not able to do so.

You all have shown to me that a parent’s love for a child is an awesome thing, but that there is also the respect of others and though you will continue to love your child, that what is right within the law must be respected.
Bravo!

Answer 1

I would continue to love and support them.

If they had committed a serious crime then I would try my best to persuade them to turn themselves in. If they would not, I would turn them in myself.

I would seek to understand why the committed the crime, try to get them as much help as possible and get them an appropriate sentence.

While I would always love them I could not in good conscience allow them to remain free and be a danger to society.

Answer 2

This is probably one of the toughest questions--ever! I truly hope I never have to deal with it. I can tell you what I think and hope I would do but who really knows when that situation really comes what one would do.

First and foremost, you absolutely must continue to love and support them. This would be an extremely hard time for them, more than for you, and they need you now more than ever. I cannot imagine that you wouldn't. That does not mean that you condone or support their actions but you do love and support them. It also does not mean that you necessarily accept what they did as being OK or tolerable.

In the case of a murder, rape or pedophilia, someone has been gravely wronged and needs closure and justice. I would have to put myself in the place of the victim or the victim's family and see what I would want. Also, your child would NEED professional help to heal and you couldn't get them the help they needed if you covered up their crime. I cannot imagine the pains you would suffer for turning your child in but it would be the right thing to do.

Answer 3

If my child or step child committed murder, rape or was a pedophile I would turn them in. You have to think of other people who could be hurt in the future. I would explain to the child that I love him/her, but cannot condone or support their actions. It is my duty as their parent to ensure that others aren't hurt. I would not support the child by helping with the cost of lawyers and such. I'd still love them.

Homosexulality wouldn't be a problem for me. It might be uncomfortable at first until I got used to the idea. Parents have to change how they view their son/daughter.

Answer 4

No matter what I would love them. If they decided to be a slave to sin ,homosexual, hetereosexual or whatever, l would do everything in my power to bring them back to Christ. If they were a murderer,rapist, etc Yes I would turn them in for their own good and the good of my neighbor. If we dont we share in their sin. As a Christian parent it is our duty to raise up our children so they will not do any of the above. That is why you rarely see any of the above who were raised in a true Cristians home. Some yes but not many. Proverbs 22:6 Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it. Cap'n Arlo

Answer 5

I love my children, but if they are a murder/rapist/pedophile they must be turned in. The pain this would cause would be enough to kill me, but the guilt and sadness of knowing that my child and my failure to raise them correctly caused the death/trauma/loss of innocence would outweigh my desire to lie for them. You may not believe my answer, but since I have not had to make such a choice I can only say what I hope I would be strong enough to do.

Answer 6

I would be dishonnest if I told you I exactly knew what I would do, because we realy never know our reactions until something actually happens!

But what I'd hope to do and pray I would do, after a long gasp for air and putting myself back together, would be able to tell them I loved them. Of course I would still support them as a mother, but that doesn't mean I have to support their "new habit".
In case of murder, rapist ect. I don't know that I would turn on them but I know we'd have a talk and I'd probably try to convince them to either get help for that or turn themselve in. I couldn't just let it all be ok! ANd as parents we're here to guide our children to go the right thing, so I'd hope they'd trust me enough to do what's right with me supporting them all the way, with love and compassion.

Answer 7

if they are homosexual, then they are homosexual.

In the latter half, yes turn them in, I would go with them and continue to love them. And try to be there for them. Although I can't imagine them doing any thing so terrible as murder, rape or pedophile.

Answer 8

If a son or daughter of mine said he/ she was homosexual I wouldn't have to tell him/her that I dissapprove of that lifestyle. They would already know how I felt by the way I raised them. If the influences of the world was more powerful than the influence I had on him/her...shame on me. I guess there would be nothing I could do.

Same for the murder, rapist, pedophile situation. I will train my children so they know these things are not good. If my son/daughter killed someone and I knew it I would escort them to the police station.

Answer 9

Yes, I would continue to love my child.

Homosexuality - I would love them, but I would also let them know that I am firm on my belief that homosexuality is wrong in the eyes of God.

Murder - I would love them. Hopefully God will move him/her to repentance and he/she would turn him/herself in. After a while, I would have to turn him/herself in with hope of protecting society. This is such a vague situation though. It depends on the son/daughter's relationship with God at that time.

Answer 10

Yes, I continue to love them. I also let them know I do not condone what they are doing and inform them that God does not condone them.

Do I turn them in? Absolutely yes. In jail , I know they can not hurt others or themselves and may find mandatory counseling. I would still love them though and be there for support.