Recently, I had a job offer that was more money (25% + more)and promotion. Because of greed of getting more money than the original offer, I held back. Because of my mistake, the deal fell through and the employer hired someone else. This has been really bothering me. It has been nearly three months now and I can't get past this. I cannot even focus on my current job and my family. I don't know what to do. I feel like I missed out and it's bothering me beyond words. I have never felt like this before. Call it crazy, but I sometimes even get to tears. Help! How can I overcome this? How would you rank this in terms of a regretful life event? Thank you for your help.
2007-06-19 15:03:10 · 6 answers · asked by Hurting 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
It's called depression. At least you realize what you did wrong, and next time you won't make the same mistake. You are probably in a "mourning" period, but that's understandable. Instead of thinking about what you missed out ON, think about what you still HAVE - your family, your current job, etc. Overcoming it means forgiving yourself for your greed and count it as a learning experience. If your depression continues, you probably should see somebody, as depression can truly cause suffering and pain to you and your family - not to mention to the possible loss of the job you do have.
I wish you all the best!
2007-06-19 15:13:40 · answer #1 · answered by MystiSaint 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it sucks. It's one of those things you can never take back, and your life could be completely different had you made a different choice. BUT, you didn't make a different choice, so you're stuck with the one you did. I think your reaction is normal, but I don't think it's worth dwelling over for any longer. You made a mistake (possibly- who knows, maybe you would have been miserable there). Living with regret and in the past won't help you now. If I were you, I'd actively pursue a different position. Give yourself a reasonable time frame to do this. Don't make any promises to yourself that you'll definitely land a better job, and don't just take the first thing that looks good if it's offered to you. If after your time frame nothing comes of it, you'll know you made a conscious decision to try for more. By trying, you'll be able to get past the other job offer. Best wishes!
2007-06-19 22:11:31 · answer #2 · answered by elizabeth_ashley44 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Things like that often happen in life and you have no control over it,its normal to be feeling regretful about it,i know its hard but you just have to learn to accept it and move on.Dwelling on it is not gonna help at all.
Think about it,its not worth letting this affect your life when you could actually choose to accept it and move on.One door opens when another closes,but its up to you whether or not do you want to walk towards the open door.
2007-06-20 00:18:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
regrets we all have them.my brother always said everything happens for a reason.you still have a job,a house,a husband,a family.you have your health and your friends and your mind.you are blessed! money is not everything,if its meant to be and comes your way again then perhaps then you should accept the offer.you can always call and let them know you would be interested should that position or another would become available again.good luck.
2007-06-19 22:18:17 · answer #4 · answered by dixie58 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately you're just going to have to deal with it. I'm really sorry but there is nothing you can do but accept it and move on. What can I say, we always learn the herd way hey? Just try to focus on the good things in life.
Best of luck :)
2007-06-19 23:07:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pure Karma, If it was meant to be it would have happened.
2007-06-19 22:11:47 · answer #6 · answered by Grumpyoldfart 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋