He has gone out with some of his friends tonight. I'm glad he is out with his friends. But I feel overwhelmed. How do I deal with going to work tomorrow? I don't want to smother him. I am overwhelmed with the thought that in 3 weeks he must leave again--and I can't see him for a while again.
2007-06-19 15:22:40 · 8 answers · asked by smiley 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Under the Family Leave Act I think that you can request time off on short term notice.
2007-06-19 16:04:05 · answer #1 · answered by Makemeaspark 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look on the bright side...... trust me..you will get the time you need, but I don't think that you will ever get over the fact that he will be leaving again. Just remember...this isn't the only leave that he will get. Though they seem far and few between, they army does allow them to come home a few times a year. I have many friends that come in on leave, and somewhere in those weeks of stay, they dedicate a good portion of that time to their parents. Trust me, let him go with his friends now, and he will spend time with you. If you still feel worried, just let him know that you want to spend time with him. Communication is the key to a mother-son relationship. It may not seem like they are listening all the time, but being a son myself.......i can tell you from experience that everything that mom says soaks in. We just have to feel 'detached from the nest' and pretend like we didn't hear:)
2007-06-19 22:35:13 · answer #2 · answered by acracker269 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just let him have his fun for right now, you to enjoy every minute that you can.. the overwhelmed feeling is nature, because his you son and you love him very much, but don't show him that your concerned..he knows that. I'm pretty sure his as overwhelmed as you are. smother him it's your right..take time off if allowed and be with him. and last pray with him for another safe return back home and i wish the best and he'll be there.
2007-06-19 22:38:37 · answer #3 · answered by olga p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this leave from basic or AIT?
My son is deployed to Baghdad right now. Count your blessings momma. Watch him, love him, enjoy him, but don't smother. He's here, stateside. He's ok for now. Don't worry yourself over what hasn't come to light yet. You'll have plenty of time for that.
Stay in the now. Stay in the positive. You want him to know he can come to you and that you can handle it. Your son doesn't need to be worrying anymore about you than our kids(adult kids included) naturally do.
Be the proud momma you are and the rest should fall into place. Trust me... they never forget home or their momma's.
2007-06-19 22:33:31 · answer #4 · answered by jelli 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure you're really proud of him. That's an amazing thing for a young man to do. And I can understand feeling disappointed when you've been looking forward to time with him and he dashes off to hang out with his buddies.
Young men are notoriously thick headed about such things. He may be completely unaware that you had thought you'd get to spend the evening with him. When he gets home (or next time you see him), ask him what things you can do as a family while he's home, and make clear that you need some of his time. I'm sure he just didn't think, and I'm sure, too, that he's eager to spend time with you as well.
Tell him how proud you are. I'm proud of him too.
2007-06-19 22:30:52 · answer #5 · answered by L H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First let me tell your son thank you for fighting to save the world!!!!
As for you, you have the right to worrie about all that your worrying about. I suggest that you do what feels right to you if you dont want to smother him then go to work. if you find its unbearable than leave early. most of all cherish your time with him cus you dont know for sure if hell be back. not to scare you but you have to concider this in your decisions.
2007-06-19 23:11:07 · answer #6 · answered by westley_foster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the sacrifice we give, our sons to the military. Take pictures, lots of them, of the two of you together. Write him and send him goodie boxes while he is away.
Our job is to give our children wings. Time to start letting go. It is a very hard thing to do.
If you need something to love, maybe he can help you pick out a puppy. I had two sons both now grown; now I have two dogs. The lap dog consoles me and the guard dog protects me. My sympathies in your feelings of loss.
2007-06-19 22:42:23 · answer #7 · answered by Spoke 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead an smother him with your love. My best wishes and prayers are with you and your brave son
2007-06-19 22:31:21 · answer #8 · answered by jean 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋