I've made some bad decisions in my life that has definately shaped me into the person I am today. I have lost many "friends" as my decisions decided to turn against me. This boy, i'll call him "jack", has been by my side the entire time, wiping my tears and standing up for me when everyone else was afraid to. He's the one i can honestly say is a true friend, and I love him dearly. Anyway, after 3 years, we decided to start a love-relationship. My parents are not convinced that we love eachother, and thus do not approve of him or the relationship. I have broken up with him to satisfy my parents, but yet i've been sneaking around to see Jack, which i know is wrong. My question is, do i leave Jack, whom has been my shoulder through my hardest times just to please my parents, or do i put up a fight for him?
2007-06-19 14:31:28 · 11 answers · asked by Clarice H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First, you have not stated your age.
Second, you have not said if you live at home or have your own apartment.
If you are still living with your parents in their home, you must obey your parents unless they do something putting you in physical danger.
If you wish to continue to see or date Jack you must remove yourself from your parents home and be completely on your own. Until then you are under the direct supervision of your parents.
This may not be your most popular answer, but it is the right answer. You must always honor and obey your parents unless they are doing something that is physically harmful to you as long as you are living under their roof.
Your heart tells you to be with Jack but under the circumstances you can not do so.
Sorry
2007-06-19 14:45:31 · answer #1 · answered by pinelake302 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find it difficult to believe your parents want you to break up just because they're not convinced you love each other ( as if that was a requirement for allowing you to go out with someone). I suspect there's a deeper reason which you have neglected to reveal. That's okay, too...I'm sure you have your reasons, and I'm equally sure you know the real details of what you're facing. Use those details to make an informed assessment of your relationship and decide what to do based on what you know to be true. Parents don't usually reject daughters' boyfriends on such a flimsy basis.
2007-06-19 21:46:54 · answer #2 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Neither. You need to start talking to your parents.Start off by writing it all down, about what bothers you and understand they are a better judge of character than you are.They see things you don't see because you are confused with emotion,lust and fantasy.They will read what you have to say before they will hear all you have to say, so leave the letter in a place you know they will find it and give them time to read it all.This will open a door for communication.After seeing all the girls in here who are unmarried with kids and chasing guys like they're still single virgins and no responsibilities, you'd do well to listen to them and TRY to understand their point of view.
2007-06-19 21:38:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
if you want to have a long and good relationship you need the aprove of your parents but if he is a really good boy and has been your friend for three years ask your parents why youll cant go out if he is such a good boy as you describe him..
of course if your older than 17 ....convice your parents to let you go out with Jack
2007-06-19 21:38:32 · answer #4 · answered by Fernanda2cute 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, think of it this way:
You only live once, you'll never be where you are now again. What's the point in not being with Jack if it's to please your parents? Don't rebel against them and dye your hair green and mauve, but if you're in love, let the love flourish.
2007-06-19 21:35:29 · answer #5 · answered by z man11 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since when do anyone's parents know sh*t about how their children feel. (it's annoying how they think they know everythng about you, isn't it?) Go with how you feel. Jack seems like a good companion, and it's not your problem if your parents are too blind to realize that. It's good to listen to your parents and respect their opinions, but you can't let them control your life.
2007-06-19 21:41:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Listen to your parents.
God did not put them here just to pay the light bills and cook fried chicken for you.
They were also put here to give you advice and COUNSEL.
You said you made a lot of mistakes in your life.
75% + of the mistakes you made could have been avoided if you had listened to your MOM and your DAD!
LISTEN TO THEM! Do what they tell you. You will NOT regret it.
2007-06-19 21:37:02 · answer #7 · answered by NC_Pianist 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
How old are you? That makes a difference...but if you are living at home and still a minor, I'd recommend you listen to your folks. They aren't totally ignorant to the ways of teens and there's something in this situation they see, that you have blinded yourself to. Trust their experience and maturity.
2007-06-19 21:40:31 · answer #8 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
FOLLOW UR HEART!! ur luckie to hav someone to love u and be there for u and dont let him go.
~Blair~
2007-06-19 21:49:41 · answer #9 · answered by . 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm... your parent's don't really understand you and jack, so go with the heart
2007-06-19 21:34:48 · answer #10 · answered by Pyro-Man 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋